Episode 5: Becoming the Woman You Were Always Afraid to Be (featuring Lily Shepard)

In this powerful conversation, Hannah sits down with somatic executive coach Lily Shepard to talk about identity, the body, divorce, desire, and what it really means to become the woman you were meant to be.

Lily shares her own traumatic divorce experience, how identity collapses when the “wife” role disappears, and how reconnecting to the body creates space for safety, clarity, and authentic expansion.

They unpack:

• why most women run from something, not toward something

• the collapse that happens when identity is built on roles

• how to rediscover pieces of yourself you abandoned in marriage

• practical somatic tools for grounding and self-safety

• why joy feels terrifying

• the radical truth: “I want more” is a complete sentence

This episode will challenge you, comfort you, and offer a roadmap for the next version of yourself.

Hannah and Lily talk about how women evolve, and why identity shouldn’t be pinned down for other people’s comfort.

TIMESTAMPS & KEY MOMENTS

0:00 — Living Out Loud

2:07 — Identity Isn’t Fixed

3:55 — The Identity Collapse of Divorce

5:48 — Clinging to the Old Life

7:30 — Running From vs. Running Toward

9:44 — Bitter or Better

12:38 — Identity Built on Others

14:03 — Reclaiming What You Abandoned

19:11 — What Somatic Work Really Means

21:22 — Imagining the Woman You’re Becoming

24:08 — The Body as the Way Home

27:36 — Writing a Letter to Your Body

30:29 — Desire, Shame & “The Lion Inside”

34:01 — The Sentence Divorce Forces Out of You: “I Want More.”

39:23 — Practical Tools for Feeling Safe Again

42:58 — The Hardest Part: Letting Good Things In

47:55 — Best-Case-Scenario Thinking

51:48 — Divorce as a Superpower

Work with Lily:
Somatic Executive Coaching for high-achieving women rebuilding identity, safety, and desire

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bodyintelligence_academy/?hl=en
Website: https://www.bodyintelligenceacademy.com/
Coaching: https://www.bodyintelligenceacademy.com/1-1-coaching

Mentioned In This Episode

Hannah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahhembreebell/

OurFamilyWizard (OFW)
Court-trusted communication tool for co-parents.
https://www.ourfamilywizard.com

My Confident Divorce (MCD)
Hannah’s community + coaching for women navigating divorce, identity, and rebuilding their lives.
https://myconfidentdivorce.com

Hembree Bell Law Firm (HBLF)
Modern, tech-forward Texas family law representation that protects your peace, your kids, and your future.
https://hembreebell.com

This podcast and its show notes are for educational and informational purposes only.
Nothing in this episode constitutes legal advice, mental health advice, or financial advice. Every situation is unique, and listeners should consult with a licensed professional in their state before making decisions related to divorce, parenting, finances, or mental health.

If you feel unsafe at any point in your relationship, please contact a local domestic violence hotline or emergency services. Your safety matters.

Episode 4. The Money Talk Women Were Never Given: Why Divorce Blindsides Even the Smartest Women (featuring Sara Glakas)

In this practical conversation, Hannah sits down with financial educator and advisor Sara Glakas — founder of Black Barn Financial and the Austin Women’s Investing Group. She is a long-time advocate for helping women build confidence around money.

If you're navigating divorce, considering leaving, or realizing you never had a clear picture of your financial life, this episode explains why — and what you can do next.

Sara breaks down financial avoidance, investing basics, emotional decision-making, advisor red flags, and why so many capable women enter divorce without a roadmap.
Clear, accessible, and grounded in real experience, this conversation offers the financial context most women were never given.

00:00 – Why Women Walk Into Divorce Without a Map

01:28 – Meet Sara Glakas

02:14 – Inside a Family Law Firm: The Wake-Up Moment

04:08 – The Myths Women Carry Into Divorce

06:27 – ‘I’ve Never Looked at a Tax Return Before…’

10:51 – Financial Avoidance: The Silent Risk

13:10 – Understanding Your Money Story

15:50 – When Your Money Story Collides with Divorce

32:21 – Budgeting, Shame & Psychological Blocks

33:32 – Investing Basics Every Woman Should Know

38:53 – Why Financial Advisors Feel Intimidating

45:40 – How Advisors Get Paid (and Why It Matters)

1:06:52 – Stop Saving Joy for “Later”

