Ep. 12 Love After Divorce: Blending Families, Choosing Again, and Not Saving Life for Later (Featuring Drew Bell)

In this deeply personal episode, Hannah Hembree Bell sits down with her husband, Drew Bell, for an honest conversation about love after divorce, building a relationship inside a ready-made family, and what it really means to choose each other—again and again—after everything has fallen apart once.

This isn’t a fairy-tale “second marriage” story.

It’s a real one.

Hannah and Drew talk candidly about meeting shortly after Hannah’s divorce, navigating the realities of dating as a mom, stepping into a family that already exists, and the quiet decisions that make a relationship steady instead of dramatic.

If you’ve ever wondered:

Is it too soon to love again?

Can a relationship be calm and still be real?

What does it look like when someone chooses your whole life—not just you?

This episode is for you.

Together, Hannah and Drew unpack what it takes to build something grounded after chaos—and why waiting to live, love, or feel joy “later” is a cost most women don’t realize they’re paying.

Episode Timeline

00:00 – Welcome to Not Saving It for Later

01:00 – Introducing Drew & why this conversation matters

04:00 – Meeting shortly after divorce: timing, fear, and honesty

08:30 – Dating as a mom & stepping into an existing family system

13:00 – What blending families actually requires (and what it doesn’t)

18:00 – Calm vs. chaos: redefining what “chemistry” means

22:30 – Choosing steadiness over emotional whiplash

27:00 – Respect, patience, and learning your role inside a family

32:00 – What Drew learned about partnership, parenting, and support

38:00 – Love without urgency, pressure, or performance

44:00 – “Not saving joy, peace, or life for later”

About Drew Bell

Drew Bell is a trial attorney who spends his professional life handling high-stakes litigation—and his personal life building a steady, intentional partnership and family with Hannah.

Mentioned in This Episode

The Circle — Weekly live coaching + My Confident Divorce course

→ myconfidentdivorce.com/circle

Hembree Bell Law Firm (Texas)

→ hembreebell.com

Follow Hannah on Instagram & TikTok → @hannahhembreebell

Not Saving It for Later is the podcast for women navigating divorce and life beyond it—where we stop whispering about what’s hard and start talking about what’s real.

This show is for education and inspiration only — not legal or mental health advice.If you are in danger, contact local emergency services or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).

Ep 11. What No One Tells You Before Filing For Divorce (featuring Christopher Anderson)

In this grounded conversation, Hannah sits down with one of her closest advisors and longtime family law attorney, Christopher Anderson, a man who has spent decades inside the systems most people only encounter on the worst days of their lives.

Christopher has prosecuted domestic violence and sex crimes in the Bronx, represented families in high-conflict divorce, built and run law firms across the country, and lived the long-term consequences of a “bad split” as a child of divorce himself. He’s seen what actually protects children, and what quietly destroys them.

Together, Hannah and Christopher talk about why divorce doesn’t have to be chaos, why the system so often rewards conflict, and why leadership — in families, firms, and life — requires more honesty, restraint, and intention than most people are willing to practice.

If you’re in the middle of divorce…
If you’re exhausted by the process…
If you feel like you’re carrying the emotional and strategic weight for everyone else…

This episode will help you slow down, zoom out, and remember that clarity is kindness.

This is not about winning.
It’s about building something that lasts.

00:00 – Not Saving It for Later: Why We’re Done Waiting
02:30 – Who Christopher Anderson Really Is
05:00 – From the Bronx DA’s Office to Family Law
08:30 – Prosecuting Domestic Violence & Crimes Against Children
12:00 – Why Family Law Became Personal
15:30 – Being a Child of Divorce: When “Getting Out” Costs Everything
19:00 – Walking Away From Money to Protect Kids
23:00 – “There Has to Be a Better Way”
27:00 – Why Divorce Turns Chaotic So Fast
31:00 – The Hidden Cost of Conflict on Children
35:00 – Leadership, Power & Responsibility
39:00 – What the Legal System Can’t Fix
43:00 – Why Chaos — Not Divorce — Harms Kids
47:00 – Testing Everything on Yourself
51:00 – Building Firms (and Families) With Intention
55:00 – What Actually Protects People Long-Term
58:00 – Final Truth: Slow Is Strong

Connect With Christopher Anderson

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lawfirmbusiness/

Christopher Anderson — Family Law Attorney & Advisor
Based in Colorado
https://www.newleaf.family/

Mentioned In This Episode

The Circle — Weekly live coaching + My Confident Divorce
→ https://myconfidentdivorce.com/circle

OurFamilyWizard — Court-trusted co-parenting communication
→ https://ourfamilywizard.com/HHB

Hembree Bell Law Firm (Texas)
→ https://hembreebell.com

Follow Hannah on Instagram & TikTok
→ @hannahhembreebell

This podcast is for education and inspiration only — not legal, medical, or mental health advice.
If you’re in Texas and need legal guidance, consult a licensed attorney.
If you are in danger, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233).

Ep.10 When It’s Not Abuse… But It’s Still Not Right (Featuring Kole Whitty)

What if the most dangerous place to stay is the one that looks “fine”?

In this episode of Not Saving It for Later, Hannah sits down with Kole Whitty for a conversation about divorce, identity, desire, and the moment a woman realizes she can’t keep betraying herself to keep the peace.

This episode is for the woman who isn’t in crisis — but isn’t free either.

00:00 – Welcome to Not Saving It for Later
03:10 – When Nothing Is Technically Wrong… But Everything Feels Off

07:45 – The Pressure to Just Be Grateful

12:30 – Staying Loyal to a Life That’s Shrinking You

17:20 – When Your Body Starts Keeping the Score

22:40 – The Fear of Wanting More

28:05 – Leaving Without a Villain

33:50 – The Myth of “Blowing Up Your Life”

39:15 – Doing the Work Instead of Jumping to the Next Thing

45:10 – Money, Revenge, and the Cost of Being Right

50:30 – Desire vs. Deserve

55:40 – If You’re Standing at the Edge Right Now

59:00 – Final Reflections: Choosing Yourself Gently

The Circle — Weekly live coaching + The My Confident Divorce course
👉 https://myconfidentdivorce.com/circle

OurFamilyWizard — The co-parenting communication tool Hannah personally uses and recommends
👉 https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/HHB

Follow Hannah on Instagram & TikTok
👉 @hannahhembreebell

Texas family law support -
👉 https://hembreebell.com

Not Saving It for Later is the podcast for women navigating divorce and beyond — where we stop whispering about what’s hard and start talking about what’s real.

This podcast is for education and inspiration only — not legal, medical, or mental health advice.
If you are in danger, contact local emergency services or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).