In this episode of Seeking True Love, I’m joined by coach Alicia Grantham of Lavender and Lemons Coaching to talk about something so many heart-led women quietly struggle with:

👉 What if I want it all—true love, kids, and a fulfilling career—and it’s “too much”?
👉 What if love is the dream that keeps getting shoved to the bottom of the drawer?

Alicia works with ambitious, full-time working moms who feel like they’ve checked all the boxes… and still don’t feel deeply fulfilled. Together, we explore how easy it is—especially for sensitive, high-achieving women and moms—to sacrifice our romantic dreams in the name of being “responsible,” “independent,” or a “good mom.”

We also unpack the cultural messages that say wanting true love is “needy” or “desperate,” and why your longing for partnership is actually a valid, deeply human dream—not something to be ashamed of or push away.

Alicia Grantham is a wife, mom of two, dog mom to a lively Labradoodle, and the founder of Lavender and Lemons Coaching. After more than a decade climbing the corporate ladder as a CPA, she realized that checking all the boxes still left her unfulfilled. She traded survival mode for a life fueled by purpose, freedom, and joy.

Now she helps ambitious full-time working moms reconnect with who they are beyond “employee” and “mom,” reignite the dreams they’ve put on the back burner, and take bold steps toward a life they genuinely love. She’s living proof that you can pack the lunchbox, crush it at work, and chase your big dreams.

Resources for Alicia Grantham:

• Alicia's Podcast: The Mom's Got This... Mostly Podcast
• The Working Mom’s Guide To Vision Boarding With Purpose: https://lavenderandlemonscoaching.com/guide
• Instagram: @a.s.grantham
• TikTok: @lavender_lemons_coaching
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Episode theme: How do you know if it’s your intuition or your anxiety talking—especially in dating? In this heart-opening conversation, Elizabeth and guest Erica Vargas (Singles & Relationships Expert; somatic/linguistic coach & certified breathwork facilitator) unpack what true intuitive clarity feels like for HSP women and how safety, turn-on, and honest communication create genuinely aligned love.

You’ll learn:

• The simplest tell: Intuition speaks in statements. Anxiety speaks in questions.
• Why HSPs often override their intuition (and how to stop).
• How breathwork helps your body switch from fight/flight into calm, clear knowing.
• “Cool girl” traps (e.g., pretending 4 days of silence is fine) and what to say instead.
• Using turn-on and body cues as real-time guidance (even when he’s “perfect on paper”).
• Boundaries that create safety without drama—and how men actually value your intuition.
• Why true love feels like I’m safe to be fully me (not just “checking boxes”).

Key moments:

• Elizabeth’s breathwork story: reclaiming art + opening to true love.
• Erica’s framework: body signals, subconscious patterns, and energy/spirit.
• The texting example: swapping panic for a clear, turn-on-based request.
• Personal vs. universal intuition (and why your read may differ from your friend’s).
• Owning sensitivity as a superpower (and defending it with grace).
• What is true love? Safety, presence, and two people who both feel they got “the better deal.”

Connect with Erica Vargas:

• Website: www.breathmindspiritshine.com
• Instagram: @ericaovargas
• Tik tok @ericavargas111

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Have you ever sworn off dating, convinced real love just isn’t meant for you? In this heartfelt solo episode, Elizabeth Rave unpacks why so many highly sensitive people lose hope in love—and how to reignite your faith in partnership without abandoning your peace.
You’ll discover:

• The key differences between choosing singleness and giving up on love
• Why heartbreak cuts so deeply for HSPs and how to rebuild self-trust
• How to stop chasing the roller-coaster of intense "passion" and find peaceful, nourishing love
• Ways to design a relationship that actually honors your nervous system

References/Resources:

The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Dr. Elaine Aron

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Certified law of attraction coach and intuitive guide Aja Daigneault joins me to unpack the witch wound, shadow work, and how HSPs can stop repeating painful dating patterns. We cover receiving (without guilt), turning “red-flag lists” into aligned desires, and calling in reciprocal, soul-nourishing love—starting with your relationship with yourself.

