This is how Shelley Simon’s lifelong performance began. A relentless, unending, and critical performance. A weight of responsibility that nobody expects.

Her daughter Zoe was born with Congenital Central Hypoventilation Syndrome – CCHS. This is a condition of the autonomic nervous system that means Zoe needs to be on a ventilator. Currently, she only needs the ventilator while sleeping or when something goes awry.

It’s that last part that keeps Shelley on her toes. There is no time to drop the vigilance or step away from the performance.

But Shelley has learned to allow Zoe to do all the things kids like to do including skiing and snorkeling. As she has been shaped by Zoe, she has committed to helping others navigate this path, this performance, with courage.

We will talk more about this and her book “Beautiful Chaos” in the next episode.

“I have no idea what I'm doing. I've never done this before. I am a pediatrician, but I have not been trained on this. I couldn't be more qualified to be Soraya's mother, and yet I am clueless.” Tasha Faruqui

In this conversation, Dr. Tasha Faruqui shares her lived experience raising her daughter who has been diagnosed with TAOK-1. It is a story of simultaneously seeing two sides of the rare disease experience. And that surfaces a ton of insights that parents raising kiddos with rare disease can learn from.

As a pediatrician, she understands medical terminology, lab results, and other measure. As a mom, she now knows what it feels like to be gaslighted. This experience has shown her the value of honesty, in both directions and with her children.

Her family has coined the term “sucking the joy out of life” which perfectly captures the duality of the situation. Undoubtedly, a rare disease can take a huge emotional toll and, at the same time, bring the moments of joy into stark focus. It all depends on how you look at it.

Tasha wants our listeners to understand that the story is not finished. Not hers. Not theirs. You can learn more about her ongoing story in her book KEEP YOUR HEAP UP: A MOTHER’S STORY OF CHASING JOY IN THE FACE OF GRIEF.

Our conversation explores the end of the school year, summer planning, managing health challenges, and finding peace amidst life's unpredictability. Brittany and Kevin share insights on delegation, self-care, and maintaining perspective during busy seasons.

A note from Kevin: As we were preparing to publish this episode, Brittany and her family faced another unexpected challenge. Everleigh had a severe seizure episode on Father’s Day. As of today, she has been hospitalized for nearly a week and is undergoing several tests. We ask our listeners to keep their whole family in your thoughts and prayers.

This situation serves to remind us just how challenging raising kiddos with rare diseases can be. It is ironic that our discussion, recorded nearly a month ago, covered the challenges of being prepared for unpredictability.