Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino:

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Apply to Join QCC: https://queercountryclub.com

🌈 Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you.

Reserve A Private Coaching Session: https://sophiaspallino.com/private-coaching

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In this episode of Queer Women Rising, we unpack one of the most common and most complicated dynamics in queer relationships: lesbian exes who stay best friends.

For some women, it’s a beautiful sign of maturity and emotional growth. For others, it raises red flags, jealousy, or confusion. Either way, this situation is more common in queer communities than many realize, and it comes with its own unique set of benefits and challenges.

We explore:

• Why lesbians stay friends with their exes. From shared history and pets to overlapping friend groups and chosen family, cutting ties isn’t always simple.

• The emotional benefits of staying close after a breakup, including continued intimacy, reduced isolation, and mutual respect.

• The pitfalls and red flags to watch for, like lingering romantic feelings, blurred sexual boundaries, or guilt-driven friendships.

• How being friends with an ex affects new relationships and what boundaries are needed to protect trust with a current partner.

• Healthy ways to rebuild friendship with an ex once the romance has ended, from taking space first to communicating openly with future partners.

Whether you’re questioning is it a red flag if my lesbian girlfriend is still friends with her ex or wondering how to be friends with your ex as a queer woman, this conversation gives you clarity.

At the heart of it all, friendship with an ex can be healing and affirming, or it can hold you back from moving forward. Knowing the difference and setting boundaries accordingly is what creates safety and space for real love to flourish.

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Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino:

💎Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking - For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love.

Explore Private Matchmaking: https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service

✨Exclusive Luxury Lesbian™ Retreat at Canyon Ranch – A blissful weekend with an intimate group of extraordinary single queer women… curated to spoil your senses and reignite your belief in love and possibility.

Join The Luxury Lesbian™ Getaway: https://queercountryclub.com/luxury-lesbian-retreat

❤️The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.

Apply to Join QCC: https://queercountryclub.com

🌈 Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you.

Reserve A Private Coaching Session: https://sophiaspallino.com/private-coaching

💬Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino

🔺Get Wisp Kitty Care 🐱 Proud Partner

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In this episode of Queer Women Rising, Sophia Spallino breaks down what the bare minimum really looks like in a woman-loving-woman relationship. From airport pickups with flowers to stocking the fridge with her favorite snacks, Sophia explains why these aren’t grand gestures…they’re the baseline of thoughtful lesbian love. She contrasts this with the low bar women are conditioned to accept from men and reminds queer women to expect more, settle less, and embrace the peaceful, intentional love they deserve.

Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino:

💎Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love.

Explore Private Matchmaking: https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service

✨Exclusive Luxury Lesbian™ Retreat at Canyon Ranch - A blissful weekend with an intimate group of extraordinary single queer women… curated to spoil your senses and reignite your belief in love and possibility.

Join The Luxury Lesbian™ trip: https://queercountryclub.com/luxury-lesbian-retreat

❤️The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.

Apply to Join QCC: https://queercountryclub.com

🌈 Private Rising Coaching Session - If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you.

Reserve A Private Coaching Session: https://queercountryclub.com/private-coaching

💬Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino

🔺Get Wisp Kitty Care 🐱 Proud Partner

https://bit.ly/sophiawisp

Ever crawled out of a messy breakup and somehow built your dream lesbian life?

Zara Barrie is the critically acclaimed author of Girl, Stop Passing Out in Your Makeup, creator of Girls on Jane, and host of the new dating column Mascara Lesbian.

After surviving deep heartbreak, a toxic relationship, and profound grief—she’s now living a hot, healing, wildly creative lesbian life in West Hollywood.

Listen to GIRLS ON JANE:

Lesbian Fiction | Girls on Jane

a sexy, serialized fiction audio drama (written & narrated by me) about the heartbreak and hedonism of a group of lesbian women living in Manhattan, pre-marriage equality (early-aughts!). I'm also linking out my Substack and GO Mag byline (all lesbian sex and dating) for reference.

Listen/read Mascara Lesbian:

ZARA BARRIE WORDS | Substack

Read her Lesbian Dating and Sex Column:

https://gomag.com/author/zara-barrie/

📲 Connect with my guest, Zara Barrie.
Follow Zara on Instagram: Zara Barrie (@zarabarrie)
Check out her work at: https://www.zarabarrie.com