In this Dread Talk, Mia Hanks shares her personal experience of being married to a covert narcissist, detailing the gradual realization of her partner's narcissistic traits and the emotional toll it took on her. The discussion explores the dynamics of narcissistic relationships, including love bombing, manipulation, and gaslighting, as well as the exhaustion and guilt that often accompany such partnerships. Mia reflects on the challenges of leaving a narcissistic partner, the impact on family dynamics, and the journey of self-discovery after escaping the relationship.

Mia emphasizes the importance of self-care and the freedom she has found post-divorce, highlighting the need for awareness and education about narcissistic abuse. The discussion also touches on the impact of such relationships on children and the importance of breaking the cycle of dysfunction.

About Mia Hanks:

Mia Hanks is a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She was married to a covert narcissist for 29 years. She is also the author of an award-winning memoir,Bride-Made. You can find Mia on TikTok @npdandme or her website atmiajhanks.com.

Takeaways

• Narcissistic relationships often begin with love bombing and grand gestures.
• Victims may overlook red flags due to their partner's charm.
• Narcissists manipulate and gaslight their partners, making them feel responsible for the issues in the relationship.
• Living with a narcissist can be exhausting and lead to chronic stress and health issues.
• Leaving a narcissistic partner often involves complex emotional and financial considerations.
• Trauma bonding can make it difficult for victims to leave abusive relationships.
• Victims may feel guilty for leaving, believing they are responsible for their partner's well-being.
• The impact of a narcissistic relationship can affect family dynamics and children's perceptions of love.
• Self-discovery is a crucial part of healing after leaving a narcissistic partner.
• It's important to recognize that leaving an abusive relationship is not a simple decision.
• Understanding narcissism can provide validation for victims.
• Narcissists often manipulate their partners into questioning their reality.
• Projection is a common tactic used by narcissists.
• Narcissists require constant supply and admiration from others.
• Leaving a narcissistic relationship often leads to smear campaigns against the victim.
• Financial and emotional costs are significant when leaving a narcissist.
• Therapy and support systems are crucial during the divorce process.
• Freedom from a narcissistic relationship brings peace and self-discovery.
• Children of narcissists may internalize unhealthy relationship patterns.
• Education about narcissism is vital for prevention and recovery.

Topics

narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic abuse, covert narcissism, relationship dynamics, emotional manipulation, gaslighting, trauma bonding, leaving an abuser, family impact, self-discovery, divorce, mental health, self-care, recovery, emotional manipulation, relationships, healing, personal growth