When your family says you should be over it already, what do you do? And what if you're the one rushing yourself?

Natasha Elaine and licensed marriage and family therapist Adrianne Wagner finish their Faith After Fire conversation with family pressure, guilt after childhood abuse, a listener's question about a mother who keeps belittling her, and one boundary to practice this week.

Content note: Childhood sexual abuse and violent loss are discussed without graphic detail.

Word of the Week: COMPASSION.

Scripture: Colossians 3:12.

Challenge: Choose one boundary you can practice, and give yourself room to try again.

Kingdom Artist: Jackie Hill Perry.

Song of the Week: “Glory (The End)” from Blameless.

The full radio edition with music is on Mixcloud: https://www.mixcloud.com/RRWSPODCAST

Chapters:

00:00 No Deadline on My Healing

00:46 Welcome to Part 2

02:14 When Family Pushes You to Move On

03:26 We Can Grieve the Same Loss Differently

05:03 Self-Love Means Knowing What You Need

06:16 The Guilt I Carried After Forgiving

07:25 Forgiveness or Avoidance?

08:11 Listener Question: When Mom Belittles You

10:50 Protecting Your Peace with Family

12:50 Compassion for Yourself, Too

13:35 Talking to Myself Like I Believe It

15:52 One Boundary to Practice This Week

17:56 Closing: “Glory (The End)”

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Some family can't ever come back to the cookout. Natasha Elaine and licensed marriage and family therapist Adrianne Wagner revisit a hard question: What changes when you forgive someone, but cannot rebuild the relationship?

They talk about acknowledging hurt and anger, the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and the power of naming what was never “no big deal.” Natasha also shares why a separate Prince George's County cold case prompted her to report abuse she experienced as a child.

Content note: Childhood sexual abuse is discussed without graphic detail.

Scripture: Romans 12:18.

Word of the Week: ACKNOWLEDGE.

Challenge: Tell someone safe. However long it has taken, what happened was never your fault.

Kingdom Artist: Jackie Hill Perry.

Song of the Week: “Keep Your Head Up,” featuring Scootie Wop. Hear the complete radio edition with all four songs on Mixcloud: https://www.mixcloud.com/RRWSPODCAST/.

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What happens when a boundary is crossed... and the person who needs to take accountability is us?

In the final part of Natasha Elaine’s conversation with licensed clinical social worker Psalm McDaniels, they explore accountability, self-trust, and how to discern whether the next step is repair, distance, or release.

Reflection Question: What boundary do I need to set, respect, or repair?

Word of the Week: Self-trust

Kingdom Artist: Porsha Love
Song of the Week: “INI MINI”

Find the Faith After Fire Journal at rrwspodcast.com.

Connect with Psalm on Instagram at @ThatTherapistJawn.

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Pray. Read. Listen. Obey.

God loves you more. ❤️

Is it a healthy boundary, or is it a brick wall built after too many unspoken hurts?

Ten years ago, Natasha Elaine ended a 20-year friendship after one hurt too many. The truth? She had never communicated what needed to change after the first few hurts. By the time the final one landed, she was no longer establishing a boundary.

Baby... it was time for a wall.

In Part 2 of the Faith After Fire series, Natasha continues her conversation with That Therapist Jawn, licensed clinical social worker Psalm McDaniels, about setting healthy boundaries without people-pleasing, overexplaining, or completely cutting ourselves off from connection.

Together, they discuss:

• The fear of losing people when we begin setting boundaries
• The superhero complex many Black women carry
• Why feeling guilty does not necessarily mean you are guilty
• How healthier self-talk helps us communicate clearly
• How therapy helps us recognize repetitive patterns
• The difference between a healthy limit and an impenetrable wall
• Using I-statements with clarity, kindness, and confidence
• Remaining anchored when another person reacts negatively

WORD OF THE WEEK

Relational sovereignty: The ability to remain connected in love while governing your own heart, choices, words, and responses.

We cannot let their lightning trigger our thunder.

REFLECTION QUESTION

Where have I built a wall because I did not know how to communicate a boundary?

Take your answer to God and ask whether that wall needs a door, an additional lock, or permission to remain exactly where it is.

SCRIPTURAL ANCHORS

Psalm 141:3 NIV: “Set a guard over my mouth, LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips.”

Proverbs 15:1 NIV: “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

RESOURCES

Download the Faith After Fire Journal at https://rrwspodcast.com/digital-products

Watch the complete, unedited conversation with Psalm on YouTube as part of the Still Holy, Still Healing series.

Hear the full ICU Radio 97.3 replay, music and all, on Mixcloud by searching RRWS Podcast.

Connect with Psalm on Instagram at @ThatTherapistJawn.

FEATURED SONG

“Rap Like a Girl” by Porsha Love, featuring LaNell Grant, TuKool Tiff, and Tylynn.

Subscribe to Roads, Rocks, Weeds + Soil and share this episode with somebody who either says yes until they snap or builds a wall before building a bridge.

They may simply need better tools.

Pray. Read. Listen. Obey.

God loves you way more! ❤️

Gaslighting does not always take away your ability to choose. Sometimes it teaches you to distrust the very perception you need to make one.

