You really like him. He’s kind, emotionally available, respectful, consistent, and everything seems to be going right.

So why are you still wondering, Is this really my person?

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Now, back to today's question...

In this episode of Share the Pants, Nicole and Joel get brutally honest about the doubts and anxiety they each experienced while falling in love and deciding whether they were truly right for each other.

Joel shares why he was actually afraid to swipe right on Nicole in the first place, what made him question whether he was ready for a serious relationship, and the moment he finally knew he wanted to marry her.

Nicole shares the very different experience of knowing almost immediately that Joel was her person while still gathering the evidence she needed to trust that intuition. She also reveals the surprising moment when she wondered if she might get bored in their relationship but realized she wasn't bored at all. She was learning what it felt like to be safe.

Together, they unpack one of the hardest questions in dating:

How do you know if your relationship anxiety is intuition telling you something is wrong or fear asking you to run from something that is actually good for you?

You’ll hear them talk about:

• Why having doubts doesn't automatically mean you're with the wrong person
• The difference between intuition, anxiety, and overthinking
• Why a healthy relationship can initially feel unfamiliar or even boring
• How your past relationships can influence what you expect love to feel like
• Why vulnerability can be one of the best tests of a relationship
• How your partner responds when you share your fears and insecurities
• Why conflict can actually give you important information about a relationship
• How to tell whether a question about your relationship is really about him or about you
• Why you don't need 100% certainty to keep moving toward deeper commitment

And perhaps most importantly, Nicole and Joel talk about the data points that helped them move from “I think this person might be the one” to “I know I can build a life with this person.”

Because the goal isn't to eliminate every doubt.

It's to learn how to listen to yourself without letting fear make the decision for you.

If you've ever wondered “Is this relationship anxiety or my intuition?”, “How do I know if he's the right person?”, or “Why am I questioning a relationship that's actually going well?”... this conversation is for you.

Share the Pants is a podcast about dating, love, marriage, and what actually happens when two people stop trying to follow the rules and start figuring out what works for them.

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