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Something Shiny: ADHD!

Something Shiny: ADHD!

著者： David Kessler & Isabelle Richards
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How many times have you tried to understand ADHD...and were left feeling more misunderstood? We get it and we're here to help you build a shiny new relationship with ADHD. We are two therapists (David Kessler & Isabelle Richards) who not only work with people with ADHD, but we also have ADHD ourselves and have been where you are. Every other week on Something Shiny, you'll hear (real) vulnerable conversations, truth bombs from the world of psychology, and have WHOA moments that leave you feeling seen, understood, and...dare we say...knowing you are something shiny, just as you are.2021 Something Shiny Productions 個人的成功 心理学 心理学・心の健康 自己啓発 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • SUMMER REPLAY: What Systems Believe ADHD Looks Like vs. Who You Really Are

    SUMMER REPLAY: What Systems Believe ADHD Looks Like vs. Who You Really Are
    2026/08/12

    If you have ADHD, there's a good chance somebody labeled you before anybody actually saw you. Maybe you were the kid making commotion, so everyone knew, and what they knew was that you were a problem. Maybe you were quiet about it, so nobody knew at all, and you disappeared to the nurse's office for your second dose wondering why none of your classmates had to. Different labels. Same miss.

    This one is a four-brain conversation. David and Isabelle are joined by Bobby, Isabelle's husband, and Ashley, David's childhood friend, diagnosed in fourth grade back in 1994, when almost nobody was talking about this, and definitely not about girls having it. What she says about how differently the same brain gets read depending on who's wearing it, and what David admits about the messages he grew up hearing, goes somewhere none of them planned.

    This episode is part of the Something Shiny Summer Replay series, where David and Isabelle are pulling some of their most powerful episodes back into the feed. If you've heard this one, it's worth hearing again. If you haven't, it might be exactly the one you need. Either way, your brain gets something to hold onto this summer.

    In this episode:

    • Why boys with ADHD get caught and girls get missed, and what each one costs
    • The reading struggle almost nobody connects to ADHD, and why audiobooks would have been a game-changer
    • The familiar-music trick for focus, the one rule that makes it work, and why it does nothing for David
    • David's anchor memory demonstration on Isabelle, live, mid-episode, and what it unlocks
    • Why kids who aren't white get conduct disorder labels instead of ADHD diagnoses
    • The Spokesmanship Award, invented by a school entirely because of Bobby

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    Wait, What's That? Here are some of the terms and people mentioned in this episode explained:

    Eye Tracking Issues A real, physical piece of ADHD almost nobody talks about. Impulsivity jumps you to the wrong word or the wrong line. Attention drift has you thinking about whether the fridge is closed while you read the same sentence for the fourth time. If you've ever spent two hours on the same page, this is for you.

    Anchor Memory The thing David demonstrates on Isabelle in real time. She's convinced she remembers nothing from a college textbook. He asks smaller and smaller questions about what was physically on the page, and her memory opens up, all the way down to a cuneiform doodle she fell asleep staring at. Concrete details unlock what you could have sworn was gone.

    Response Cost Understanding the consequences of your actions later down the road. David's version: skip class because the homework isn't done, then skip again to avoid trouble for skipping, then a month is gone and the school has decided you have a behavior problem.

    Oppositional Defiant Disorder A clinical diagnosis marked by intentional conflict with authority, and it is not ADHD. David's distinction: an ADHD kid will fight tooth and nail for the Snickers bar, not caring who's in the way. An oppositional defiant kid fights the person because of who the person is. The episode gets into who keeps getting handed this label instead of an ADHD diagnosis, and why.

    "I Want To Meet Richard Dreyfuss" A real concept album by Gabriel Gundacker that Bobby listened to for two months straight, about a singer wanting to meet Richard Dreyfuss. Find it on Spotify.

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    💬 What label did somebody put on you before they actually saw you? Leave a comment on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, we read them.

