The mother wound is often missed or misunderstood... however, iv found it to be the missing link to most guys wounds that lead them down the road to addictions to sex, porn and masturbation

Why?

Because the mother is at the heart of our safety, nurture, affection and intimacy. She models for us what a women is like and what its like to interact and live around one

When men have a mother wound, they struggle to feel safe, to trust, to risk, to find their voice

I talk about my weekly Trauma Care Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ

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In this Episode, Im going to talk about everything mother wound:

- How our mother forms our sexuality- Common wounds from the mother- Enmeshment - mom uses the son to numb her pain

- Triangulation - mom does everything for the family to numb her pain

- 4 practical steps you can take to heal your mother wound and BE A MAN who is free from porn, masturbation, sex and the fear holding you down from all God made you to be

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Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ

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If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day

MORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

Renewing your mind is a key concept in Christianity, but how do you do it?

You may know what to do, but how?

Lets talk about that today so you are clear in the how and have some ideas of your next steps

I talk about my weekly Inner Child Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ

Join the ⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠⁠ today!

In this episode. I talk about:

- Overcoming temptation to porn, masturbation and other sins through articulating your deeper wounding

- Bringing your wounds to Jesus

- Developing your prayer life

- Renewing your mind through clarity of what needs renewing

For more insights on Inner Child work and trauma care, check out my past episodes - they're FULL of coaching tips on how to apply what you're learning

Looking for more?

Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ

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Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settings

Looking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature

If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day

MORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

Helena is back! Get ready to learn all about her recent 2 years and how she overcame depression and renewed her faith in Christ...

We will talk about Helenas struggle with depression and the state it created in her

And about how Shawn found himself as a foreigner, a parent of 2 girls and a husband of a wife going through ALOT at once.

How did Helena overcome depression without pills?

How did Shawn remain integrous and porn free?

This is a really powerful raw chat between two people who have been through a ton. Married 9 years, 8 years of freedom from secual addiction and now 2 kids and a large coaching practise - we love giving back to inspire, convict and offer hope

May out failures be your success so you can experience ALL that Jesus has for you

Its time to overcome depression, fear, shame, porn addiction, masturbation and all other sexual bondage!

Looking for more?

Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ

Join the DeepClean Inner Circle⁠ today!

Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settings

If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day

MORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: https://secrethabit.ca/

RESOURCE PLUG: Humility by Andrew Murray is the book that CHANGED us around this topic of emptying ourselves and truly filling up with Jesus

Theres one challenge guys run into everytime when trying to quit porn, overcome masturbation and put and end to any sexual struggles

It is not what you would expect... its focusing on the task at hand more than the purpose ahead

I am a huge fan of seeing outcomes and experiences over the task itself.

This can be a huge help to create more hope, optimism, faith and desire to do hard things any god recovery requires

A lot of guys do need help with these things though, its not EASY, even if its simple

IF you do need help, for $2 a day, you can join us in the DeepClean Inner Circle

A place of Godly Brotherhood built on a Proven Content and Coaching model that has helped over 1500 guys

Learn more about Inner Circle Here

In todays episode, you'll learn about:

- Why a mission is so important

- Why outcome focused is better than task focused

- My powerful Mission Statement template

- How to apply Mission Statements into your life for maximum effectiveness

If you want more info on our approach at DeepClean before joining DeepClean Inner Circle

Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settings

If you're really on the fence of what to do next, heres my free 90 day porn survival guide, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day

The final step in this framework is focused on freedom, but more honestly, its about confidence, integrity and longevity. This is really what guys want… they want to LIVE their lives without the bondage of “what if I slip again” or “what if I get tempted”

ENOUGH with this crap… freedom doesnt talk like this, and I want to explain to you HOW to get free. Its not about time, its about resolving root pain and finding completion in your heart - sure this takes time, but time is not the main factor.

You need a guide for this, hands down. I would love to be that guide if you want to consider working with me

If you’re ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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In this part 3 episode, I am going to talk all about freedom and the ways to develop healthy confidence.

