About the Guest

Louisa Hope survived the unthinkable during the 2014 Lindt Cafe siege in Sydney—and chose to transform that trauma into something powerful. Rather than letting the terrorist attack define her, Louisa's channelled her experience into genuine advocacy for others facing similar struggles.

Through her work with Victims of Terrorism Australia (VOTA), she's providing crucial support to terrorism survivors across the country. She's also founded the Louisa Hope Fund for Nurses, championing healthcare workers who've carried Australia through its toughest moments. Louisa's story proves that even our darkest experiences can become sources of hope, healing, and meaningful change for others.

Key Takeaways:

• Despite the trauma, Louisa emphasizes the power of gratitude and resilience in her recovery process.
• The episode discusses potential systemic failures in handling terrorism, such as the police response and the assailant being out on bail.
• Louisa advocates for recognizing and addressing PTSD and trauma, stressing the importance of seeking professional help.
• The role of community support and love in the healing process is a recurring theme throughout Louisa’s story.

Notable Quotes:

• "You know, this is the duplicitous double minded nature of the man. You know, one minute going to kill me, the next minute concerned that I have MS and I need medication."
• "I was absolutely active and keeping short accounts with God because I was not gonna go to God with a heart full of hate."
• "There is no formal apology. It's more like, oh, well, that was bad luck for you on the day that you were there."
• "Your fat saved your life." (A poignant reminder of unexpected outcomes from challenging situations.)
• "This event didn't just happen to us inside the cafe, it happened to our whole country, all of us."

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About the Guest

Tracy Hall: Tracy Hall is a marketing executive with over 25 years of experience. Known for her inspirational journey of resilience after falling victim to a notorious conman, she now dedicates efforts towards raising awareness about financial scams and fraud prevention. Her story was famously covered in the Australian podcast series, "Who the Hell is Hamish?", detailing her experience with one of Australia's most notorious conmen, Hamish MacLaren.

Key Takeaways:

The importance of trusting but verifying information in relationships, especially when money is involved.

Red flag indicators, such as lack of a digital footprint, that could suggest fraudulent intentions.

The emotional and psychological impact of financial scams on victims, including feelings of shame and mistrust.

Strategies for supporting someone who you suspect may be the victim of a scam.

Insights into the various personas and tactics used by scammers to exploit their victims.

Notable Quotes:

"I do believe that there are some emotions that can sit together concurrently. […] I don't believe, personally that love and deceit can exist in parallel." – Tracy Hall

"Trust but verify. So trust the person, but always verify, verify, verify." – Tracy Hall

"This is a part of my story. This is a part of the tapestry of my life now." – Tracy Hall

"If somebody that you're in a relationship with is asking you for your data, so your license or your passport details, or for money, then that is a huge, a huge red flag." – Tracy Hall

"In Australia, 30% of all scams and frauds don't get reported. […] And a lot of the reasons […] people are embarrassed, they're ashamed." – Tracy Hall

Resources:

• Tracy Hall: Author of the book "The Last Victim," which recounts her experience and recovery.

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About the Guest:

Meet Fleur Marks, the mindset coach helping leaders ditch burnout for breakthrough results. After spending over a decade in high-pressure advertising environments, Fleur made a life-changing pivot when her own health took a hit from the relentless overachiever lifestyle.

Now she's the go-to expert for leaders who want success without sacrificing their sanity. Fleur runs transformative training programs across industries and she's putting her hard-won wisdom into her upcoming book, "The Overachiever Reset." This conversation explores finding balance, redefining success, and why sustainable leadership starts with getting your mindset right.

Key Takeaways:

• Leadership involves not only guiding a team but also managing personal well-being to lead effectively and sustainably.
• Fleur Marks' pivot from advertising to coaching was driven by her health challenges and desire to create a lasting impact in leadership culture.
• The significance of building a personal support network, including therapists, coaches, and mentors, can enhance personal and professional growth.
• Understanding personal motivations and re-evaluating what defines success can lead to a more fulfilling career and life.
• Women's leadership programs address unique challenges for women in leadership roles, highlighting the need for balance and assertiveness in managing demands.

Notable Quotes:

1. "You have to be self full to be selfless." — Fleur Marks
2. "If your mindset as a leader is in a good place, you're a much better leader." — Fleur Marks
3. "You get 4,000 weeks in your life, and how are you using them?" — Fleur Marks
4. "I just started being enough and found comfort in knowing I was this wild person." — Fleur Marks
5. "It's more about impact. While I can." — Fleur Marks

Resources:

• Visit Fleur Marks' Website for more information on her coaching programs and upcoming book.
• Follow Fleur on LinkedIn and Instagram for updates on her work and thought leadership.

