"In today’s episode, the phrase “no more buffoonery” came out of my mouth somewhat jokingly. But honestly, it perfectly captures where I am.

This is a candid, slightly unhinged, and deeply personal conversation about my dating life: what I’ve experienced, what I’ve learned, what I’m calling in, and what I am absolutely no longer available for.

Erin asks me some really powerful questions about how I became a woman who is willing to walk away early, before I have all the answers, before a situation becomes unbearable, and even when there are real feelings involved. Because that wasn’t always who I was. There was a time when I would stay, hope, rationalize, overextend, or fall in love with someone’s potential. But somewhere along the way, something shifted.

I began to understand that discernment is not cynicism. Standards are not walls. And walking away from something that cannot meet you is not failure, it is an act of devotion to the life and love you know you are meant to have.

We also talk about situationship culture and the normalization of romantic ambiguity: connections that offer intimacy without commitment, access without responsibility, and just enough possibility to keep someone emotionally invested. I’m no longer interested in pretending that confusion is chemistry or that inconsistency is part of the adventure.

I want, and deserve, a great love. I want devotion, emotional safety, commitment, passion, marriage, family, and a man who is genuinely excited to build a beautiful life together. And I’ve realized that calling in that kind of relationship requires becoming unavailable for everything that imitates it but cannot actually become it.

So this episode is part dating confessional, part personal reckoning, and part declaration of what comes next. There is laughter, vulnerability, some truly questionable storytelling, and, of course, absolutely no more buffoonery." - Sasha

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