    🎧 Follow Something Shiny: ADHD for more conversations that help you understand your ADHD and remind you, you were never too much.
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  • SUMMER REPLAY: You're a Champion Shame Spiraler. Here's How to Retire.

    SUMMER REPLAY: You're a Champion Shame Spiraler. Here's How to Retire.
    2026/07/29

    If you have ADHD, there's a decent chance the way you motivate yourself is by beating yourself up. The internal spiral that goes: if I mess this up, no one's gonna like me, then I lose the job, then everything falls apart. It works, kind of. Things get done. So you keep doing it, and it costs you every single time.

    Here's what this episode gets into: that spiral is fuel. Shame turns into fear, fear speeds up your heart, and that jolt is the stimulation your ADHD brain knows best. Which is exactly why you keep going back to it. And it's also why you don't have to.

    David tells the story of a talk he gives every year, and the spiral that used to come with it: mess this up, lose the job, end up homeless. What he does now instead changes everything. He plans the freak-out. He times it. And when the nerves show up early, he has a line for them. Isabelle has a realization on air about her own spiraling that might be yours too. And Bobby, Isabelle's husband, is in this one, live in the middle of an understudy gig he has to memorize on his own, showing the whole thing actually works.

    This episode is part of the Something Shiny Summer Replay series, where David and Isabelle are pulling some of their most powerful episodes back into the feed. If you've heard this one, it's worth hearing again. If you haven't, it might be exactly the one you need. Either way, your brain gets something to hold onto this summer.

    In this episode:

    • Why beating yourself up feels like motivation, and what it's actually costing you
    • The jungle gym story from David's childhood that explains response cost, and why Isabelle's whole body reacted to it
    • What shame does to your heart rate, and why your brain keeps choosing the spiral
    • David's plan-the-freak-out system, including the line he says when the panic shows up early
    • How Bobby memorized a lead role scene by scene with no rehearsals and no self-beating
    • The three questions Isabelle lands on at the end, and why David says they took him 30 years

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    Wait, What's That? Here are some of the terms and people mentioned in this episode explained:

    Response Cost The part of your brain that understands the future consequences of your actions. David explains it through a childhood story about a jungle gym, a 15-foot jump, and a game of follow the leader nobody would follow. As a kid his brain never ran the math on what could go wrong an hour later. That's the deficit, and it's a very ADHD one.

    Shame vs Guilt David's distinction: shame is what you feel when other people can see it. Guilt is what you feel when no one can. His example involves peeing your pants in public versus in private, and honestly it makes the whole thing click.

    The Shame Spiral The internal escalation from one mistake to total catastrophe. Mess up the talk, lose the job, partner leaves, homeless. David maps his out loud, and Isabelle owns being a champion at it. The episode's whole argument is that the spiral is a stimulation source, not a character flaw.

    The Shame Horse David's name for the freak-out energy once you've scheduled it instead of fighting it. The shame horse is ready to go at the appointed time. Isabelle's translation: you time your shame horse.

    Simulation Machines Isabelle's term for what our brains are constantly doing: observing, comparing, and measuring ourselves against how the world, television, and everything we've read says a thing should be done. David's counter is the Norman Rockwell Christmas. Is everyone in Tucson doing Christmas wrong? They're not.

    Robin David's partner, who delivered the line that changed everything: you're not gonna clean a little every day, you're gonna freak out and do all of it the night before while I'm at work, and it'll be done. She was right. David stopped pretending otherwise, and it just gets done now.

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    💬 What's your version of the spiral, and what would it mean to retire from it? Leave a comment on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, we read them.

    🎧 Follow Something Shiny: ADHD for more conversations that help you understand your ADHD and remind you, you were never too much.
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    29 分
  • SUMMER REPLAY: You Don't Need to Stop Procrastinating. You Need to Get Better at It.

