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Have you ever gotten a weird text from a friend and immediately thought, Is she mad at me? Or had her cancel plans and suddenly convinced yourself she’s pulling away?
Welcome to the stories we tell ourselves.
In this episode of Slightly Unsupervised, Jennifer and Jackie talk about what happens when we don’t have all the facts and our brains decide to fill in the blanks. A delayed text becomes rejection. A canceled lunch becomes proof we don’t matter. A different tone of voice becomes evidence that the friendship is falling apart.
And before we know it, we’re reacting to a story that may not even be true.
Jennifer and Jackie get into overthinking friendships, assumptions, past relationship wounds, conflict avoidance, friendship insecurity, and why our brains are so good at turning missing information into an entire imaginary storyline.
They also share one simple question that might save a friendship:
“Can I tell you the story I’m telling myself?”
Instead of accusing a friend, asking everyone else what they think she meant, or quietly deciding the friendship is over, what if we simply gave her the chance to tell us what’s actually going on?
In This Episode:
Why our minds fill in the blanks when something feels different [01:14]
Have we been overthinking friendships since grade school? [01:59]
How past hurt can follow us into new relationships [04:14]
When a friendship changes and we automatically assume we did something wrong [05:21]
Learning to laugh at some of the stories we create in our heads [06:40]
The question that could save a friendship: “Can I tell you the story I’m telling myself?” [07:15]
How to bring up a problem without immediately putting your friend on the defensive [08:22]
Why you have to be willing to discover that you were wrong [10:08]
Why you might NOT want to ask another friend what she thinks happened [10:41]
Giving people the benefit of the doubt—and a little grace [12:01]
Do you usually ask or assume? [13:06]
Why women overthink friendships [13:54]
The biggest mistake we make when we’re hurt [14:59]
One question that can help save a friendship [15:31]
Why assumptions feel like facts—even when they aren’t [16:13]
If you’ve ever replayed a conversation, analyzed a text message, wondered why she hasn’t called, convinced yourself someone was mad at you, or created an entire friendship crisis in your head without actually asking the other person what was going on—this episode is for you.
Our minds are incredible storytellers. Sometimes those stories protect us. Sometimes they prepare us. And sometimes they quietly steal relationships that never needed to end.
So before you decide she doesn’t care—ask.
Before you assume she’s angry—ask.
Before you convince yourself the friendship is over—ask.
Because sometimes a friendship doesn’t need all the answers. It just needs one honest conversation.
Follow Slightly Unsupervised wherever you listen to podcasts, leave us a review, and share this episode with the friend who has definitely received an “Are you mad at me?” text from you.
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