Hey Doc—

If you're looking for an au pair right now and wondering whether all the good candidates have disappeared into thin air, you're not imagining it.

I've had several physician moms ask me how I find au pairs when the agency websites seem completely picked over. And since I'm currently searching for a new au pair myself, the timing felt perfect to pull back the curtain on exactly how I do it.

This is not a conversation about choosing an agency or comparing program fees. This is about creating a process that keeps you organized, efficient, and significantly less likely to lose your mind during the search.

Because if you're anything like me, you already have a career, a family, and approximately 47 other responsibilities. Spending hours scrolling through profiles only to forget who you've already contacted is not the best use of your time.

In this episode, I'm sharing the system I built during our last search, the one that helped us find an amazing au pair who stayed with our family for years. You'll hear why I start outside the agency apps, how I organize candidates, where I actually find people, and the simple preparation that makes the entire process smoother.

In this episode, I discuss:

• Why the au pair apps may not be the best place to start your search
• The simple organizational system that keeps candidates from slipping through the cracks
• How I use Facebook groups strategically without getting trapped scrolling for hours
• What information I track for every candidate
• The message template that saves me time and helps start conversations quickly
• Why preparation matters more than most people realize

Finding childcare support shouldn't feel like a second full-time job.

A little organization on the front end can save you hours of frustration later.

🎧 Listen now and let me show you the system that's making my current au pair search much less painful.

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Hey Doc,

Were you taught that patients lie?

I was.

Somewhere during training, the idea got planted that our job is to uncover the truth because patients won’t always tell it. Then I became an attending and started experiencing it myself.

You spend twenty minutes counseling a patient. You draw diagrams. You answer questions. You document everything.

Then somehow…

“Nobody explained that to me.”

“The doctor never told me.”

“I never saw the doctor.”

If you’ve ever walked back to your office wondering whether you’re losing your mind, this episode is for you.

What surprised me is that it wasn’t until I left traditional practice that I gained enough distance to see these situations differently. And recently, while helping run our HVAC business, I watched my husband experience the exact same thing physicians deal with every day.

A customer insisted he hadn’t been told something that had been explained multiple times.

Sound familiar?

In this episode, I’m talking about why these interactions can feel so demoralizing, why they contribute to resentment and burnout, and how a little compassion can sometimes protect you more than the other person.

Not because patients are always right.

But because carrying around the belief that it’s you versus them is exhausting.

In this episode, I discuss:

• Why “patients lie” may be one of the most harmful lessons we learn in training
• How being repeatedly questioned can create resentment and burnout
• The surprising parallels between medicine and running an HVAC business
• Why people often misremember conversations without malicious intent
• How documentation protects us when memory and perception don’t match
• The role compassion plays in preserving your career longevity

If you’ve ever felt unseen, misunderstood, or questioned after doing your absolute best for a patient, this episode is my reminder that I see you.

And I believe you.

🎧 Listen now.

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Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya

Hey Doc —

I finally had to sit down and record this episode because I keep talking about NotebookLM to everybody. My Facebook friends. My sisters. Random physician moms who probably just asked me one innocent question and suddenly got a 20-minute TED Talk about AI 😂

But seriously? This tool is one of the most useful things I’ve added to my life recently.

And if your brain already feels overloaded by medicine, motherhood, emails, meetings, MOC articles, school forms, endless tabs open on your laptop, and the 47 mental sticky notes floating around your head at all times… this episode is for you.

Most people know about ChatGPT or Claude. But NotebookLM works differently.

Instead of pulling random information from the internet and confidently making stuff up like a sleep-deprived intern on hour 26 of call, NotebookLM only works from the sources you upload yourself.

PDFs. Research articles. Website links. YouTube videos. Audio files. Google Docs.

That means:

• Less hallucinating • More accuracy • Actual citations you can click and verify • And a MUCH better experience for physician brains

In this episode, I’m sharing:

• Why I think physicians need to learn AI instead of avoiding it
• How I use NotebookLM for MOC studying and research
• The surprising ways I use it in my business and personal life
• Why this tool feels like having a research assistant who actually cites her sources
• How AI can create more time, ease, and mental space for physician moms

And before somebody messages me:

No, I am not using AI to cheat on my MOCs 😂

I’m using it the same way most of us already use Ctrl + F on giant articles because ain’t nobody trying to reread a 42-page paper after putting kids to bed at 10 PM.

This episode is really about working smarter.

Because physician moms do not need more guilt about efficiency. We need tools that help us protect our energy and our time.

🎧 Listen now if you’re AI-curious, overwhelmed, skeptical, or just tired of wasting time searching through massive documents like you’re auditioning for a detective show nobody asked for.

What did you think of the episode, doc? Let me know!

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If you are going through a transition -- becoming a parent, leaving a job, figuring out how manage it all, schedule a strategy coaching session and get clarity and strategic next steps for the life and career you want.

Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya