Have you heard of the term “unequally yoked” in relationships and marriage? So many of you have reached out asking, “Is it okay for a Christian to date or marry a non-Christian?” I’m breaking down exactly what the Bible says about being unequally yoked, and sharing real talk about how this applies to dating, marriage, and even business partnerships.

I talk about why God’s commands aren’t about restricting us, but are there for our protection and blessing. If you’re already in a "mixed" marriage, I walk you through practical, biblical encouragement on how to live out your faith and how your actions—not just your words—can influence your spouse.

You’ll also hear:

• The true definition of “unequally yoked” and why it matters for Christian singles and couples

• What to do if you’re a believer married to a non-believer

• Biblical advice on “missionary dating” and why it’s rarely a good idea

• How to use spiritual discernment (and even your common sense!) when making relationship choices

• My personal story of how my husband Shaun and I navigated differences in our spiritual walk

• Encouragement for the spouse who feels alone in their faith journey

Whether you’re single, dating, married, or walking alongside a loved one in this situation, this episode will help you understand the importance of honoring God with your choices and trusting Him with your relationships.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Get the newly released audiobook for Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples!

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Finding out your spouse has been unfaithful can feel like your entire world has just shattered. I'm speaking directly to the person who is hurting, confused, and unsure of what to do next in this “best of the best” sweet repeat episode. Whether this terrible discovery is fresh or something you’ve been quietly carrying for a while, this conversation will help you take your first steps toward healing.

I'm also sharing from both sides of the story—as someone who has experienced infidelity and caused it—with compassion, clarity, and a path forward that doesn’t depend on your spouse’s readiness.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, ashamed, or alone… this episode is for you.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• Why infidelity is more destructive than most people realize
• The truth about healing (and why it doesn’t start where most people think)
• Why jumping straight into couples or marriage counseling may not be the best first step
• The importance of focusing on your personal healing first
• Encouragement for those who haven’t told anyone yet
• How to begin moving forward—even if your spouse isn’t ready

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We're celebrating our 400th episode and tackling one of the most important topics in marriage—consistency. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like your efforts to improve your marriage aren’t working or wondered if all those small daily actions really matter, this episode is for you.

Today, I’m sharing my personal journey and my not-so-secret struggle with staying consistent—not just in my marriage, but in life! I’ll walk you through a simple, actionable framework that I created called the CARE acronym (Check-in, Affection, Reassurance, Encouragement) to help you build trust, commitment, and affection in your relationship. I’ll also give practical tips for daily connection, show you how to stay motivated when you don’t see instant results, and explain why the little things you do will eventually transform your marriage.

You’ll hear:

• Why consistency is a game-changer for marriage

• How to use 5-10 minute daily check-ins to reconnect with your spouse

• Simple ways to show affection and reassurance every single day—even if it feels awkward at first

• Real encouragement to keep planting seeds, even when it seems like nothing is changing

• How intentionality transformed my relationship with Shawn after years of inconsistency

Whether you’re newly married or have been together for decades, this episode will equip you with the tools you need to build a stronger, more secure marriage—one small, consistent step at a time. You can create the marriage you want, and I hope this milestone episode inspires you to start today!

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Get my new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples

Ep. 394: Do You Need Help, a Hug, or Just to Be Heard? 3 Questions Show Empathy and Care

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Do you often get frustrated or maybe even sad because it seems you're the only one working on your marriage? Like, your spouse is "in it," but he/she doesn't seem to take the marriage seriously. You often feel taken for granted, or you feel like you take two steps forward and twelve steps back?

Today's episode is just what you need to hear. This is a sweet repeat (an oldie but goodie)... a listener's question that I answered live on the podcast.

My answer still holds true. And it will still work for you, too.

Why You Should Listen?

You’ll learn how to:

• Change your step in the 'marriage dance'

• Switch your focus

• Overcome frustration when nothing seems to be working

• Get a new perspective

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Is your relationship recovering from infidelity? Learn about my Infidelity Intensive here.

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As a marriage coach, I know firsthand how unspoken and unrealistic expectations can quietly sabotage even the strongest marriages. In this episode, I'm sharing practical strategies to help you define, communicate, and realign your expectations so you and your spouse can avoid unnecessary disappointment and disconnection.