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About the Guest:

Dr. Jenny Brown is a highly respected clinical couple and family therapist with over 35 years of experience, specializing in family systems theory. She holds a PhD in social science and has dedicated her career to helping individuals navigate complex family dynamics. Dr. Brown is also an accomplished author and a key figure at the Family Systems Institute, where she contributes to training mental health professionals. Her work focuses on applying scientific theory to real-world relationship challenges, particularly emphasizing self-differentiation and emotional maturity.

Key Takeaways:

• Self-Differentiation is Essential: Emphasizes the importance of focusing on personal growth and emotional maturity to improve relationships with parents.
• Curiosity Over Reactivity: Advocates for a curious rather than reactive approach to family dynamics, promoting understanding and empathy.
• Avoid Triangulation: Highlights the pitfalls of involving third parties unnecessarily, urging direct communication in resolving conflicts.
• The Impact of Labels: Warns against labeling family members as villains or saints, encouraging a more nuanced understanding of individual behaviors.
• The Role of Feedback: Stresses the importance of offering constructive feedback without criticizing, fostering healthier communication patterns.

Notable Quotes:

1. "Being a parent is like trying to stand up in a hammock without spilling your wine."
2. "If there's a lot of conflict with parents, it's probably a sign that there's a lot that isn't worked out."
3. "I will not give advice until I've heard the best advice that they have to give themselves."
4. "Even messy relationships are worth having the experience of dealing with them."
5. "We can't have three steps to the perfect relationship to achieve in one week."

Resources:

• Jenny Brown’s Books: Amazon
• Family Systems Institute: Information and resources on family systems theory.
• Family Systems Practice Website: Offers insights into familial relationship dynamics.
• Parent Hope Project: Dr. Brown's program focusing on improving parental approaches.

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About the Guest(s):

Anne Gately is an advertising professional, author, speaker, and an advocate for melanoma patients. She has survived stage four melanoma, beating the disease thanks to revolutionary treatment. With a background in advertising, Anne now uses her platform to raise awareness and drive cultural change regarding skin cancer in Australia. She is also the author of Sunburnt: A Memoir of Sun, Surf and Skin Cancer, where she shares her personal journey and challenges the societal norms surrounding sun exposure.

Professor Georgina Long, AO, was mentioned as the joint medical director at the Melanoma Institute Australia. Known for her pioneering work in melanoma research, she has significantly contributed to advancements in immunotherapy, which has saved many lives, including that of Dr. Richard Scollyer.

Episode Summary:

In this episode of "She Wasn't Born Yesterday," Janet Evans and Jenni Woodhouse host the remarkable Anne Gately, who survived stage four melanoma in just 97 days. This episode dives deep into Anne’s compelling journey from her initial diagnosis of skin cancer to her interactions with renowned medical professionals at the Melanoma Institute Australia. Anne generously shares the emotional and physical challenges she faced while undergoing treatment and stresses the importance of skin cancer awareness and sun protection, particularly in a culture that has long idolized tanning.

Amidst discussions of skin cancer prevention and treatment advancements, Anne shines a light on the vital work of Professor Georgina Long at the Melanoma Institute Australia. This episode is a call to redefine cultural attitudes towards sun exposure and highlights the pivotal role of immunotherapy in saving lives. The conversation navigates through Anne's personal revelations, her advocacy efforts, and her mission to effect change within Australian society. Key insights include the importance of knowing your skin, understanding the cultural impacts of sun exposure, and the need for systemic change in attitudes towards tanning.

Key Takeaways:

• Anne Gately's incredible journey of defeating stage four melanoma underscores the transformative impact of immunotherapy.
• Cultural attitudes towards tanning and sun exposure need a significant shift to prevent harmful consequences like skin cancer.
• Skin cancer prevention is a lifelong commitment, emphasizing the importance of sun protection from an early age.
• The work of Professor Georgina Long and her team at the Melanoma Institute Australia is crucial in advancing skin cancer treatment and saving lives.
• Systemic changes in advertising norms and sports policies are necessary to change the narrative around sun exposure in Australia.

Notable Quotes:

• "Melanoma is preventable. I felt a lot of shame attached to being diagnosed with melanoma." - Anne Gately
• "Even at 40 plus fabulous, it's never too late to protect our skin from the Aussie sun." - Janet Evans
• "You can't reverse the damage that you've done… but you can make it worse." - Anne Gately
• "If you have a pain that wakes you up in the middle of the night… that's something that should be checked out." - Anne Gately
• "We need to bring about cultural change in order to have huge change in this issue." - Anne Gately

Resources:

• Book: Sunburnt: A Memoir of Sun, Surf and Skin Cancer
• Melanoma Institute Australia: melanoma.org.au

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Join Janet Evans and Jenny Woodhouse on She Wasn't Born Yesterday as they unpack how to find the right psychologist and what to expect from therapy. They explore different therapy styles, the importance of compatibility, and navigating personal biases.

