We’re joined by actors and longtime partners Mandy Patinkin and Kathryn Grody to answer listener questions about how to handle a family member who creates drama at get-togethers and how to set boundaries with loved ones. They also open up about their long marriage—the two times they separated, how they found their way back, and the best (and worst) advice that came out of it.

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We answer questions about a friend who can’t stop one-upping and the tensions around family gift-giving. We share follow-ups about family secrets and post-wedding blues, and bestselling author Elizabeth Gilbert asks, “How do we stop worrying when people we love make bad choices?” And Since-You-Askers weigh in: Do you enjoy getting texts from friends and family throughout the day—or find it annoying?

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We respond to a question about how to tell a 14-year-old the truth about being conceived through egg donation, and explore the ripple effects of family secrets. We also respond to a listener who’s unsure how to end a long relationship with her hairstylist, and why those breakups can feel so personal. And we hear your thoughts on our advice from episode 1. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: When it comes to being on time, what’s your view?

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We follow up on last week’s advice about dealing with a flakey friend. We also respond to a question about cheating and its effect on a friend group, and debate whether a husband should finally accept a trait his wife says she will never change. Since You Askers weigh in: Has dishwasher technique become a “loaded” topic in your household? Plus, even celebrities need advice — bestselling author and podcast host Mel Robbins asks us to help her through the one thing she cannot figure out.

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We follow up on last week’s advice about who should bear the burden of maintaining connections with parents. We also respond to questions about a group text that’s spiraling into harsh words; a friendship worn thin by years of last-minute cancellations; and a new mother who fears her husband isn’t bonding with their baby. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Would you tell a friend that their kids are behaving badly?

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In our very first episode of Since You Asked, we respond to a listener asking, “Should I make an effort to include my husband’s family in our plans, even if he doesn’t bother?” We also tackle a question about a couple who keeps having the same fights over and over. Since You Askers weigh in on the debate about whether to tell a friend if you think the person they're dating isn’t right for them. Plus, we react to stories about unsolicited advice that backfired.

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Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving it? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week two friends, Gretchen Rubin, bestselling author and happiness expert, and Lori Gottlieb, bestselling author and psychotherapist, team up to take on the everyday problems we all face. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they'll address it all with warmth, humor, and insight. Along the way, special segments like “Unsolicited Advice” and “Wisdom of Crowds” keep things fresh, and you’ll get the chance to weigh in too. Whether this show changes your life, or just makes you laugh, Since You Asked is here for you.

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