You Can't Own It All: The Teenage Years — Managing Your Responsibilities Without Owning Theirs

When our teenagers make poor choices, it’s easy to turn their mistakes into evidence of our failure as parents. We question what we missed, what we should have done differently, and whether we somehow got it wrong.

But there’s an important leadership distinction in the teenage years: we are responsible for our leadership, but we are not responsible for every choice our teenagers make.

In this third episode of Seasons of Leadership series, Jackie explores how parents can navigate the delicate balance between accountability and ownership. Using the Own, Influence, Release framework, she looks at what belongs to us, what we can shape, and what we eventually have to allow our teenagers to carry for themselves—including the consequences of their choices.

Because raising responsible adults sometimes requires resisting the urge to rescue them. We can hold our teens accountable, rebuild trust, and continue guiding them without carrying every decision as our own.

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EPISODE CREDITS

Host: Jackie Mourot, Ed.D. Produced by: The Business of Parenting Original Music: No Roots — composed and produced by Matheo Mourot © 2025. Used with permission. All rights reserved.

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