In this episode of Seeking True Love, I’m joined by coach Alicia Grantham of Lavender and Lemons Coaching to talk about something so many heart-led women quietly struggle with:

👉 What if I want it all—true love, kids, and a fulfilling career—and it’s “too much”?
👉 What if love is the dream that keeps getting shoved to the bottom of the drawer?

Alicia works with ambitious, full-time working moms who feel like they’ve checked all the boxes… and still don’t feel deeply fulfilled. Together, we explore how easy it is—especially for sensitive, high-achieving women and moms—to sacrifice our romantic dreams in the name of being “responsible,” “independent,” or a “good mom.”

We also unpack the cultural messages that say wanting true love is “needy” or “desperate,” and why your longing for partnership is actually a valid, deeply human dream—not something to be ashamed of or push away.

Alicia Grantham is a wife, mom of two, dog mom to a lively Labradoodle, and the founder of Lavender and Lemons Coaching. After more than a decade climbing the corporate ladder as a CPA, she realized that checking all the boxes still left her unfulfilled. She traded survival mode for a life fueled by purpose, freedom, and joy.

Now she helps ambitious full-time working moms reconnect with who they are beyond “employee” and “mom,” reignite the dreams they’ve put on the back burner, and take bold steps toward a life they genuinely love. She’s living proof that you can pack the lunchbox, crush it at work, and chase your big dreams.

Resources for Alicia Grantham:

• Alicia's Podcast: The Mom's Got This... Mostly Podcast
• The Working Mom’s Guide To Vision Boarding With Purpose: https://lavenderandlemonscoaching.com/guide
• Instagram: @a.s.grantham
• TikTok: @lavender_lemons_coaching
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Episode theme: How do you know if it’s your intuition or your anxiety talking—especially in dating? In this heart-opening conversation, Elizabeth and guest Erica Vargas (Singles & Relationships Expert; somatic/linguistic coach & certified breathwork facilitator) unpack what true intuitive clarity feels like for HSP women and how safety, turn-on, and honest communication create genuinely aligned love.

You’ll learn:

• The simplest tell: Intuition speaks in statements. Anxiety speaks in questions.
• Why HSPs often override their intuition (and how to stop).
• How breathwork helps your body switch from fight/flight into calm, clear knowing.
• “Cool girl” traps (e.g., pretending 4 days of silence is fine) and what to say instead.
• Using turn-on and body cues as real-time guidance (even when he’s “perfect on paper”).
• Boundaries that create safety without drama—and how men actually value your intuition.
• Why true love feels like I’m safe to be fully me (not just “checking boxes”).

Key moments:

• Elizabeth’s breathwork story: reclaiming art + opening to true love.
• Erica’s framework: body signals, subconscious patterns, and energy/spirit.
• The texting example: swapping panic for a clear, turn-on-based request.
• Personal vs. universal intuition (and why your read may differ from your friend’s).
• Owning sensitivity as a superpower (and defending it with grace).
• What is true love? Safety, presence, and two people who both feel they got “the better deal.”

Connect with Erica Vargas:

• Website: www.breathmindspiritshine.com
• Instagram: @ericaovargas
• Tik tok @ericavargas111

💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at elizabeth@elizabethrave.com

💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

💗 Follow me on social media

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethRaveCoaching/
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Have you ever sworn off dating, convinced real love just isn’t meant for you? In this heartfelt solo episode, Elizabeth Rave unpacks why so many highly sensitive people lose hope in love—and how to reignite your faith in partnership without abandoning your peace.
You’ll discover:

• The key differences between choosing singleness and giving up on love
• Why heartbreak cuts so deeply for HSPs and how to rebuild self-trust
• How to stop chasing the roller-coaster of intense "passion" and find peaceful, nourishing love
• Ways to design a relationship that actually honors your nervous system

References/Resources:

The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Dr. Elaine Aron

💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at elizabeth@elizabethrave.com

💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

💗 Follow me on social media

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethRaveCoaching/
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