In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry examines the deep emotional patterns that shape our reactions during moments of stress, conflict, and relational rupture. This episode explores the Victim Triangle and the foundations of Transactional Analysis, revealing how old childhood survival roles continue to shape our adult relationships in ways we often do not recognize.

Dr. Perry explains how the three roles of the Drama Triangle—Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor—emerge not from weakness or malice, but from early attempts to feel safe, valued, and emotionally connected. He explores how these roles become automatic responses in adulthood, especially in relationships marked by emotional imbalance or narcissistic dynamics, and how they keep both partners stuck in cycles of misunderstanding and emotional defensiveness.

Listeners will learn about:

• The origins of the Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor roles
• How Transactional Analysis shapes communication patterns
• Why familiar emotional roles feel like “home,” even when painful
• How these roles operate in narcissistic relationships
• The Empowerment Triangle: Creator, Coach, and Challenger
• How to shift from reactive patterns into conscious, grounded connection

Dr. Perry offers a compassionate and emotionally grounded perspective for those who find themselves repeating the same arguments, feeling emotionally hijacked, or trapped in roles they no longer want to play. Whether you identify with narcissistic traits or have struggled to maintain connection in difficult relationships, this episode provides clarity, language, and gentle guidance for stepping out of survival patterns and back into presence.

Tune in to understand how awareness, emotional honesty, and grounded self-connection can transform old relational scripts. Healing begins not by perfecting your behavior, but by recognizing the roles you were once forced to play—and remembering that you no longer have to live inside them.

Connect with Dr. Perry: https://drericperry.com

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Empathy Awakening Workshop: https://drericperry.com/empathyawakening

Disclaimer: The content contained in this podcast is for general information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information provided for their own health needs. All specific questions should be presented to your own healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast in no way creates a professional/working relationship between the listener and the host. If at any time you have an emergency while listening, please contact your local emergency center immediately.

In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the hidden emotional engine beneath narcissistic defenses: self-loathing. This episode examines how deep internal shame, formed early in life and carried silently into adulthood, shapes emotional reactions, relational patterns, and the need to maintain a polished exterior at all times.

Dr. Perry explains how this inner narrative—the quiet belief of not being enough—leads many individuals with narcissistic traits to perform strength rather than inhabit authenticity. He explores how self-loathing fuels perfectionism, emotional guardedness, and an intense fear of being truly known, while simultaneously creating a painful hunger for real closeness.

Listeners will learn about:

• How the false self forms as a protective performance
• The role of shame in shaping narcissistic identity
• The hidden emotional cost of maintaining the mask
• How self-loathing interferes with vulnerability and attachment
• Five pathways toward healing through honesty and compassionate self-contact

Dr. Perry offers a deeply humane perspective for those who have felt the exhausting burden of performing competence, confidence, or superiority while privately fighting feelings of unworthiness. Whether you have struggled to let others in or have pushed away love out of fear rather than indifference, this episode gives language and clarity to an emotional experience that rarely gets acknowledged out loud.

Tune in to discover how gentleness, patience, and emotional presence can slowly restore the connection between the self you show to the world and the self you’ve learned to hide. Healing begins not with perfection, but with allowing yourself to be seen—imperfectly, authentically, and without the armor of performance.

Connect with Dr. Perry: https://drericperry.com

Own Your Stuff Online Coaching Group: https://drericperry.com/ownyourstuff

Empathy Awakening Workshop: https://drericperry.com/empathyawakening

Disclaimer: The content contained in this podcast is for general information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information provided for their own health needs. All specific questions should be presented to your own healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast in no way creates a professional/working relationship between the listener and the host. If at any time you have an emergency while listening, please contact your local emergency center immediately.

In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the delicate, often misunderstood moment that follows an interpersonal disconnect. This episode examines how micro-ruptures—those subtle moments when a tone shifts, a comment lands poorly, or a sense of distance quietly appears—can profoundly impact emotional safety long before anything is acknowledged out loud.

Dr. Perry unpacks why these moments are uniquely challenging for individuals with narcissistic tendencies. He explains how discomfort, shame, and the loss of emotional control can activate defensive strategies that feel instinctive in the moment but ultimately undermine trust and connection. Instead of regulating internally, many unconsciously reach for overt defense, covert defense, or premature repair—attempts to ease their own discomfort rather than meet the relational moment with presence.

Listeners will learn about:

• What micro-ruptures look like in real-life dynamics
• Why narcissistic individuals often rush to repair in order to regain emotional control
• The difference between emotional urgency and emotional responsibility
• How premature repair protects comfort but blocks connection
• Five essential practices for meaningful reconnection

Dr. Perry offers clear and compassionate insight for anyone who has felt the sting of a subtle disconnect—or for those who may unintentionally respond to these moments with speed rather than attunement. Whether you’ve sensed emotional distance growing without understanding why, or you’ve noticed your own instinct to “fix things” too quickly, this episode brings clarity, language, and a framework for authentic repair.

