It’s been four years since we first talked with Rainy and Paco way back on Episode 262. They’re back today with an update about how their relationship and approach to non-monogamy has evolved and what it’s meant to more fully embrace who they are. They talk about finding freedom in being fully themselves, building chosen family through deep friendships and shared experiences, and embracing their version of non-monogamy which doesn’t fit neatly under any one label. We also explore how ADHD, Autism, C-PTSD, OCD, and their different approaches to sexuality all shape the way they navigate non-monogamy and how they embrace explicit agreements and rules to approach everything as a team. These two are such a delight and this conversation is a beautiful and heartfelt look at the freedom that comes from knowing yourself, communicating openly, and creating relationships on your own terms.

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In this episode, we talk with Trixie, a non-binary genderqueer sex educator, coach, and activist, about their journey to embracing polyamory and overcoming the shame and societal expectations that once made it difficult to express who they were. We explore their expansive approach to love and relationships, where partners, metamours, and deep friendships all have a place, and why honest communication and finding community have been so transformative along the way. We also talk about their gender liberation work, the importance of building inclusive spaces, and what it means to embrace all the ways we can love, connect, and show up authentically.

Trixie Lamonte (Ariel) is a professional coach with an expertise in poly, sex, relationships, communication, desire, gender, sexuality, confidence, self-love, BDSM, transformation work, and radical expression. Trixie is a professional workshop facilitator, educator, writer, consultant, performer, public speaker, and ritualist. Trixie is also the founder of Gender Blender, a community dedicated to trans and nonbinary liberation and is proud to be poly, kinky, queer, and a gender rebel. Trixie is well known for hosting hot play parties, gogo dancing, MCing, and poly joy! For more information about all of Trixie's work check out www.polyexcellent.com.

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In this episode, we speak with Steve about life after a 25-year marriage and how seven years of dating and exploring relationships have changed the way he thinks about connection. He shares stories of friendships that became romantic and then returned to friendship, relationships that moved between exclusivity and openness, and the lessons he’s learned about being clear and intentional about what he wants. We talk about the possibilities, and challenges, of fluid relationships, including his current long-distance, non-monogamous relationship and his experience of briefly trying monogamy again before realizing how much pressure it placed on the relationship to become “everything.” Steve also reflects on his belief that relationships are kind of a “final frontier” for learning about ourselves, and his desire to explore that possibility without feeling bound by the societal scripts and expectations of the relationship escalator.

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