In this vlog episode I'm exploring what can hold us back from change. I share the changes I'm experiencing and the questions that are helping me to see what's holding my back from changing & why I feel so scared to.

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Ever feel trapped in a toxic cycle with a parent where you lose yourself completely? After years of arguments and emotional exhaustion, I made the hardest decision of my life—going no contact with my dad.

This isn’t about not loving them or refusing to forgive. It’s about creating space to discover who you are when you’re not constantly adjusting to someone else’s needs and emotions.

In this vulnerable episode, I share the guilt, family pressure, and the one thing that completely surprised me after 6 years of no contact.

If you’re considering family estrangement or struggling with toxic family dynamics, this is for you.

What you’ll discover:

- Why guilt is actually a protective function

- How to handle family reactions while maintaining boundaries (including what we can say)

- The relationship metaphor that changed everything

- Signs you’ve lost yourself in a toxic family dynamic

Your mental health matters. Sometimes choosing yourself over toxic patterns is the most loving thing you can do.

👇 Share your experience with difficult family relationships below—you’re not alone in this journey.

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Grief doesn’t come with a timeline—and six years in, I’ve realised it’s not about “acceptance” or "moving on" but about learning how to live with and integrate both the love and the loss. 💔 In this episode of The Self Development Collective, I share openly about my own grief journey after losing my brother, what has shifted since my “3 years in” update, and the unexpected ways grief continues to shape life years later.

If you’re walking through grief, or supporting someone who is, I hope this conversation offers comfort and connection. Grief is messy, deeply personal, and never looks the same for everyone. In this episode, we explore:

⏳ What grief can look and feel like six years later

💭 The ongoing challenges that still show up over time

🌙 How loss can shape the way we live day to day

💡 Why respecting our limits and being gentle with ourselves matters in healing

This isn’t about “fixing” grief—it’s about honesty, hope, and knowing you’re not alone in the process of carrying loss.

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