We'll talk about the five most common unrealistic expectations couples face, including the beliefs that our spouse should never change, should make us happy, or should simply know what we're thinking. I share some of my own personal stories—like how my expectation for Shaun to be the spiritual leader in our home led to unnecessary disappointment and what I learned about the roots of where that specific expectation came from.

You’ll learn how to:

• Get curious together instead of assuming your way is the only way

• Stay flexible and open to growth as both you and your spouse change

• Collaborate and celebrate your unique strengths as a couple

• Let go of the pressure to change each other

• Develop a gratitude mindset for a more joyful marriage

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Get your copy of my new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples

Related episodes:

• Ep. 126 - How to Create a Marriage Vision
• Ep. 304 - 4 Expectations Every Marriage Should Have

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Before you get married, there are several important conversations you need to have. In this episode, I'm sharing 12 emotionally healthy questions every couple should ask before getting married. Whether you’re single, engaged, or already married and just want to build deeper intimacy with your spouse, these conversation starters will help you avoid pitfalls and create a lasting connection in your relationship.

Many people enter marriage with unrealistic expectations and without the preparation they truly need. That's why I'm walking you through twelve powerful questions designed to spark vulnerable conversations—including how to make your partner feel heard, set appropriate boundaries with friends, handle conflict, address emotional wounds, and discover your emotional health meters.

You’ll discover:

• The essential questions to identify what makes you (and your partner) feel loved, valued, and understood

• How to recognize and talk about emotionally unsafe behaviors that can sabotage connection

• The importance of knowing how you and your partner respond to hurt, stress, and burnout—and why you need to see each other at your worst as well as your best before tying the knot

• Strategies for reconnecting after conflict and not taking each other for granted

• Why sharing your dreams, emotional needs, and even moments of sadness can set the stage for greater intimacy and emotional health

I also dive into how friendship dynamics must shift when you get married (yes, even those platonic besties!) and I break down why recognizing your own patterns—and understanding your partner’s—is the foundation for a healthy relationship.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

• Download my free audio guide, 7 Secret Marriage Rules to Know Before I Do and After I Did
• Grab your copy of my brand new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples.

If you’re engaged, thinking about marriage, or want to refresh and deepen your connection, these 12 questions will transform the way you communicate and understand each other.

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We've all heard it said, maybe even said it ourselves—marriage is hard. It's true...marriage, like life, has its seasons. There are winters in marriage, challenging times when things feel cold and bleak. But what if we can reframe that belief? What if instead of seeing marriage as hard work, we saw it as heart work?

In this episode, I break down five reasons your marriage might feel difficult right now, and more importantly, how to fix it. Even good couples go through seasons of tension, frustration, and emotional distance but understanding the root causes of your marriage problems can change everything.

I talk about how communication breakdowns, unmet expectations, unresolved hurt, and emotional disconnection can slowly impact the health of your relationship.

If you want to strengthen your marriage, improve communication, and rebuild intimacy, this episode will help you see what might be happening and where to start.

This episode is especially helpful if you are:

• Struggling with conflict in your marriage

• Feeling emotionally disconnected from your spouse

• Trying to rebuild trust after relationship challenges

• Looking for faith-based encouragement for your marriage

Marriage can be hard at times, but so can nearly everything in life. Ultimately, life is full of choices, including choosing your hard. Maintaining self-control despite challenges or engaging in destructive behaviors are both hard in their own ways. Choose wisely.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Ep. 288: 7 Traits to Create a More Resilient Relationship

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Have you been feeling overlooked, devalued, or unseen by your spouse? Does is feel like your marriage is running on autopilot, where someone or something else always seems to take priority over you? What do you do when you feel like you’re coming in second place in your marriage, or as I call it, “playing second fiddle.”

I open up about with wisdom straight from my new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples, specifically taking you into the story of Jacob and Leah from the book of Genesis. If you’ve ever felt undervalued, overlooked, or like you just can't win your spouse’s affection—this episode is for you.

Plus, I'll unpack key conversation starters you can use to reconnect with your spouse and discuss these feelings in a healthy, constructive way. And, I’ll close out with a special prayer to cover you and your marriage.

Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode:

• What “playing second fiddle” looks like in marriage today

• Lessons from Jacob and Leah: How God values those who feel unseen

• How insecurity shows up—in-laws, kids, friends, or “ideals”

• Why your worth and purpose can’t come from your spouse alone

• Two powerful conversation starters to cultivate security and intimacy

• A prayer for healing, unity, and renewed value in your marriage

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Get my new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples

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