A listener asked a simple question: is there such a thing as Christian erotica? They'd done the research, found some authors, and sent the links.

But that's not really what they were asking.

What they were asking — what most of us are asking when we frame a question that way — is: can someone just tell me if this is okay?

Corey and Pam don't answer that question. Instead they go after the one underneath it — what does it mean that you need permission? What's the mechanism underneath erotica, Christian or otherwise? And what would it look like to actually examine what you believe rather than borrowing someone else's verdict?

Plus — the Song of Solomon is in the Bible. So what exactly are we arguing about?

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He does oral sex almost every time. Toys every time. Bondage, spanking, dirty talk — all things he pushed through because she wanted them. She agreed to reciprocate. She hasn't. Not once.

So is he being selfish for wanting more?

That's not quite the right question.

The real question is what the word return reveals about what's actually been going on. Corey and Pam unpack the difference between genuine generosity and giving to get — why they look similar from the outside, why your spouse can always tell the difference, and what a ledger does to intimacy over time.

Plus — what's her side of this? What does it mean that she said she would and didn't? And what would it take for both of them to stop keeping score?

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On this week's episode of SMR …

This week's episode explores the deep psychological patterns that influence marriage dynamics, focusing on our expectations, meanings, and self-awareness.

It offers insights into how understanding our shadow motivations and settling ourselves can foster healthier, more authentic relationships.

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