Leadership wasn't part of the original plan, but sometimes the roles that shape us most are the ones we never saw coming.

In this episode, my friend Shawn shares his accidental leadership story and the lessons he's learned along the way. We talk about navigating imposter syndrome, the difference between leading from scars instead of wounds, and what to do when the responsibility you're carrying becomes bigger than you expected. Shawn also unpacks how understanding your strengths, knowing your limits, and staying connected to your "why" can help you lead with confidence and authenticity.

Whether you have a leadership title or you're simply influencing the people around you, this conversation is full of practical wisdom and encouragement for anyone trying to lead well without losing themselves in the process.

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:33 Shawn’s unlikely leadership origin story
• 12:45 Imposter syndrome and how to fight against it
• 23:19 Leading from scars vs wounds
• 25:15 When leading becomes more than you expected
• 29:27 Using your strengths
• 32:15 Defining success
• 35:30 Knowing your limits
• 36:41 Knowing your why
• 42:42 What makes a good leader
• 49:17 Closing

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Just be cause we feel like we know someone, doesn't mean they feel like we do. How do we get the context out of our heads and into the conversation?

Today I'm unpacking various things that impact our interpretation of what it means to know someone, including generation gaps as explained by Daniel Moral on Silicon Canals.

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:28 Goals Check-In
• 07:36 What I’m Learning from God rn
• 12:30 Knowing with Context
• 24:55 Generational Gaps
• 38:20 Knowing with New Information
• 48:39 Hard Conversation of the Week
• 51:41 What I’m Watching Right Now

Article referenced today: I’m 38 and I noticed last summer that my parents mostly ask about logistics — the drive, the weather, the dogs, the job — and rarely ask how I actually am by Daniel Moran

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It’s been brought to my attention that when I say “I hate small talk, I want to be deep,” some people have interpreted that as “I want to be dark and sad all the time,” which is not at all the case.

So I brought on Cody Beck, one of my best friends, to demonstrate what I find to be a deep and interesting discussion.

We revisit last week’s topic, indifference, along with the first chapter of How to Know a Person by David Brooks, which also explores this topic.

The goal of this conversation is to figure out how we feel about indifference - what does it mean? Is it good? Is it bad? Etc. The point is not for us to arrive at the same conclusion or to agree with each other, but to help each other arrive at a conclusion and understand how we each got to where we land.

• 00:00 Intro
• 05:10 Recapping last week’s topic of indifference
• 11:28 Emotional data points and being known
• 17:46 Communication and therapy
• 18:49 Is indifference inherently bad?
• 23:18 What does indifference actually mean?
• 29:50 How to Know a Person by David Brooks
• 42:56 When someone assigns a personality trait you disagree with
• 57:29 Feeling seen
• 01:10:31 How new information changes an opinion

Cody Beck is the creator and co-host of American Hauntings Podcast, which is available wherever you listen to podcasts. Learn more here: https://www.codybeck.com/american-hauntings-podcast

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I used to think indifference was a bad thing, but I’m starting to feel like it’s good, maybe even necessary, because it allows space for us to evaluate things, look at the big picture, see clearly, and decide what action to take to create meaningful change. Let's talk about it.

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:30 Goals Check-In
• 09:00 Topic: Indifference
• 32:06 Hard Conversation of the Week
• 43:09 What I’m Watching Right Now

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When we speak, we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak. - Audre Lorde

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:33 Goals Check-In
• 05:56 What I’m learning from God rn
• 08:24 Topic: Speak Up
• 17:42 Hard Conversation of the Week
• 28:33 What I’m Watching Right Now

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Currently obsessed with Netflix’s new reality series, Age of Attraction, and how it highlights that age gaps don’t break relationships - bad communication does.

I am notorious for wanting everyone to read my mind (which, yes, I know is impossible, I never said I was sane) and I will probably be in therapy forever just because I’ll never understand how other people’s brains work, but I’m still trying!!

I love my friends soo much and want them to know that and want to be able to communicate it in ways that make them feel loved, and I also want that from them, but sometimes it’s so hard that it doesn’t feel worth the time or energy.

Let’s get into it.

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:29 What I’m learning from God rn
• 04:54 Goals Check-In
• 11:33 Topic: Bad Communication Ruins Relationships
• 20:58 Hard Conversation of the Week
• 28:12 What I’m Watching Right Now

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We’ve all heard the saying “comparison is the thief of joy” and social media has made this more relevant than other. Spending so much time watching other people’s highlight reels is a great way to feel inadequate.

I believe we all have a purpose in life, and God made us unique individuals for specific reasons. I wasn’t born to be a mathematician, a teacher, or a scientist. I was born to make art. But I’m also a perfectionist with OCD tendencies and that makes me a really good project manager, which I’ve come to see as a nice career that funds my art.

I’ve found that focusing on my own calling, and not anyone else’s, has given me so much peace. This week, I’m reflecting on how to do that.

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:55 What I’m learning from God rn
• 09:55 Goals Check-In
• 18:03 Topic: Focus on YOUR calling, not someone else’s
• 24:06 Hard Conversation of the Week
• 29:20 What I’m Watching Right Now

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I don’t know about you, but I grew up pretty pain-adverse. My parents were a bit over-protective and did a little too much for my sisters and I in the name of wanting it to be done correctly, keep everything wrapped in a little bow, and avoid most (or all) of life’s struggles.

Except… that seemed to cause the exact opposite to happen.

We ended up seemingly picture perfect on the outside, but screaming in pain on the inside, because we learned to grin and bear it. Don’t talk about it. Push it down. Fake it til you make it.

Today, I’m reflecting on why the older generations seem so resistant to pain, and how I’ve found that embracing it as part of life and growing through what you go through is healing.

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:51 What I’m learning from God rn
• 08:04 Goals Check-In
• 11:18 Topic: Heartbreak Happens
• 20:11 Hard Conversation of the Week
• 28:44 What I’m Watching Right Now

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