Conversations Black Men Were Never Taught To Have

No guest this time. Just me.

Principle 6 — Replace Negative Habits. You can't just stop. You must replace.

Most people hear that and think about the gym. The diet. Scrolling less. But what about the habits that nearly cost you everything? The ones you couldn't see clearly because you were inside them?

In this episode I get honest about my own story. What the habit was. What it was actually doing for me. What it cost before I did something about it. And what I put in its place.

The fellowship. The mat. The work that's still ongoing.

This is the most personal episode I've made.

IN THIS EPISODE:
— What the habit was and what it was really giving me
— When I knew it was a problem
— What it cost me before I asked for help
— What asking for help actually looked like
— Why BJJ — what the mat gave me that nothing else could
— You can't just stop — you must replace. What that means from the inside
— What I'm still working on

Re-Engineer Your Life is a podcast for high-achieving men navigating the gap between external success and internal reality. Each episode is built around one of 10 principles from the book Re-Engineer Your Life by Ed Brown.

🎙️ Hosted by Ed Brown — Broadcast Engineer. BJJ Black Belt. Father. Recovering Human.

Conversations Black men were never taught to have.

Aaron Dale — known as Raising Boys To Men — grew up without a father, became one, and built a movement of 600,000 people by being honest about how hard it was.

In this episode Ed Brown sits down with Aaron for Principle 5 of Re-Engineer Your Life: Embrace Vulnerability. They cover absent fathers and breaking the cycle, co-parenting when the wounds are still open, what vulnerability actually costs a man, the relationship between strength and healing, and the importance of black love.

This one hit different.

00:00 Introduction
02:46 Absent Fathers
15:30 Vulnerability is a threat — co-parenting, romance, dating and money
30:06 Going public with your co-parenting journey
34:00 Co-parenting when the wounds are open
40:33 Vulnerability vs strength
44:00 Healing the wound — the importance of black love
47:38 The Big Question

Conversatiovens Black Men Were Never Taught To Have

Ego builds careers. It also destroys the people behind them.

In this episode, I sit down with grime and tribal house pioneer DJ Mak10 to talk about Principle 4: Seek Professional Help — and the thing that stands between most men and that decision: ego.

The version of yourself you build to survive. The warning signs you ignore because admitting them feels like defeat. And what happens when you finally put the ego down and tell the truth.

All 10 principles: ed360.substack.com
More at www.re-engineer.uk