You already know fight, flight, and freeze. But did you know your nervous system actually has five built-in survival responses — not three?
In this episode, we go beyond the basics to explore all five trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, submit (the fawn response), and attach (the social engagement response). If you've ever snapped at someone over something small, said "yes" when you meant "no," felt restless the second things got quiet, or gone completely blank in a hard conversation — this episode connects the dots.
We talk about where these patterns come from, why they show up even when you're safe now, and why they're not personality flaws or character defects — they're old survival strategies your body built to protect you. You'll hear about the "fawn" and "cry for help" responses that rarely get discussed, plus a powerful example from trauma researcher Dr. Janina Fisher on how multiple defenses can show up in one person at once.
This episode won't diagnose you or replace therapy — but it might just be the reframe you've been looking for. Because these patterns don't mean you're broken. They mean you survived.
🎧 Listen now if you've ever wondered why you can't relax, why you can't stop people-pleasing, why conflict makes you disappear, or why you feel "too much" or "not enough."
This episode is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If anything here brings up strong feelings, please consider reaching out to a licensed therapist or counselor.
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