Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Small Hands (Aaron Thompson) to talk about what really creates sexual attraction, the difference between confidence and competence, rough sex, kink, consent, boundaries, and the fantasies people don't always know how to talk about.

In this episode:

• Non-sexual turn-ons and how they become sexual turn-ons
• Hands, feet, scent and other physical turn-ons
• Acts of service, chores, cleaning and thoughtfulness as turn ons
• Appreciation, validation and keeping long-term relationships connected
• Boundary talks before professional collaborations
• Reading someone's comfort level and adjusting in the moment
• Sexual toys, magic wands, lube and taking initiative
• Confidence vs. competence
• Why competence may be more attractive than confidence
• Humility, ego and letting actions speak for themselves
• Sexual performance anxiety and the pressure to “deliver”
• Small Hands' first gangbang and early experiences in porn
• CNC (consensual non-consent) fantasies
• Dark fantasies and the importance of genuine desire and safety
• Kink, trauma and how life experiences can shape sexual interests
• Reclaiming autonomy through fantasy
• The unexpected origins of a foot fetish
• What “rough sex” actually means
• Physical, verbal and psychological elements of rough sex
• Why rough sex requires context, intent and communication
• Rough sex vs. disrespect
• Consent, boundaries and negotiating BDSM/kink
• Choking and assuming a partner wants it
• Hot ways of checking in during sex
• Why porn should never be treated as a guide for real-life behavior
• Trust and safety as foundations for exploring darker fantasies
• Small Hands' private fantasy of slow, romantic, sensual sex

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Instagram: @thesmallhands_

Follow Alexa Andre:
Instagram: @sexwithalexa

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