Self-trust is the missing ingredient in personal development — and it's why you can do all the "right" work and still feel stuck. In this episode of Grit & Grace, Pam Rader and Erin Payne break down the exact methodology they use with coaching clients to create lasting, sustainable change: CORE — Create Safety, Observe Patterns, Restore Self-Trust, Embody & Integrate.

Pam shares the real story behind her cold plunging practice — how she started building nervous system resilience months before she consciously knew a storm was coming, and how that practice carried her through the day her marriage ended. Erin opens up about choosing herself over a relationship, and the visceral nervous system backlash that showed up the moment she took that step — even though it was exactly what she wanted.

Together they unpack why shame and self-blame block transformation, how unspoken expectations quietly sabotage relationships, and why the "terror barrier" — that gut-drop feeling right before you take aligned action — is actually a sign you're doing it right, not a sign to stop.

You'll learn:

• The CORE method for creating lasting change in any area of your life
• Why creating safety with yourself (not a toxic-free environment) is the real starting point
• A 3-part inquiry to interrupt any pattern that isn't serving you
• Why "this doesn't feel right" after a big decision is often your nervous system, not your intuition
• How to embody new behavior until it becomes identity, not just insight

This episode also introduces Become the Catalyst, Pam and Erin's six-month live coaching certification launching October 2026. Applications are open now.

Connect with us:
Pam Rader: https://pamrader.com | IG: @pamrader | YouTube: @coachpamrader
Erin Payne: https://erinpayne.ca | IG: @erin_payne

Apply for Become the Catalyst: pamrader.com

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