Father's Day can stir up complicated emotions, especially for those whose relationships with their fathers are marked by distance, hurt, or unmet needs. Whether navigating grief, confusion, or seeking clarity about father relationships, it's important to explore why these feelings are valid and how to honor your experience.


• It's okay to feel multiple emotions at once – grief, gratitude, resentment, and joy can coexist
• Don't diminish your pain or judge yourself for setting boundaries with fathers who hurt you
• Our biological need for parental love creates deep-rooted fears when that love seems conditional
• Two things can be true: loving your father as a fallible human AND acknowledging your hurt
• Journal prompts can help navigate complex father relationships: what would you say if you knew it would be heard?
• Consider how you might give yourself what you needed but didn't receive from your father
• Try writing letters – one to your father with unspoken truths, one to your younger self with words you needed
• Ask yourself "dear heart, what do you need today?" and try to provide that care for yourself

Resources

Loving What Is, Revised Edition: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life; The Revolutionary Process Called "The Work" by Byron Katie

Related episodes:

Episode 5 - Journaling

Episode 11 - Forgiveness and one way to get the apology you always wanted

Episode 41 - Answering a Listener Question about Navigating Difficult Relationships with Aging Parents

Episode 67 - Integrating the Essential Truth We Are Both Human and Divine

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In this episode, we’re taking a closer look at how our personal experiences—and cultural narratives—shape the way we view men. While toxic masculinity and male violence are real and must be addressed, there’s another side to the story that’s often overlooked: the presence of good, kind, emotionally available men who are doing the work, showing up, and helping to heal the collective.

You’ll hear about a client’s honest frustration, a simple social interaction with two very different interpretations, and the invitation to explore your own biases and beliefs. This isn’t about denying harm—it’s about widening the lens.

As Father’s Day approaches, let’s challenge ourselves to notice the men who are doing it right. Because healing comes not only from calling out darkness, but from amplifying the light.

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Discover the powerful distinction between requests and demands that can transform your relationships by honoring each other's autonomy and choice.

• Requests honor the possibility of hearing "no" without emotional fallout
• How we respond to someone's "no" reveals whether we're making requests or demands
• True requests are rooted in openness while demands are rooted in control or expectation
• Four key elements to help distinguish between requests and demands
• Ask yourself: "Can I handle a no without punishing them emotionally?"
• When someone asks something of you, explain the need that prevents you from saying yes
• Even in close relationships, we're allowed to ask for anything but aren't entitled to everything
• Dr. Marshall Rosenberg: "Please do as I request only if you do it with the joy of a child feeding ducks"

Resources:

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD

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