Tune in to discover how slowing down, staying present, and tolerating discomfort can transform a disconnect from a moment of emotional rupture into an opportunity for genuine reconnection. Healing in relationships begins not with perfection, but with presence, responsibility, and the choice to rebuild emotional safety one moment at a time.

Connect with Dr. Perry: https://drericperry.com

Own Your Stuff Online Coaching Group: https://drericperry.com/ownyourstuff

Empathy Awakening Workshop: https://drericperry.com/empathyawakening

Disclaimer: The content contained in this podcast is for general information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information provided for their own health needs. All specific questions should be presented to your own healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast in no way creates a professional/working relationship between the listener and the host. If at any time you have an emergency while listening, please contact your local emergency center immediately.

In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the subtle but powerful impact of frustration leaks in narcissistic relationships. This episode explores how unspoken emotional distress—expressed through sighs, muttering, or tension-filled body language—can quietly alter the emotional safety of a relationship without a single word being said.

Dr. Perry unpacks the psychological mechanics of frustration leaks, highlighting how this behavior often reflects a deeper struggle with emotional regulation and vulnerability. He explains why individuals with narcissistic tendencies may externalize distress in indirect ways—and how those around them are left to absorb the emotional weight of what goes unspoken.

Listeners will learn about:

• What frustration leaks look like in real-life dynamics
• Why narcissistic individuals often externalize emotional distress unconsciously
• The difference between self-regulation and emotional outsourcing
• How subtle expressions of frustration can create emotional pressure and distance
• Practical tools to contain emotion, name impact, and rebuild emotional safety

Dr. Perry offers clear and compassionate insight for both those who have experienced the tension of frustration leaks and those who may be unintentionally creating it. Whether you have noticed a growing emotional distance in your relationship or felt the weight of someone else’s mood without understanding why, this episode provides language, clarity, and a path toward change.

Tune in to discover how frustration—when acknowledged rather than leaked—can become a moment of honest connection rather than quiet rupture. Healing begins not with denial or perfection, but with presence, ownership, and the choice to create emotional safety, one moment at a time.

Connect with Dr. Perry: https://drericperry.com

Own Your Stuff Online Coaching Group: https://drericperry.com/ownyourstuff

Empathy Awakening Workshop: https://drericperry.com/empathyawakening

Disclaimer: The content contained in this podcast is for general information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information provided for their own health needs. All specific questions should be presented to your own healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast in no way creates a professional/working relationship between the listener and the host. If at any time you have an emergency while listening, please contact your local emergency center immediately.

In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the quiet yet deeply damaging experience of emotional invalidation in narcissistic relationships. This episode examines how subtle forms of dismissal, deflection, and emotional withdrawal can slowly erode a partner’s sense of self—leaving them feeling confused, unseen, and emotionally alone.

Dr. Perry unpacks the psychological mechanics of emotional invalidation, highlighting how it often masquerades as logic, reason, or even care. He explains why individuals with narcissistic tendencies struggle to tolerate emotional vulnerability—and how their attempts to manage discomfort often result in silencing the people closest to them.

Listeners will learn about:

• What emotional invalidation looks like in real-life dynamics
• Why narcissistic individuals often use invalidation—consciously or unconsciously
• The difference between healthy disagreement and emotional dismissal
• How chronic invalidation distorts emotional reality and damages trust
• Practical ways to identify invalidation and begin rebuilding emotional safety

Dr. Perry offers clear and compassionate insight for both those who have experienced emotional invalidation and those who may be unintentionally causing it. Whether you’ve found yourself walking on eggshells or noticing a growing emotional distance in your relationship, this episode provides language, clarity, and hope.

Tune in to discover how emotional validation—simple acts of presence, witnessing, and non-defensive listening—can transform a relationship from emotionally unsafe to emotionally connected. Healing begins not with control or correction, but with the courage to truly hear and be heard.

Connect with Dr. Perry: https://drericperry.com

Own Your Stuff Online Coaching Group: https://drericperry.com/ownyourstuff

Empathy Awakening Workshop: https://drericperry.com/empathyawakening

Disclaimer: The content contained in this podcast is for general information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information provided for their own health needs. All specific questions should be presented to your own healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast in no way creates a professional/working relationship between the listener and the host. If at any time you have an emergency while listening, please contact your local emergency center immediately.

In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the complex and often misunderstood phenomenon of mirroring in narcissistic relationships. This episode dives into how mirroring can create the illusion of deep connection—while quietly eroding authenticity, trust, and emotional intimacy.

Dr. Perry unpacks the psychological roots of mirroring, tracing it from early childhood development to its manipulative adaptation in adulthood. He explains how individuals with narcissistic tendencies often use mirroring—consciously or unconsciously—as a way to build connection, avoid rejection, and emotionally survive within relationships.

