Attraction doesn’t disappear because something is wrong with you.
It collapses when your nervous system feels evaluated.

Pressure, performance, and self-monitoring activate the Arousal Inhibition Response (AIR). Attraction can still exist, but spontaneity shuts down because the brain no longer feels safe to open.

Modern dating and social media train the nervous system to stay in surveillance mode. Under surveillance, attraction doesn’t open — it inhibits.

The opposite of performance isn’t passivity.
It’s availability.

When the nervous system stands down, space returns.
And attraction follows naturally.

If this feels familiar, nothing is broken.
Your nervous system just needs safety again.

Why Attraction Collapses Under Pressure💞 💥 Learn how to turn AIR off and restore attraction at https://drtrishleigh.com/ — You deserve connection without pressure.

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Hi. I am Dr. Trish Leigh, a Cognitive Neuroscientist, and Sex Addiction Recovery Coach. I am on a mission to help people heal their brains from porn use.
My podcasts are designed to help you learn that:
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🎯Porn Impairs Your Mental and Physical Health, and
🎯Porn Destroys Your Relationships.

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Your brain isn’t broken. You’re living inside a neurological environment built by chronic overstimulation.

What feels “normal” today is engineered. Algorithms train your nervous system to expect reward without effort — and over time, your brain’s effort system goes offline.

When stimulation replaces engagement, motivation drops, focus fractures, emotional regulation weakens, and desire shuts down.

That’s not a discipline problem.
It’s a nervous system state.

In this Supernormal conversation, you’ll understand:
• Why overstimulation rewires effort, desire, and regulation
• Why habit change fails when the nervous system is dysregulated
• Why porn use and dopamine loops flatten real-world reward
• How miswiring shows up as low motivation, anxiety, ED, or shutdown

Real change doesn’t start with willpower.
It starts with seeing how your brain adapts.

Why Fantasizing Feels Normal 🤔👉 If you want clarity instead of guessing, brain mapping shows what’s actually happening — and how regulation restores capacity, start with a brain map at https://drtrishleigh.com/

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Hi. I am Dr. Trish Leigh, a Cognitive Neuroscientist, and Sex Addiction Recovery Coach. I am on a mission to help people heal their brains from porn use.
My podcasts are designed to help you learn that:
🎯Porn Damages Your Brain,
🎯Porn Impairs Your Mental and Physical Health, and
🎯Porn Destroys Your Relationships.

Subscribe to this channel for 🧠 tips to:
✅Quit Porn for Good
✅Heal Your Brain from Porn
✅Get Motivated in Your Life
✅Repair Your Mental & Physical Health
✅Heal Erectile Dysfunction

If you need more help, I can work directly with you.
Check out the programs below.
https://drtrishleigh.com/

Donate to Porn Brain Prevention, the nonprofit to help teens avoid porn addiction below:
https://pornbrainprevention.org/

Let's Connect! Check out my Linktree:
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How the Nervous System Restores Motivation, Drive, and Follow-Through

By the end of January, goals don’t usually disappear — effort does.

You don’t stop caring. Your nervous system just stops permitting effort.

When your autonomic nervous system shifts into protection mode, relief becomes the priority, not growth. That’s why pushing harder only makes you feel more blocked. Effort is not a personality trait or a moral quality. It’s a biological state created by regulation.

This episode explains the Effort Gate: the neurological gateway between intention and action, why it closes under overload, and how to reopen it using a simple, neuroscience-based reset — without willpower, pressure, or burnout.

Nothing is broken in you. Your system just needs the right signal to feel safe enough to move forward again.

If this feels familiar, let me help you reset the system and get effort back online.
Explore brain mapping and nervous system regulation at https://drtrishleigh.com/ — you deserve a brain that works with you, not against you.

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Support the show

Hi. I am Dr. Trish Leigh, a Cognitive Neuroscientist, and Sex Addiction Recovery Coach. I am on a mission to help people heal their brains from porn use.
My podcasts are designed to help you learn that:
🎯Porn Damages Your Brain,
🎯Porn Impairs Your Mental and Physical Health, and
🎯Porn Destroys Your Relationships.

Subscribe to this channel for 🧠 tips to:
✅Quit Porn for Good
✅Heal Your Brain from Porn
✅Get Motivated in Your Life
✅Repair Your Mental & Physical Health
✅Heal Erectile Dysfunction

If you need more help, I can work directly with you.
Check out the programs below.
https://drtrishleigh.com/

Donate to Porn Brain Prevention, the nonprofit to help teens avoid porn addiction below:
https://pornbrainprevention.org/

Let's Connect! Check out my Linktree:
https://linktr.ee/Drtrishleigh

#quitporn #pornaddiction #drtrishleigh #pornaddictionrecovery #pornbrainrewire #controlyourbrain #braintraining #trishleigh #nofap #pornkillslove #mindoverporn #monkmode #drleigh #pornaddict #pornaddictionsideeffects #addictedtoporn #cantstopmasturbating #recovery #recoveryjourney #addictionrecovery #recoverycoach #drtrishleigh #monkmode #addiction #pornbrainprevention #pornbrainprograms #releasetoquitporn #howtoquitporn