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Some patterns don't announce themselves. They arrive quietly, build slowly, and by the time you have language for what's happening, years have gone by.

My guest today is Mia Hanks, an author and survivor who spent 29 years inside a marriage marked by covert narcissistic abuse — the kind that leaves no marks anyone else can see. She's written two memoirs about that experience, and in this conversation she shares what those years actually looked like from the inside.

If you've ever wondered why it took you so long to see it, Mia's story is a reminder that the answer is usually built into how these patterns work — not into anything wrong with you.

Find Mia:

• Books and more of her story: https://miajhanks.com
• Narcissism in Marriage: Understanding the Cycle of Abuse

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