Key Takeaways:

• The Importance of Compatibility: Finding the right psychologist involves more than credentials; the therapist-patient relationship is crucial for successful outcomes.
• Diverse Therapeutic Approaches: Over 240 documented therapeutic methods exist, underscoring the diversity and complexity in psychological care.
• Ethics and Influence: Psychologists hold significant influence and power, with a strict code of ethics guiding their practice to prevent potential harm.
• Labels in Psychology: Labels can be both beneficial and harmful, influencing diagnosis and the perception of mental health issues.
• Guidance to Seek Help: Visiting a General Practitioner (GP) can be an effective first step in finding the right mental health support and accessing mental health care plans.

Notable Quotes:

• "There's no psychology behind choosing the psychologist who's right for you."
• "That relationship with the counselor is extremely important."
• "A diagnosis can be the most significant thing people have ever heard in their lives."
• "If you're really not connecting, go somewhere else."
• "Listen to those outside voices if people are encouraging you to do so.”

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About the Guests:

Kathy and Ross Abraham are the founders of the Beautiful Crazy charity, which provides essential care packs to families experiencing the trauma of having a loved one in ICU. The charity was founded in memory of their son Jayden, who tragically passed away following an e-bike accident. They are dedicated to turning their personal grief into support and hope for other families facing similar situations. Their work has expanded to reach multiple hospitals across Australia, reinforcing their commitment to community support and engagement.

Key Takeaways:

• Turning Tragedy into Purpose: Kathy and Ross Abraham transformed the grief of losing their son Jayden into a charitable initiative aimed at aiding other families in similar situations through Beautiful Crazy.
• The Importance of Community Support: The episode highlights the significance of receiving support from unexpected places and how such gestures can inspire lasting positive change.
• Grief is a Continuous Journey: Kathy and Ross underline that grief does not have a set timeline and is a lifelong journey, impacting daily life and perspectives.
• Faith and Healing: Throughout the episode, the Abrahams share how their faith plays a crucial role in guiding them through their grief and in shaping the charity's mission.
• Extending Support Beyond Immediate Family: Ross and Kathy discuss how the loss of a loved one impacts extended circles, including friends and work colleagues, and the importance of nurturing these relationships.

Notable Quotes:

• "I've come to terms with myself that I'm always going to have a crazy mind…but you've got to admit I'm beautiful. I'm beautiful crazy, Mum." - Jayden Abraham
• "We made the decision to carry [grief] well. Beautiful Crazy is part of that; it brings hope and healing, not just for us as a family, but for others." - Kathy Abraham
• "When people find out why I was riding… it's amazing how many had lost children over the years. It's a space we’re in now, and we understand it." - Ross Abraham
• "Grief doesn't need to be healed. It's not looking to be fixed. It's part of our story." - Ross Abraham
• "For us, it was about making sure Jayden's legacy goes on. He loved community…it's us putting purpose to the pain." - Kathy Abraham

Resources:

• Beautiful Crazy Website: beautifulcrazy.org
• Beautiful Crazy Instagram: @beautifulcrazy_

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About the Guest:

Michele Ruyters is an Associate Dean of Criminology and Justice Studies at RMIT (Royal Melbourne Institute of Technology) and the founder and director of the Criminal Case Review Project. With a significant focus on wrongful convictions and miscarriages of justice, Michele has dedicated her career to the legal system, advocating for the innocent and examining the intricacies of criminal justice. Michele also set up the Bridge of Hope Innocence Initiative at RMIT, which scrutinizes miscarriages of justice by delving into cases from their origins and enlisting resources to factually establish innocence.

Key Takeaways:

• The presumption of innocence in criminal justice is often challenged by systemic limitations, human biases, and resource shortages.
• Wrongful convictions can stem from a variety of issues, such as withholding evidence, incorrect eyewitness accounts, and flawed defense strategies.
• Michele Ruyters's Innocence Initiative at RMIT goes beyond the courtroom to investigate the full scope of potential miscarriages of justice, aiming to factually prove innocence.
• High-profile cases like that of Kelly Lane highlight the impacts of media influence and gender biases on legal proceedings, challenging societal perceptions of justice.
• The legal appeals process is fraught with challenges that often make it difficult for wrongfully convicted individuals to achieve exoneration.

Notable Quotes:

• "After watching that documentary, I just realized that's what I want to do."
• "A mother involved… they think, okay, she took this the next step and accepted on that basis."
• "Our aim is to factually prove that the person is innocent."
• "It is never everything that is to be known about the case."
• "We have the good bare bones of a justice system, but there's not enough time and resources."

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