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SEX WITH ADHD

You're in the middle of sex and somehow your brain wanders off to grocery lists, Hamilton the musical, or the ceiling fan clicking. Then the shame kicks in. If that's you, this episode is going to change how you think about it completely.

Heather sits down with Cate Osborn, ADHD content creator, sex educator, and best-selling author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, to break down what ADHD and neurodivergence actually have to do with sex and intimacy. Spoiler: everything.

They cover why the ADHD brain treats sex like just another series of tasks (same as making a sandwich), why kink might be the most naturally ADHD-friendly toolbox there is, how executive dysfunction shows up in the bedroom, the surprising links between ADHD and erectile dysfunction, orgasm difficulty, and hormonal shifts, and, for partners of someone with ADHD, where explanation ends and excuse begins.

In this episode:

00:00 Intro

01:35 Why so many of Heather's clients turn out to be neurodivergent

02:53 Executive functioning and how it touches every part of your sex life

04:15 The comorbidities nobody talks about (anxiety, OCD, disordered eating)

04:42 What "AuDHD" is and why it matters

06:45 The sexual assault statistics that stopped Heather in her tracks

08:04 Inside The ADHD Field Guide for Adults

14:11 Why kink might be the perfect tool for an ADHD brain

18:20 The real reason you get distracted during sex

23:50 "I'm thinking about Hamilton the musical", checking out mid-sex

25:10 Eye contact, communication, and knowing your own needs

36:12 The partner side: what's fair to ask, and where accountability comes in

44:34 Resentment, parentified relationships, and sex drive

45:43 Orgasm difficulty and erectile dysfunction, explained

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