Aja Daigneault is a certified Law of Attraction coach and intuitive guide with over two decades of leadership experience. She has a unique understanding of how personal growth impacts professional success, and her mission is to help women up-level their lives one relationship at a time, beginning with the one they have with themselves. Through her one-on-one coaching and podcast, Invincible Us, Aja teaches women to harness their intuition and divine feminine energy, helping them to heal the Witch Wound and attract meaningful connections. Her guidance empowers clients to embody a life of purpose, leading to deeply fulfilling friendships, aligned careers, and soulful, reciprocal love.

Resources for Aja:

Attractor Archetype quiz https://tr.ee/3x72qo5fw7

Invincible Us podcast https://tr.ee/qvmU2DbByX

Website invincibleus.com

Instragram: https://www.instagram.com/ajadaigneault?igsh=cXBzMDJuN3Q2Nzd2

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Elizabeth and her partner, Mike—both highly sensitive people (HSPs)—dig into what dating is like for highly sensitive men and why many HSP women overlook them. They unpack cultural “masculinity” scripts, how overstimulating environments sabotage connection, and practical ways HSP women can spot and engage with HSP men (on apps and IRL). They also draw distinctions between emotional availability, inner strength, and true vulnerability, and share gentle, real-world strategies for stretching comfort zones without tipping into overwhelm. The episode ties into Mistake #5 from Elizabeth’s free guide, 5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid.

Resources/References:

The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Dr. Elaine Aron

💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at elizabeth@elizabethrave.com

💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

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Are you a highly sensitive woman who’s been told you’re “too much” or “too emotional”? In this episode, we’ll uncover what being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) really means—and why it’s actually one of your greatest strengths.

You’ll learn:

• The definition of a Highly Sensitive Person and Dr. Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking research
• Why HSPs often struggle with modern dating (and how to make it work for you)
• Common HSP traits like deep processing, empathy, and sensitivity to environments
• How to avoid burnout and choose dating situations that honor your needs
• The gifts of being an HSP, including heightened intuition and capacity for joy

Elizabeth also shares her personal journey of discovering her sensitivity after a profound healing crisis, plus practical tools to help you embrace your nature and thrive in relationships.

References and Resources:

Dr. Elaine Aron’s HSP Self-Test

The Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron

The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Dr. Elaine Aron

💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at elizabeth@elizabethrave.com

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If you're feeling lost, overwhelmed, or just exhausted by the dating process, cultivating self-awareness might be the missing piece. In this episode of Seeking True Love, Elizabeth dives into why self-awareness is essential for dating with intention — and how to start building it today.

You'll learn the difference between internal and external self-awareness, how to identify your own dating patterns, and how tuning into your unconscious thoughts, feelings, and bodily cues can help you choose the right partner — instead of wasting time on ones who aren’t aligned.

Elizabeth also shares powerful tools from NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and insights from psychologist Tasha Eurich’s research, including the four self-awareness archetypes. Plus, she offers practical ways to get better feedback and decode your body’s inner signals — so you can date smarter, not harder.

References:

Eurich, T. (2018). What self-awareness really is (and how to cultivate it). Harvard Business Review. Retrieved from https://membership.amavic.com.au/files/What%20self-awareness%20is%20and%20how%20to%20cultivate%20it_HBR_2018.pdf

💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at elizabeth@elizabethrave.com

💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

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In this 2-part series, I sit down with my own romantic partner, Mike, and we share our love story over the course of knowing each other for 25 years. When we dated in our 20's, our relationship was volatile. After we broke up, we went our separate ways, both embarking on a personal development journey that led us to reunite later, in our 40's, better able to navigate true love with one another this time around.

💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at elizabeth@elizabethrave.com

💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

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