Why do you keep relapsing with porn—even when you want to quit?

In this episode of the No More Desire addiction recovery podcast, I uncover the hidden mental traps and false beliefs that sabotage your efforts to quit porn and stay sober for good. We’ll dig into the inner critic and inner escapist—two misunderstood parts of your psyche that actually think they’re helping you, but are keeping you stuck in the shame cycle.

You’ll learn how to respond to cravings, urges, and negative self-talk using powerful tools from IFS therapy, somatic healing, and emotional mindfulness. These practices go far beyond willpower—they're about cultivating male emotional intelligence and true spiritual growth for men.

If you’re ready to overcome porn addiction by getting underneath the surface, building emotional healing, and finally achieving sexual sobriety, this episode will give you the clarity, strategy, and encouragement you need.

You don’t need to fight yourself anymore. You need to understand yourself.

Whether you’re just starting your porn recovery journey or looking for new tools for relapse prevention, this episode will equip you with the mindset and skills to move forward with compassion, strength, and purpose.

Free Resources to Quit Porn:

👉 EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Cravings

👉 WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Overcome Porn Addiction

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In today’s powerful conversation, I welcome psychotherapist and Infinite Recovery Project founder Jason Shiers. Jason shares his deeply personal story of addiction, trauma, and his 20+ year journey through recovery — before a radical spiritual awakening changed everything.

Together, Jason and I dive into:

• Why trauma is often the hidden root of addiction.
• How traditional recovery models pathologize normal human responses.
• What it really means to heal — beyond symptom management.
• The transformational power of somatic work, parts work (IFS), and embodied spirituality.
• How authentic relationships become the ultimate container for healing.

Jason also explores how to reconnect with your true Self, why you are not broken, and why genuine freedom from addiction comes from a profound internal shift — not just managing behaviors.

Learn more about Jason at: InfiniteRecoveryProject.com

If you’re tired of surface-level recovery and ready for true transformation, this is a must-listen.

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Can a marriage truly heal after porn addiction and betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode of The No More Desire Podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith—coaches, authors, and a couple who’ve walked the road from addiction and deception to deep connection and true intimacy.

👉 Grab your FREE DOWNLOAD of The 8 Tools to Heal from Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma Here.

👉 Grab the Raabsmith's Free Guide: The Honest Connection

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The real impact of porn addiction in marriage
  
  
• How betrayal trauma affects the spouse of an addict—emotionally, neurologically, and relationally
  
  
• Why secrecy and double lives destroy intimacy—and how truth begins healing
  
  
• The difference between boundaries and control in recovery relationships
  
  
• Practical steps for rebuilding trust after porn addiction
  
  
• What it means to take full personal responsibility in addiction recovery
  
  
• Why most couples get stuck in imbalanced recovery dynamics—and how to shift them
  
  
• Tools from their Intimacy Pyramid framework that help couples reconnect emotionally, spiritually, and physically
  
  

Whether you're struggling with addiction, supporting a spouse who is, or both, this episode offers wisdom, validation, and hope. Matthew and Joanna are proof that recovery is possible, and that with the right tools, couples can move from surviving betrayal to thriving in renewed trust.

👉 Learn more about Matthew and Joanna’s work at RaabsmithTeam.com or order their book Building True Intimacy

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