    SUMMER REPLAY: You Don't Need to Stop Procrastinating. You Need to Get Better at It.
    2026/07/15
    If you have ADHD, you've spent your whole life being told to stop procrastinating. And you've tried. But starting two weeks early feels like nothing. No pressure, no relief, no reward. Just the nagging sense you wasted an afternoon. So you wait. The deadline gets close, the stress kicks in, and suddenly you can work. You finish, you feel incredible, and then you beat yourself up for doing it the wrong way. Again.David's read: nothing here is broken. An ADHD brain needs a specific amount of stimulation to start a task, and a looming deadline manufactures exactly that. The threat is the fuel. The relief is the reward. Which changes the whole question. Not how do you stop procrastinating. How do you plan for it? How do you procrastinate more effectively? And when the pressure turns you into a monster, how do you give it a quiet place to go instead of pretending it won't show up?Isabelle's husband Bobby joins the conversation, and they share what happened the day they planned around Bobby's project stress instead of fighting it. Every argument they would normally have had just... didn't happen. No self-control required.A few minutes in, Isabelle goes quiet because this is suddenly applying to every area of her life. Fair warning: it might do that to you too.This episode is a Something Shiny summer replay, back in the feed while David and Isabelle take their break.In this episode:The difference between the task and the story you tell yourself about how it has to lookWhy doing the work early genuinely feels like nothing, and why the last minute feels like winningThe monster, and why the goal was never to stop being oneHow Isabelle and Bobby avoided every fight in a day without using an ounce of self-controlWhy Isabelle is done sitting through baths she hates, and what that has to do with how you've been told to relaxWhat David means when he says everyone with ADHD believes they're an imposter-------Wait, What's That? Here are some of the terms and people mentioned in this episode explained:Task vs Emotionality David's frame for the whole episode. The task is the thing you're trying to accomplish. The emotionality is everything you pile on top of it. Your assumptions, your fears, your beliefs about how it's supposed to be done. If the task is sweating once a day, the task is sweating once a day. It doesn't matter if you got there in a class, on a trail, or by hauling groceries up the stairs. Deciding it only counts one way is the emotionality.Wilfred Bion The psychoanalyst who developed the task versus emotionality idea back in the 1940s while studying how groups either focus or fall apart. David borrows it here and applies it to one brain instead of a room full of them.Self-Medicating with Emotion Why procrastination works. An ADHD brain needs a specific amount of stimulation to do a task. Anger, anxiety, and excitement all raise your heart rate, which means they all stimulate you. David compares it to a cup of coffee. Waiting until the deadline is close manufactures the stress, and the stress does the job.Delay of Gratification The part that explains why starting early feels so hollow. When you work under pressure, every step you take reduces the stress, so every step feels like relief. Do the same work two weeks early and there's no stress to relieve, so it just feels like you wasted an afternoon. Same work. Completely different reward.Extinction Burst A behavioral term for what happens when the thing that always worked suddenly stops working. David's example is the TV remote. You press the button, nothing happens, and instead of going to get a battery you press it harder, faster, at a new angle, pointed at a mirror. The escalation is the extinction burst.The Monster What an extinction burst looks like in a person. The fists, the stomping, the fury at a change you can't control. David's argument is that we all have one, that pretending otherwise is what makes it dangerous, and that the actual skill is planning for it and clearing the room instead of trying to shame it out of existence.Relational Trauma What builds up over years of watching everyone else do something easily that you cannot do. Your brain does not tell you there's too much stimulation in the room. Your brain tells you that you're stupid, or that you're not trying hard enough. That's the injury this episode is really about.Does cranberry juice prevent UTIs? Yes (and no). And one thing Isabelle learned on this internet rabbit hole: cranberry comes from "crane berry," named because the bilberry flower, when it withers, looks like the head and neck of a sand crane, a bird that feeds on the berries. Who knew? Full fascinating article here: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3370320/-------💬 What's something you've been doing the "right" way that has never once actually worked for you? Leave a comment on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, we read them.🎧 Follow Something Shiny: ADHD for more conversations that help you understand your ADHD and ...
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    19 分
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