In this little riff, I attempt to unpack what it really means to “step into a new identity”... beyond the pinterest quotes and pop spiritual manifestation fluff.

From the bamboozlement of future tripping, realizing how much mental energy goes into trying to get it right or plan for the future, to the tenderness of trusting yourself when the path is unknown — we’re pulling on threads of self-trust, perfectionism, and the nervous system’s craving for safety in this one!

Expect musings on:

• Why “I’m working on it” language keeps you STUCK in limbo land
• The MYTH of needing clarity before taking action
• What straddling two identities actually feels like
• The quiet courage of trusting the breadcrumbs that energize and inspire

If you’re navigating your own identity shift (in motherhood, business, or life - hello late identified neurodivergence LOL) , let's connect!!

As always, I'd love to hear what stirs or lands for you in this conversation. Send me an unscripted voice note on IG (@nicolepasveer) and let me know!

What if your nervous system isn’t something to fix or “capacity build”?

What if the most radical practice isn’t doing more, but simply noticing?

And what if the mainstream understanding of the nervous system is just whitewashed wellness hacks — colonized language for ancient ancestral wisdom?

In this episode, I riff on those questions and share:

🌿 The hidden ways our nervous systems keep us tangled in hustle, chaos, and productivity loops

🌿 How to meet those patterns neutrally as data instead of flaws

🌿 Why saying “how interesting” and “this belongs” can shift everything

🌿 The truth that our bodies already know this work, long before science caught up

This isn’t about mindset tricks, productivity hacks, or another self-improvement project. It’s about rewilding, remembering, and coming back into relationship with your innate wisdom.

Big love + exhale

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I went live this week on Instagram planning to “market” my new group… and instead rambled about lazy launches, shame spirals, motherhood, if-then thinking, and why I’m DONE overcomplicating every f*ckin thinggggg!

This episode is extra messy and unscripted, but maybe that’s the medicine?

I touch on the following:

• Why the “if you just do this, then you’ll get that” narrative is so sneaky (and quite frankly, pure bullsh*t)
• How shame spirals keep us stuck in freeze (and what naming them does)
• My reframe on marketing and why I’m calling this launch “lazy”
• The truth about motherhood, identity, and seasons where everything feels heavy
• What I’m experimenting with instead of forcing strategy

At the end, I share about Exhale — my 6-week support group + practice lab for heavy-hearted humans, mothers, creatives + visionaries carrying a dream of a different world… while desiring space, nuance, and nervous system nourishment to keep holding it.

Exhale is a space where we slow down, name our real desires, and anchor into rhythms that actually let you keep going.

👉 We start Oct 9. Click here to learn more + join!