• What works

• • Finding clarity on the reasons for the root issues, not just the root issues themselves

  • Resolving the root pain behind the unmet needs and wounds

  • Finding completion with painful relationships

  • Renewing the mind and restoring your identity in Christ

• What does not work

• • Focusing on the present and seeing re occurring problems as part of life

  • Seeing on going issues as your thorn in the flesh

  • Assuming that the past is forgiven so there's no need to do any work with your childhood

  • Getting stuck in the busy cycle of recovery

• Concepts

• • Reverse Engineering - finding clarity in why XYZ arouses you

  • Forgiveness

  • Soul Ties

  • Redefining Core Motivations

  • Inner Child Work

• Application

• • Locate - seeing the boy inside of you

  • Learn - understanding what's at the heart of your on going struggles with pornography

  • Lead - Going from what feels true to what is true

  • Jesus - Re-experiencing life through a new lens with Jesus

    
    

NEXT STEPS: Take Your Recovery To The Next Level:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

2. Check out DeepClean Inner Circle - our first ever transformative AND affordable program:

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Its insane how many guys think that awareness is what changes your life… I was stuck in that mindset for a long time and it really kept me stuck… I knew my struggles but I didnt know what to do with them

In this episode, I will lay out the framework for you to get SUPER clear on the real problems and then get SUPER clear on what to do about them based off of what the problems are revealing about your heart.

I am excited about this episode guys, this content is some of the best I have ever come by and I am really proud of the work we do with DeepClean… it took me many years to understand this concept and now you can figure it out with me in just 20 mins, thats pretty cool!

If you’re ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Heres what ill be sharing in this part 2 episode all about becoming emotionally mature and achieving solid sobriety

• What works

• • Becoming emotionally aware THEN using that awareness to change the way you act

• What doesn't work

• • Defining your emotions and expecting life to change because you now know how you feel

• Concept

• • Utilize Trigger Digger, Trigger Template and Journaling to grow in awareness

  • • Quick insight on each one

  • Define your red zone plan - triggers, fear response, tendencies

  • Understand your longings/needs - main needs of humans and 4 ways to get them met

  • Create a green zone plan focused on what and how will help you experience what you need - proactive and reactive

• Application with example

• • Red Zone

  • • Trigger: Fear of rejection

    • Response: Submit and freeze

    • Tendencies: people please, overeat, judge others, internal anger, avoidance of conflict, futility towards relationships

  • Needs

  • • Safety, vulnerability, support, predictability, hope, reassurance, curiosity

  • Green Zone

  • • What can help

    • • Bible, prayer walks, calling a friend, spotify playlist, having a bath, meeting with mentor, throwing rocks by the water, hugging my wife

    • Who can help

    • • Wife, friend, mentor, God, sister, brother

    • When did I feel it before

    • • Conflict with mom was resolved, safee to fail with wife, exposed by friend with love, invited into fellowship with church group

        
        

NEXT STEPS: Take Your Recovery To The Next Level:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

2. Check out DeepClean Inner Circle - our first ever transformative AND affordable program:

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3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

4. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode and 3 part series, I am going to show you the SIMPLE way to do recovery effectively. I have seen thai help hundreds of guys overcome porn, masturbation, and sex addiction and I want to share it with you in a bite size version

I have been free nearly 8 years from porn, masturbation and sex and iv spent 10 000 + hours refining this process. I hope you will glean from it so you can have everything and more in the next few years of your recovery

If you’re ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Here’s what I talk about in this part 1 episode on Gaining Perspective

• Who/Where

• • The Gospel - Scripture, Holy Spirit

  • Mentors

  • Peers/Spotters

  • Disagree’ers

• WHY

• • We need to get out of our own head and feelings

  • start to see and know what is true, factual and proven

  • Let this dictate how you choose, feel and live

• NAS

• • In knowledge and understanding, you will grow in confidence… ASSURE yourself in the salvation story, Gods character and His promises for you

  • Find a spiritual father - glean from experience

  • Find a discipleship partner - sharpen one another

  • Find a resource that is focused on scripture, facts and has proven results… NOT MORE HYPE or surface stuff

NEXT STEPS: Take Your Recovery To The Next Level:

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

2. Check out DeepClean Inner Circle - our first ever transformative AND affordable program:

⁠Click Here for more info⁠

3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

4. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

We're a month into 2025, how are you doing with your triggers and temptations?

In this episode, I want to ensure you dont just run away from your temptations, I want you to understand them, face them and overcome them

We just launched DeepClean Signature 2.0 and its FIRE - you will learn much more about in this episode.

If you're ready to book a call with our team, you can learnj how you can work 1:1 with Shawn Bonneteau: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Today, we will talk about:

- How Emotions and Sexuality Are Connected

- What Triggers and Temptation Tell Us

- How To Create a Trigger Template

- How to Ask Great Questions About Our Temptations and Triggers

- How To Get To The Bottom Of Why you're Triggered

- Defining Core Lies

- Getting Needs Met

- Pursuing Real Recovery

These topics are fundamental to recovery. Guys in DeepClean are getting incredible results from just these 2 videos in our new course.

If you want to take your recovery to the next level, theres no better time to take the next step,

Heres a few ways for you take that next step

1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

2. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

3. Enroll in a Free DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

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