What if the change you're praying for in your marriage doesn't start with your spouse?
When a marriage is hurting, it's easy to focus on everything the other person needs to change, their selfishness, their choices, their behavior, their heart. But during our own marriage restoration, God showed us something completely different: real transformation had to begin within us.

In this episode of Restored + Rising, we talk honestly about the selfishness that existed on both sides of our marriage, how it showed up differently in each of us, and what happened when we stopped focusing on changing each other and allowed God to change us.

We talk about what selfishness can actually look like inside a marriage, why genuine change can't simply be performed for your spouse, and what it means to surrender your heart to God—even when the person you're praying for seems nowhere near changing.

We also share one of the hardest lessons from our restoration: your obedience cannot depend on your spouse's obedience. One person choosing healing, repentance, forgiveness, and surrender can begin changing the entire direction of a marriage.

We dive into Galatians 2:20 and Romans 12:2 and what Scripture teaches about dying to our old selves, renewing our minds, and allowing God to transform us into someone new.

If you're praying for your marriage, waiting for your spouse to change, or wondering whether someone who has been deeply selfish can ever truly become different, we hope our story reminds you:

Don't put limits on what God can do. And don't wait for someone else to change before allowing Him to begin with you.

🎙️ Restored + Rising
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Scripture discussed:
Galatians 2:20
Romans 12:2