SWM 154 - Sex before marriage - when you remove covenant from intimacy. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.

In my last episode, I talked about how sex is an act of worship because having sex, the way God intended, gives worth to Him. It honours what He created by using it as He intended.

However, our society is doing its best to invert that by taking away elements of God’s plan so as to distort sex. To make it not something that’s worship and creative, but rather destructive to ourselves, to each other, and to society as a whole.

So, today we’re going to explore sex outside of marriage, or what happens when you remove the covenant from sexual intimacy.

And to be clear, the legal status of the relationship is not the big problem here. It’s the intentional lifelong monogamous commitment to each other. Arguably, many marriages in the Bible are considered marriages simply because they had sex. However, sex is meant to seal a covenant, not substitute for one.

Links in this podcast episode:

• Marriage Coaching
• Speak at an event or church
• Article as a PDF (without mention of UncoveringIntimacy.com
• Podcast mp3

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SWM 153 - Sex as an act of worship. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.

The other night, after my wife and I had sex, we were lying there in that sweaty, happy pile you end up in when the oxytocin kicks in. As I often do, I asked her what she was thinking about. She’ll tell you I probably ask that too often, because I’m endlessly curious about what’s going on in her head.

Her answer surprised me. She said, “Sex is an act of worship.”

I asked her to explain, and she said, “Well, everything we do should be for God. And since you’re the head of the household, just as Christ is the head of the church, then giving myself to you, serving you in this way, is like serving Christ.”

That surprised me. I mean, I’ve taught before that sex is about more than physical release - that it’s for procreation, for bonding, for comfort, for recreation, even for warding off temptation. But I don’t think I’ve ever described it quite this way: as an act of worship.

So let’s unpack that. What does it mean that sex - sweaty, messy, joyful sex - could actually be worship of the God who created it?

Links in this podcast episode:

• Marriage Coaching

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June - August 2025 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• My wife’s nightclothes are killing my attraction
• Is using a vibrator wrong?
• How do I get my husband to initiate sex?
• Need something to spice up our sex life
• How does scent factor into spouse selection
• Recovery after pregnancy
• Is using classical conditioning on your spouse wrong?
• How do I keep myself from becoming distant from my husband?
• How can I talk to my husband about oral sex?

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Have a Question (form)
• Join the supporter's forum (donate)
• Manual Sex & Masturbation Survey
• Becoming More Sexually Engaged (webinar)
• Why masturbation is a problem whether you're married or single (blog)
• Sexploration List
• Marriage Coaching

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