In this episode Dr. Marcus C. Shepard breaks down three internet-era relationship behaviors—ghosting, orbiting, and breadcrumbing—what they mean, why they’ve become common, and how they affect both romantic and platonic connections.

Ghosting is the sudden withdrawal of communication without explanation; orbiting is staying digitally connected (likes, story views, occasional DMs) without real contact; breadcrumbing is giving minimal, inconsistent attention to keep someone hopeful without genuine investment. Dr. Shepard explains these behaviors are usually unethical and ineffective except in cases like abuse where cutting contact is necessary.

The episode uses real examples and research-based reasons people ghost—ranging from lack of interest to timing and attachment styles—and describes how orbiting and breadcrumbing create mixed signals, false hope, and emotional confusion.

In the Ask Dr. Shepard segment, a new student asks how to make friends at the start of a semester. Practical tips include arriving early to class for casual “social snacking,” using group projects to build rapport, inviting classmates to meet outside of class to move beyond the classmate role, and joining campus clubs or student groups to meet people with shared interests.

Overall, the episode encourages accountability and clearer communication online and offline, offering both definitions and actionable advice to foster healthier interpersonal connections.

In this episode Dr. Marcus C. Shepard walks through Sherry Turkle’s "Reclaiming Conversation" and explores how smartphones and social media shift us from deep, face-to-face conversations to mere, shallow connections. He highlights terms like fubbing, whole-person conversation, solitude, punctuation in texting, maximizers vs. satisficers, multitasking vs. unitasking, intellectual serendipity, and weak vs. strong ties to explain why presence matters for empathy, creativity, and community.

Dr. Shepard shares personal examples—holiday gatherings, hosting friends, and classroom observations—to show how putting phones away fosters intimacy and meaningful dialogue. He discusses how technology creates an illusion of companionship, undermines solitude and self-reflection, encourages performative self-presentation, and changes expectations in dating and conflict.

The episode closes with practical takeaways inspired by the book: slow down, schedule solitude, create phone-free sacred spaces for conversation, practice unitasking, welcome difficult dialogues, avoid all-or-nothing thinking about technology, and remember that speaking and listening are skills that can be improved. These steps help reclaim conversation and build deeper community in an increasingly connected world.

Host Dr. Marcus C. Shepard discusses Jonathan Haidt’s book "The Anxious Generation" and how the shift from play-based to phone-based childhoods has reshaped Gen Z’s social skills and mental health. The episode covers key concepts including real-world versus virtual-world communication, conformity and prestige bias, discovery versus defend mode, safetyism, anti-fragility, and the four opportunity costs of phone-based childhoods: social deprivation, sleep loss, attention fragmentation, and addiction.

Shepard explains how embodied, synchronous, one-to-one real-world interactions build communication skills and resilience, while disembodied, asynchronous, one-to-many online interactions make relationships more disposable and increase anxiety. He reviews evidence on rising loneliness and mental-health problems since smartphones became widespread (2010–2015) and highlights strengths of Gen Z — awareness, openness to change, and desire for systemic reform.

The episode summarizes Haidt’s policy and parenting recommendations: no smartphones before high school, no social media before age 16, phone-free schools, and more unsupervised play and independence to restore discovery mode and anti-fragility. It closes with a short Ask Dr. Shepard segment about managing life and social media presentation, where Shepard emphasizes intentional choices, prioritizing quality relationships, and designing a lifestyle that supports presence and balance.