Listeners will learn about:

• The origins of mirroring and how it forms in childhood
• How narcissistic individuals use mirroring to create rapid emotional closeness
• Why mirroring feels like connection at first—but leads to disconnection over time
• The emotional toll of being mirrored instead of truly seen
• Practical steps to recognize mirroring patterns and rebuild real, honest connection

Dr. Perry offers clear and compassionate guidance for those who find themselves stuck in cycles of performative connection. Whether you have used mirroring to feel accepted or have been on the receiving end of it, this episode provides insight, validation, and a path forward.

Tune in to discover how moving from imitation to authenticity can heal your relationships—from shallow and performative to grounded and real. Through honest self-reflection and small acts of vulnerability, true intimacy becomes possible—not by becoming who someone wants you to be, but by becoming more fully yourself.

Connect with Dr. Perry: https://drericperry.com

Own Your Stuff Online Coaching Group: https://drericperry.com/ownyourstuff

Empathy Awakening Workshop: https://drericperry.com/empathyawakening

Disclaimer: The content contained in this podcast is for general information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information provided for their own health needs. All specific questions should be presented to your own healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast in no way creates a professional/working relationship between the listener and the host. If at any time you have an emergency while listening, please contact your local emergency center immediately.

In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the powerful and often unnoticed phenomenon of emotional contagion—the unconscious transfer of emotions from one person to another. This episode examines how intense emotional energy can quietly move between people, disrupting connection, creating emotional overwhelm, and shaping the dynamic of a relationship—often without anyone realizing it.

Dr. Perry breaks down the neuroscience and psychology behind emotional contagion, including the role of mirror neurons and the tendency to absorb others' emotional states. He explains how individuals with narcissistic traits may struggle with emotional regulation and unintentionally trigger emotional contagion through unfiltered emotional expression or emotional dumping.

Listeners will learn about:

• The science of emotional contagion and how it plays out in everyday relationships
• How emotional dumping creates imbalance and emotional fatigue in close relationships
• The difference between healthy emotional sharing and reactive offloading
• Why emotional safety must be mutual—not one-sided
• Practical strategies to build emotional resilience and self-soothing skills

Dr. Perry offers clear and compassionate guidance on recognizing these emotional patterns, cultivating self-awareness, and shifting from emotional reactivity to relational accountability.

Tune in to understand how emotional responsibility can transform your connections—from chaotic and one-sided to calm, grounded, and reciprocal. Through reflection, intention, and small moments of self-regulation, emotional maturity becomes not just possible—but profoundly healing.

Connect with Dr. Perry: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drericperry.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Own Your Stuff Online Coaching Group: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drericperry.com/ownyourstuff⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Empathy Awakening Workshop: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drericperry.com/empathyawakening⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Disclaimer: The content contained in this podcast is for general information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information provided for their own health needs. All specific questions should be presented to your own healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast in no way creates a professional/working relationship between the listener and the host. If at any time you have an emergency while listening, please contact your local emergency center immediately.

In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the hidden impact of reactive communication in relationships. Often driven by intense emotions like anger, fear, or shame, reactive communication can quietly erode trust and connection, leaving a trail of unresolved tension and emotional distance. Dr. Perry guides listeners through the roots of this pattern, helping them understand how impulsive reactions can become ingrained coping strategies—especially for individuals with narcissistic tendencies.

Listeners will learn what reactive communication looks like, how it develops, and the deeper emotional and relational damage it can cause over time. Through vivid examples and compassionate insight, the episode explores how these communication habits form, the role of emotional triggers and past experiences, and how they can lead to repeated conflict and feelings of disconnect.

Dr. Perry provides actionable strategies to break free from these unhealthy cycles and cultivate more responsive, thoughtful interactions. Key takeaways include:

• Recognizing the emotional triggers and automatic reactions that lead to reactive communication.

• Techniques for creating space between a trigger and your response.

• Practical strategies for emotional transparency and choosing thoughtful language in moments of stress.

In this episode, Dr. Perry will also examine how reactive communication can manifest more subtly—through passive-aggressiveness, mood shifts, or emotional withdrawal—and how these behaviors can lead to confusion, resentment, and trauma bonding. He sheds light on the emotional toll of navigating unpredictable communication, especially within narcissistic dynamics.

Tune in to gain valuable insights into transforming reactive habits into responsive communication styles that foster trust, understanding, and connection. Dr. Perry’s guidance offers a path toward emotional regulation and relational safety, empowering listeners to show up more intentionally in their relationships and within themselves.

Connect with Dr. Perry: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drericperry.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Own Your Stuff Online Coaching Group: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drericperry.com/ownyourstuff⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Empathy Awakening Workshop: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drericperry.com/empathyawakening⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Disclaimer: The content contained in this podcast is for general information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information provided for their own health needs. All specific questions should be presented to your own healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast in no way creates a professional/working relationship between the listener and the host. If at any time you have an emergency while listening, please contact your local emergency center immediately.