1:15:47 – Final Thoughts: Women Are More Capable Than They Think

Connect with Sara Glakas

Check Out Black Barn Financial: https://www.blackbarnfinancial.com/

Check Out Austin Womens Investing Group:

https://austinwomensinvestinggroup.com/

Follow Sara on Her Podcast: https://www.womenontheverge.com/

Resources Mentioned:

The Circle — MyConfidentDivorce.com/Circle

OurFamilyWizard — OurFamilyWizard.com/HHB

Hembree Bell Law Firm - Hembreebell.com

Follow Hannah on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/hannahhembreebell/

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https://www.tiktok.com/@hannahhembreebell

Episode 3. Your Triggers Aren't The Problem... You Are (featuring Casey Shipp)

In this no-filter, no-bullshit conversation, Hannah sits down with her mentor, coach, and full-blown spiritual defibrillator, Casey Shipp — the woman Hannah calls her string bikini shaman and one of the biggest influences in her own evolution.

If you are in the middle of a divorce, thinking about leaving, or standing in the ashes asking, How did I end up here again? — this episode will feel like someone finally turned the lights on.

Casey talks triggers, victim cycles, emotional intelligence, money wounds, nervous system regulation, and the real reason women keep choosing the same man in a different body.
Warning: You will be called out. And you will be liberated.

00:00 – Why You’re Actually Triggered
Why triggers aren’t insults — they’re invitations. And why something only stings if some part of you believes it’s true.

06:00 – The Victim Loop & How Women Get Stuck There
How women in divorce land get trapped in victim → villain → victim cycles… and how to break the pattern before you ruin the next relationship.

12:00 – Taking Radical Responsibility (Without Shame)
How to look at the marriage you chose, the pain you allowed, and the version of yourself who said yes — with compassion instead of self-hate.

18:00 – Identity, Divorce & the House of Cards
Why your identity collapses during divorce — and the reason so many women realize they never built one of their own to begin with.

23:00 – Knowing What You Want (For Real This Time)
Casey guides you through how to uncover desire without guilt, fear, or the martyr voice that says: I don’t need anything.

30:00 – Money Wounds, Worthiness & the Lie of ‘I Can’t Afford to Leave’
The brutal truth about money stories, safety, and why staying for financial security is spiritual and emotional self-abandonment.

43:00 – Alignment, Emotional Intelligence & Taking the Next Right Step
How to know if your next move is aligned — and how to stop leaking energy through drama, fear, or frantic action.

50:00 – The Problem with Bitch-Fest Friend Groups
Why complaining to your friends keeps you stuck — and why AI might actually be the more emotionally mature support system right now.

54:00 – How AI Became a Tool for Emotional Regulation
Hannah shares how Casey’s AI helped her understand her emotional patterns, stop looping, and regulate instead of spiraling.

1:06:00 – Death, Rebirth & Reinvention (A Necessary Breakdown)
Casey opens up about her own current season of “the hustle detox” and spiritual death cycles.

1:08:00 – The One Message Casey Has for Every Woman in Divorceland
“Keep your heart open.”
Not naive. Not blind. Just open. Because nothing you want lives behind a closed heart.

• “Triggers are gifts — little truth bombs pointing you back to yourself.”

• “You didn’t choose wrong because you’re stupid. You chose from your unhealed places.”

• “Divorce can make you bitter or better — you choose.”

• “Money doesn’t come from men. Money comes from belief.”

• “If you’re trying to avoid disappointment, you will live a disappointing life.”

• “Nothing you want exists in a closed heart.”

• Casey Shipp’s AI — The emotional-regulation AI Hannah swears changed her life.

  →https://www.caseyshipphmz.com/hotbodyai

  • Casey Shipp’s Instagram - →https://www.instagram.com/caseyshipp/
  • Casey Shipp’s Youtube - →https://www.youtube.com/@CaseyShipp

• • The Circle — Weekly live sessions + My Confident Divorce course
    → myconfidentdivorce.com/circle

  • OurFamilyWizard — The co-parenting app that keeps communication clean and court-ready
    → ourfamilywizard.com/HHB

  • Hembree Bell Law Firm (Texas)
    → hembreebell.com

  Follow Hannah on Instagram & TikTok → @hannahhembreebell
  

  This podcast is for education and inspiration only, not legal, medical, or mental health advice. If you’re in Texas and need legal help, consult a licensed attorney. If you’re in danger, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233).