Motherhood can be beautiful and still feel savage. When life is piling on, when support is thin, and when you are expected to carry everyone else’s comfort, the “best job in the world” line stops sounding inspiring and starts sounding like a gag order. I’m Kirsty Dee, and I’m saying the quiet part out loud: lots of mums love their kids and still feel overwhelmed, resentful, and privately ashamed for struggling.

I take you through my own motherhood journey, from pregnancy sickness and not being believed in labour, to the aftermath of pain, feeding pressure, and the constant sense that if anything goes wrong the blame lands on mum. We also talk neurodivergent parenting, school battles, masking, and the long road to an autism diagnosis, plus how years of navigating systems can grind families down. If you have ever questioned your choices, or felt like a “monster” for having hard thoughts, you’re not alone.

Then we get practical with the real culprit behind so much motherhood burnout: the mental load and emotional labour. We name the invisible labour, how it quietly becomes normal, and why “just tell me what to do” is not partnership. I share what has helped me shift it: boundaries, shared responsibility, teaching kids that a household is everyone’s work, and building a village so your time, health and joy matter too. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review, then tell me: what part of the mental load are you ready to put down?

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