In this episode Dr. Marcus C. Shepard breaks down three internet-era relationship behaviors—ghosting, orbiting, and breadcrumbing—what they mean, why they’ve become common, and how they affect both romantic and platonic connections.

Ghosting is the sudden withdrawal of communication without explanation; orbiting is staying digitally connected (likes, story views, occasional DMs) without real contact; breadcrumbing is giving minimal, inconsistent attention to keep someone hopeful without genuine investment. Dr. Shepard explains these behaviors are usually unethical and ineffective except in cases like abuse where cutting contact is necessary.

The episode uses real examples and research-based reasons people ghost—ranging from lack of interest to timing and attachment styles—and describes how orbiting and breadcrumbing create mixed signals, false hope, and emotional confusion.

In the Ask Dr. Shepard segment, a new student asks how to make friends at the start of a semester. Practical tips include arriving early to class for casual “social snacking,” using group projects to build rapport, inviting classmates to meet outside of class to move beyond the classmate role, and joining campus clubs or student groups to meet people with shared interests.

Overall, the episode encourages accountability and clearer communication online and offline, offering both definitions and actionable advice to foster healthier interpersonal connections.

In this episode Dr. Marcus C. Shepard walks through Sherry Turkle’s "Reclaiming Conversation" and explores how smartphones and social media shift us from deep, face-to-face conversations to mere, shallow connections. He highlights terms like fubbing, whole-person conversation, solitude, punctuation in texting, maximizers vs. satisficers, multitasking vs. unitasking, intellectual serendipity, and weak vs. strong ties to explain why presence matters for empathy, creativity, and community.

Dr. Shepard shares personal examples—holiday gatherings, hosting friends, and classroom observations—to show how putting phones away fosters intimacy and meaningful dialogue. He discusses how technology creates an illusion of companionship, undermines solitude and self-reflection, encourages performative self-presentation, and changes expectations in dating and conflict.

The episode closes with practical takeaways inspired by the book: slow down, schedule solitude, create phone-free sacred spaces for conversation, practice unitasking, welcome difficult dialogues, avoid all-or-nothing thinking about technology, and remember that speaking and listening are skills that can be improved. These steps help reclaim conversation and build deeper community in an increasingly connected world.

Host Dr. Marcus C. Shepard discusses Jonathan Haidt’s book "The Anxious Generation" and how the shift from play-based to phone-based childhoods has reshaped Gen Z’s social skills and mental health. The episode covers key concepts including real-world versus virtual-world communication, conformity and prestige bias, discovery versus defend mode, safetyism, anti-fragility, and the four opportunity costs of phone-based childhoods: social deprivation, sleep loss, attention fragmentation, and addiction.

Shepard explains how embodied, synchronous, one-to-one real-world interactions build communication skills and resilience, while disembodied, asynchronous, one-to-many online interactions make relationships more disposable and increase anxiety. He reviews evidence on rising loneliness and mental-health problems since smartphones became widespread (2010–2015) and highlights strengths of Gen Z — awareness, openness to change, and desire for systemic reform.

The episode summarizes Haidt’s policy and parenting recommendations: no smartphones before high school, no social media before age 16, phone-free schools, and more unsupervised play and independence to restore discovery mode and anti-fragility. It closes with a short Ask Dr. Shepard segment about managing life and social media presentation, where Shepard emphasizes intentional choices, prioritizing quality relationships, and designing a lifestyle that supports presence and balance.

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard explains the family life cycle and the four core family communication patterns—consensual, pluralistic, protective, and laissez-faire—focusing on conversation and conformity orientations and how they shape family dynamics.

The episode ends with three practical tips for better family communication: reorienting relationships with restart conversations, managing words-thoughts-emotions, and setting boundaries, especially useful during holidays and removing oneself from the familial dynamic.

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard discusses a Wired article (https://www.wired.com/story/ai-relationships-are-on-the-rise-a-divorce-boom-could-be-next/) on the rise of AI relationships and their growing impact on marriages, including legal disputes and financial secrecy tied to chatbot companions.

He applies interpersonal communication concepts (investment, emotional closeness, trust, support) and Duck’s stages of relational breakdown, and closes with practical advice for managing tense family dynamics over Thanksgiving.

This episode summarizes a Swedish longitudinal sibling-comparison study (https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10680-024-09722-6) showing that cohabiting people have mortality risks between single and married individuals, with differences growing with age.

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard discusses health benefits of partnership, implications for aging and COVID-19, and ideas for future research on cohabitation and community health.

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard reviews a new multi-country study reported by the Institute for Family Studies showing that couples who met in person report higher relationship satisfaction and stronger experiences of intimacy, passion, and commitment than couples who met online (https://ifstudies.org/blog/couples-around-the-world-who-met-in-real-life-are-happier-than-those-who-met-online).

The episode discusses possible reasons—such as shared contexts, transparency, and selection criteria—offers practical advice for using dating apps (including setting non-negotiables and timelines), and explores limitations of the research.

The episode closes with an Ask Dr. Shepard segment advising a student on how to repair a strained relationship with a professor: request a meeting during office hours, document the conversation by email, and keep a respectful paper trail if problems continue.

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard explains how verbal communication creates meaning—covering symbols, arbitrariness, abstraction, ambiguity, brute vs. institutional facts, and how language evaluates and organizes experience.

He outlines communication rules (regulative and constitutive), punctuation, totalizing, loaded language, and offers practical guidelines: use person-centered language, specify levels of abstraction, qualify generalizations, and own your feelings with I-statements.

In Ask Dr. Shepard, he advises a listener who feels excluded to have one-on-one conversations using I-language to clarify feelings and consider hosting or re-engaging to repair friendships.