Relationships can be exciting, messy, intense, and confusing — especially in your twenties. But sometimes, what feels like “passion,” “chemistry,” or someone being “really into you” can actually be early signs that something isn’t right. And when you’re in it, it can be really hard to tell the difference.
So this week, we’re diving into a big Quarter Life Question:
How do you spot early signs of unhealthy or abusive behaviour - and what does a genuinely safe, supportive, fear-free relationship look like?
I’m joined by Debbie Beadle, CEO of FearFree, a UK charity supporting people experiencing domestic abuse, sexual violence, or unhealthy relationships. Debbie has spent years working directly with survivors and helping people understand the subtle, early warning signs before abuse escalates.
✨ In this episode, we chat about:
- The different forms abuse can take — emotional, financial, digital, and more
- Early, subtle signs that a relationship may be turning unhealthy
- Why some red flags get normalised or go unnoticed over time & the impact of trauma bonds
- What lovebombing actually is
- How friends and family can support someone they’re worried about
- And importantly… what a healthy, supportive relationship should look like
DISCLAIMER: If you may find any of the above distressing please skip to 38 minutes 20 seconds.
💬 More about FearFree:
FearFree is a UK charity providing support, advocacy, and specialist services for people experiencing domestic abuse, sexual violence, stalking, or unhealthy relationships. Their work is trauma-informed, non-judgmental, and aimed at helping people feel safer, empowered, and understood.
Find out more: https://www.fearfree.org.uk/
🧡 Additional organisations & helpful resources:
- National Domestic Abuse Helpline – 0808 2000 247
- Refuge
- Women’s Aid
- Galop (LGBTQ+ anti-abuse charity)
- Respect Men’s Advice Line
📲 Want to get involved?
Got a Quarter Life Question you’d love to hear answered on the pod?
DM me on Instagram @gracemcintosh1 or TikTok @gracemcintosh_ — I’d love to hear from you!
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Grace x
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