What happens when you stop defining yourself by the roles you've always played?

In this episode of Second Act Sisterhood, we talk about identity, dating, relationships, career decisions and what it actually looks like to start choosing yourself.

Trish reflects on discovering who she is outside of being a wife, mum and daughter — and how that's changing the way she approaches dating, connection and her own time.

Christie shares some of the decisions she's making in her own second act, including walking away from study that no longer made sense and asking a much better question: How do I actually want to spend the next three months?

We talk about people pleasing, carrying conversations and relationships, learning to tolerate calm when you're used to emotional highs and lows, and the surprisingly difficult practice of asking:

What do I think? How do I feel? What do I need?

Second Act Sisterhood is two sisters figuring out reinvention in real time — careers, relationships, identity, health, adventure and all the messy bits in between.

If you're somewhere between who you were and whoever the hell you're becoming, you're in the right place.

Dating in your 40s is… an experience.

This week, Trish takes us inside the reality of dating again — from questionable red flags and truly bizarre requests to whether there really are any good men out there.

We talk about the fairy tales we grew up believing, what we actually want from relationships now, learning to enjoy your own company, and the difference between wanting love and being willing to settle for it.

There are laughs, some very questionable dating behaviour, and one request involving child support that left us both asking: is this guy fucking serious?

If you’re dating again, thinking about dating again, happily single, or simply watching the whole thing from the sidelines — come join the conversation.

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The conversation revolves around managing uncertainty and embracing change, as the speaker navigates job opportunities, copes with the roller coaster of job offers, and deals with challenges and wins. The discussion also covers the decision to cancel uni, coping with uncertainty, and handling difficult circumstances.

Takeaways

• Managing uncertainty
• Embracing change

Chapters

• 00:00 Navigating Job Uncertainty
• 01:06 Deciding on Uni and Job Opportunities
• 02:21 The Roller Coaster of Job Offers
• 05:05 Coping with Uncertainty
• 10:15 Dealing with Challenges and Wins
• 13:09 Handling Difficult Circumstances

The conversation covers the themes of relationships, boundaries, love languages, self-discovery, personal growth, and community building. Trish shares her experiences and insights on these topics, emphasizing the importance of boundaries, self-awareness, and personal development.

Takeaways

• Boundaries are crucial for safety and well-being in relationships
• Self-discovery and personal growth are ongoing journeys
• Building a supportive community is essential for personal development

Chapters

• 00:00 Setting Boundaries in Relationships
• 03:05 Exploring Love Languages and Self-Discovery
• 08:12 The Journey of Personal Growth
• 19:13 Building a Supportive Community

Trish shares her experience of dating in her forties after a loveless marriage, exploring self-discovery, standards, and boundaries. She discusses toxic relationships, the importance of reciprocity, and the challenges of finding compatibility and consistency in dating.

Takeaways

• Dating in midlife involves self-discovery and redefining standards.
• Reciprocity, compatibility, and consistency are crucial factors in successful dating relationships.

Chapters

• 00:00 Dating After a Loveless Marriage
• 03:09 Exploring Self-Discovery and Boundaries
• 08:00 Toxic Relationships and Reciprocity
• 15:23 Finding Compatibility and Consistency

Trish and Christie, the founders of Second Act Sisterhood, discuss their personal experiences with midlife changes, career transitions, uncertainty, and the importance of creating a supportive community. Trish shares her journey of navigating a career change, uncertainty, and identity shifts, while Christy reflects on the challenges of spiraling anxiety and the need for grounding in one's identity. The conversation also explores the concept of certainty, uncertainty, and the six core needs according to Tony Robbins.

Takeaways

• Sisterhood Support
• Navigating Uncertainty

Chapters

• 00:00 Understanding the Six Core Needs

Trish and Christie discuss their experiences with divorce, identity shifts, and the journey to finding happiness and fulfillment. They emphasize the importance of sharing their journey to support others in similar situations.

Takeaways

• Divorce and identity shifts
• Supporting others through shared experiences

Chapters

• 00:00 Navigating Divorce and Identity Shifts
• 05:44 The Decision to Leave
• 13:56 The Journey to Healing and Independence