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Let's check that we are on the same page as we have a discussion about 'Values'. I am speaking about such things as being able to be Creative, have Integrity, Fitness, Security, Faith, Self Confidence, Wealth, Winning, Honesty and many more.

In the cool light of day, we would never purposely/consciously/intentionally trash our Values. They are a part of us and how we do life, want to do life and choose to do life on planet earth.

Our Values define us; define who we are; represent who we are; shape who we are. How dare you invite me to just flippantly get rid of one of my Values; destruct, destroy - trash my Values. Why on earth would anyone do that?

So, my question is - when it is not the cool light of day; when you are a little emotional, the logical rational part of your brain is not fully online line; perhaps due to a present conflict - do you find yourself doing, not doing something - which upon refection - represents you actually trashing your Values?

Can you see patterns of activities and behaviours which show you undermining those dearly held Values, which in other situations, you thought you would and could never do. Look how we undermine and trash our Values when emotions - such as conflict with a partner - gets the better of us.

Neural Pathway repetitive hamster wheel patterns of behaviours (from past learned and even inherited scripts from family) may be at work repeatedly, but we did not notice, analyse or give credence to what we were doing?

Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.

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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.

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