In this episode, we sit down with Pastor Ken Ralston to dig into the kind of relationships that don’t just survive—they actually stick the way God intended. If you’ve ever wondered why some relationships feel like you’re duct-taping a sinking ship while others feel deeply rooted, this conversation is going to hit home.

We walk through key themes from Pastor Ken’s new book and explore how God shapes us, calls us, and heals us through our connections with others.

What We Talk About:

• What bothers you is often what God is calling you toward. Pastor Ken unpacks his line from Chapter 1: “You can discover what God has called you to do by paying attention to what really bothers you.” He explains why holy frustration is more than irritation—it’s often direction.
• When the mirror lies. I read a powerful paragraph from page 16 (“When the Mirror Lies”), and then Pastor Ken opens up about the lie his “mirror” told him—and how he overcame it with truth, identity, and a whole lot of grace.
• Conflict doesn’t destroy unity—God redeems it. From page 24, we dive into how conflict is not the enemy of unity. Pastor Ken shares why unity doesn’t erase our differences, it redeems them—and how seeing relationships this way can change everything from marriage to friendships to church life.
• God-designed masculinity and femininity. I read a section from page 26 about men bearing the masculine and women bearing the feminine. Pastor Ken shares how that revelation hit him, what shaped it, and why honoring God’s design actually strengthens relationships rather than boxing people in.

Why This Episode Matters

Whether you're healing after divorce, rebuilding your life, or simply wanting to understand relationships from a biblical, emotionally healthy perspective, this conversation is full of hope, clarity, and straight-up wisdom. Pastor Ken brings the kind of insight that makes you rethink your assumptions—but in the best way.

Where to Connect

Be sure to check out Pastor Ken Ralston’s book on Amazon, https://a.co/d/1jwGB1x and if this episode encouraged you, rate the podcast, share it with a friend, and join the conversation on YouTube or Apple Podcasts.

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The holidays can stir up all kinds of emotions after divorce — loneliness, pressure, old memories, and moments that hit way harder than expected. In this episode, Dana gets real about what this season can feel like… and how God meets us right in the middle of it.

She walks you through the “rebuilding bricks” God gave her over the last few years, how those words held her steady when circumstances didn’t, and why intentionally redirecting the mind is a powerful part of healing. You’ll also hear how the valley of dry bones in Ezekiel isn’t just a dramatic Bible moment — it’s a picture of what happens when we speak God’s truth over situations that look completely lifeless.

Dana also shares new research on gratitude and how it literally transforms the brain — from boosting dopamine and serotonin to calming emotional triggers and helping you shift your perspective. It’s wild how God designed us to heal from the inside out.

If you remember Episode 33, this episode builds on that foundation of praying Scripture out loud and watching the atmosphere change. Dana ties it all together for this holiday season, reminding you that you don’t have to pretend things aren’t hard — but you can choose what you cling to.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why redirecting your thoughts is both simple and hard — and why it matters
• How gratitude rewires your brain (yes, literally)
• What Ezekiel’s dry bones teach us about speaking life over impossible situations
• How the Word of God becomes your anchor when emotions try to run the show
• Ways to prepare your heart for the holidays after divorce without shutting down emotionally

Listen in if you need:

• Hope for the holiday season
• A reminder of God’s faithfulness
• Practical tools to calm your mind and emotions
• A nudge to speak life over the places that feel dry or heavy
• Encouragement to believe again — even in a tough season

Resources Mentioned:

• Episode 33: How Praying the Word Shifts Your Atmosphere
• Free ebook: Who Am I After Divorce — available on Dana’s website

Scriptures: Ezekiel 37:4–5, Hebrews 4:12

If this episode encourages you, share it with a friend who’s navigating a hard holiday season. You never know who needs a reminder that God rebuilds, restores, and breathes life into what feels lost.

In Service to Him,

Dana

WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com

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Amazon:

Healing After Divorce Paperback:

https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp

Healing After Divorce ebook

https://a.co/d/etcpVyR

WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:

PODCAST:

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In today’s episode, we’re talking about something simple, steady, and powerful: how to build a prayer focus after divorce, one word at a time—just like laying bricks on a wall.

For years, the Lord has given me one or two “focus words” each year, along with scriptures that anchor my prayers. What I didn’t realize until recently was how each word built on the last… and how God was quietly rebuilding my life brick by brick.

In this episode, I’m walking you through my yearly “bricks” from 2020 to now—Hope, Endurance, Rebuilding, Transition, Focus, Shepherding, Obedience, and more—and showing you how this simple practice became a blueprint for healing after divorce.

Inside this episode:

• Why we’re seeing so much shaking in the world—and why righteousness comes before revival
• How yearly “focus words” create a stable prayer foundation
• The scriptures God used to rebuild me over the last five years
• How to receive your own word for the coming year
• A prayer over your healing and your future

In His Service,

Dana

Mentioned in this episode: 🎥 Redeemed Identity After Divorce on YouTube 🌐 www.redeemed-identity.com 📩 Email: Dana@redeemed-identity.com

LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/

SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/#

Book Funnel: Who AM I After Divorce: https://dl.bookfunnel.com/4k769kpebf

Amazon:

Healing After Divorce Paperback:

https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp

Healing After Divorce ebook

https://a.co/d/etcpVyR

WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:

YOUTUBE:

https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce

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