In Part 1 of this three-part conversation, licensed clinical social worker Psalm McDaniels, also known as That Therapist Jawn, goes beyond identifying love bombing, gaslighting, and narcissistic patterns. She explains why those patterns are so hard to leave, how guilt can make healthy boundaries feel wrong, and why the way out begins with trusting that you know what you are experiencing.

That truth sent me back to my own story, and I am sharing a part of it I have never told this directly.

In this episode, we talk about:

Why love bombing can overpower what the evidence is telling us
How gaslighting weakens our trust in our own perception
The difference between feeling guilty and actually being guilty
Whether narcissistic behavior can have a spiritual dimension
Why you do not have to identify the root before responding to rotten fruit
How obedience, discernment, boundaries, and personal agency work together
What taking refuge actually looked like in my own relationship

WORD OF THE WEEK
Agency: the capacity to make choices and act on them.

FAITH AFTER FIRE JOURNAL PROMPT
Finish this sentence: I knew __________, but I convinced myself __________. Take your answer to God and ask for the courage to respond to what He reveals. The Faith After Fire Journal is available at rrwspodcast.com under Resources and Digital Products.

SCRIPTURE
Proverbs 27:12, NIV: "The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty."

KINGDOM ARTIST + SONG OF THE WEEK
Our Kingdom Artist is Porsha Love, whose music carries a faith that is bold, feminine, fun, and fully alive. Our Song of the Week is "70 Degrees" by Miles Minnick, George.Rose, and Porsha Love.

Roads, Rocks, Weeds + Soil airs live on ICU Radio 97.3 and streams everywhere podcasts are found.

Listen to the complete radio replay, music and all, on Mixcloud (search RRWS Podcast). Watch the complete, unedited conversation with Psalm on YouTube.

We’ve talked about red flags. We’ve talked about dating potential. Now let’s talk about what healthy love actually looks like.

In Part 3 of Faith After Fire, Natasha Elaine and Caniesha Marsh, founder and CEO of Divine Connections Philadelphia, flip the conversation from red flags to green ones.

Consistency. Mature communication. Respect for boundaries. Peace. Trust. Spiritual alignment.

But there’s another side to this conversation: Are we bringing the same green flags we’re asking God to send us?

Natasha revisits her own history of crossing boundaries in search of proof and reflects on what growth looks like now. Discernment doesn’t require surveillance. Sometimes wisdom means recognizing that you have enough information to make your next decision... and trusting God with what you don’t know.

Using Proverbs 24:3–4, Natasha and Caniesha explore knowledge, understanding, wisdom, and one simple question that can reveal a lot about a relationship:

Is this relationship pulling me toward the Creator... or away from Him?

🌱 WORD OF THE WEEK: TRUST

Receive the nudge. Honor the boundary. Trust God with what comes next.

👑 KINGDOM ARTIST: ANIKE

RADIO TRACK LIST

1. Anike, WINNING
2. 116 + Taylented feat. Childlike CiCi, Anike, Adia, Porsha Love, Queen Lee, Lee Vasi + Toyalove, Focused (Remix)
3. Anike + Porsha Love + HOLY GIRL X HLY GRL, HE'S GOOD (Everyday)
4. Anike, Watch Her Glow

SCRIPTURE: Proverbs 24:3–4

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You can see their potential. But did God actually assign you to help them reach it?

Then use the remainder of the master description.

This episode has a very clean Spotify thesis:

Seeing potential ≠ receiving an assignment.

In Part 2 of Faith After Fire, Natasha Elaine revisits her conversation with Caneisha Marsh, founder and CEO of Divine Connections Philadelphia, about toxic cycles, romanticizing potential, spiritual compatibility, and the temptation to turn people into projects.

This time, Natasha hears the conversation differently.

Sometimes the weed isn’t the person you’re dating. Sometimes it’s your own proclivity to keep returning, fixing, teaching, rescuing, or imagining a future the other person isn’t actually choosing.

Because seeing someone’s potential does not make their transformation your assignment.

We’re talking about what it looks like to stop dating possibilities, stop volunteering for work God didn’t give you, and make room for relationships where both people arrive ready to pray, grow, build, and walk with Christ.

And yes... the holy oil is still a requirement. 😂

🌱 WORD OF THE WEEK: Proclivity
🎤 KINGDOM ARTIST OF THE WEEK: Anike
🎵 SONG OF THE WEEK: “The Real One” by Bri Babineaux ft. Anike

Faith After Fire Journal available at RRWSPodcast.com under Resources + Digital Products.

Pray. Read. Listen. Obey.

#FaithAfterFire #ChristianDating #DatingPotential #Discernment #HealthyRelationships #RRWSPodcast

Sometimes the red flags were obvious.

Sometimes we ignored them.

And sometimes... we were the red flag. 😂

In Part 1 of Faith After Fire: Radio Revisited, Natasha Elaine revisits her original conversation with Caniesha Marsh, Founder + CEO of Divine Connections Philadelphia, with the wisdom that only time, healing, and new experiences can bring.

We're talking relationship red flags, discernment, accountability, and what it looks like to recognize what God may be showing you without romanticizing what you want something to become.

This isn't about rewriting the past. It's about being able to revisit it and say:

It is what it is... and now I know what I know.

🔥 Faith After Fire: Radio Revisited, Part 1

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