Today, I am joined by Tracey Bee, owner of the The Divorce Solutionist. Tracey specializes in guiding self-represented litigants through divorce and custody cases as a Family Court Strategist™. Tracey studied psychology at Fairleigh Dickinson University and got her legal training at Seton Hall University School of Law, and she leverages both of those areas of expertise to provide actionable strategies to help clients navigate family court with clarity and confidence.

In this conversation, Tracey shares her wisdom to help people understand when self-representation is a good idea, what the pitfalls are to be aware of, and how to be best prepared to walk into a courtroom as your own representative.

This discussion was incredibly informative and sheds light on a method of divorce that many people don't even know is an option.

To connect with Tracey Bee, visit her website The Divorce Solutionist.

In today's episode, Tamar is joined by family law attorney Nicole Sodoma.

Nicole is a nationally recognized family law attorney, author and thought leader, who is redefining divorce, co-parenting and modern family dynamics. She is the founder and managing principal of Sodoma Law, the largest family law firm in North and South Carolina.

A former litigator, certified parenting coordinator and collaborative law attorney, Nicole draws on her own lived experience as a step-parent, mother, ex-wife and entrepreneur to provide personalized strategies and tools for families navigating complex transitions. She is the author of Please Don't Say You're Sorry, which helps readers navigate the challenges of marriage and divorce with insight, humor and practical tools to move forward. Nicole is also the founder of the Sodoma Law Foundation, and a sought-after source on all things divorce and family, having been featured in outlets including The Wall Street Journal, USA Today and Business Insider.

Together, Tamar and Nicole discuss the complex time between staying and going. The "quiet middle" that people find themselves in when trying to figure out whether to stay in their marriage or leave.

Nicole shares insights based on her expertise as an attorney for over two decades and her lived experiences.

You can find Nicole on all socials @nicolesodoma. To learn more about Nicole's law practice, visit the Sodoma Law website.

And we're back with a new episosde of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast!

This episode probably should have been the first one I ever did. I realized that often when I'm meeting with potential new clients or talking to people online, they aren't really sure what a divorce coach is.

In this episode I break down that question and I address some of the most common other ones I receive. What's the difference between divorce coaching and therapy? Why should I spend money on another professional when divorce is already expensive? Do you just advocate for everyone to get divorced?

Have a listen to this episode and let me know if you have anything to add or any other questions you'd like answered. You can find me on Instagram or Threads and you can always reach out via email.

In this episode of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast, Tamar is joined by attorney and author Renee Bauer.

Renee has been a divorce attorney for 20 years. She is the founder and managing attorney of Happy Even After Family Law in Connecticut.

Renee is also an international speaker, author of 4 books – Divorce in Connecticut, The Ultimate Guide to Solo and Small Firm Success, the children's book Percy's Imperfectly Perfect Family, and her most recent, She Who Wins.

Renee hosts the annual She Who Wins Summit, a live event created to inspire, motivate and challenge women to move forward bravely in their personal and business lives. Her impact has been recognized by Success Magazine where she was nominated as a Woman of Influence and with awards such as Litigator of the Year, Women-Owned Business of the Year, and New Leaders in the Law. She has been featured in multiple media outlets such as the International Business Times, Comment Central, AP News, NBC, FOX, and iHeart Radio.

In this episode, Tamar and Renee explore:

• Why Renee fell in love with family law
• How Renee helps clients mitigate conflict
• Tough conversations lawyers can have with clients to help them realize when they are escalating conflict
• When going to court is unavoidable
• Other tips and tidbits of legal expertise
• Renee's app She Who Wins and all that it provides

You can find Renee on Instagram @msreneebauer or her firm website http://familylawyerct.com.

As always, you can find me at http://nbdivorcecoaching.com or on Instagram at @nbdivorcecoaching.

Be back with a new episode soon!

Welcome back to New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast!

I am thrilled to welcome Jill Kaufman to the show for this episode.

Jill is a divorce coach, therapist, mediator, and co-parenting expert. After going through her own difficult divorce, Jill made it her life's mission to help others not have it so tough. Her book, online course, and her transformational coaching program help parents navigate the overwhelming process of divorce so that they have less stress, more confidence and a greater sense of peace.

In this episode we address:

• The idea of "staying for the kids" and how it really impacts children
• Co-parents bad mouthing each other to the kids and ways to avoid falling into this trap
• How the BIFF style of communication is invaluable for parents going through divorce
• The importance of protecting yourself and your children emotionally

You can join Jill's facebook group for divorce support here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/separationanddivorcesupportcommunity.

or, find her on her website:

divorcecoachjill.com

As always you can find me on Instagram or by email or on my website nbdivorcecoaching.com.

A few weeks ago, Tamar came across an instagram post in which a woman sent a Venmo request to the woman who had an affair with her husband. In the memo, she explained that since this woman played a role in her divorce, the other woman should at least contribute to it financially. She hashtagged the memo with "homewrecker"

Click here for IG post.

This got Tamar thinking about accountability and who is actually responsible for the end of a marriage. Spoiler alert: it's not the woman who didn't take vows.

In this episode, Tamar:

• Breaks down the misogyny behind the concept of the homewrecker and why we need to stop using the word
• Looks at how the idea of "girl code" stays with women throughout their lives
• Focuses on the importance of holding men, and men alone, accountable for the actions of men
• Differentiates between being responsible for causing pain and being responsible for the status of a marriage.

Share your thought on this episode on Instagram or email Tamar at tamar@nbdivorcecoaching.com. Happy listening!

I am so excited to welcome Joelle Perez to the podcast to discuss mediation and why it's such a great option for people looking to end their marriages.

Joelle Perez is a compassionate and experienced divorce mediation attorney who serves as a neutral third party, helping clients reach mutually agreeable settlements with dignity and respect. Her mediation style is rooted in creating a safe, supportive environment that prioritizes the emotional and financial well-being of both spouses—and their children.

Having personally navigated divorce mediation, Joelle brings a unique and deeply empathetic perspective to her work. She understands firsthand the emotional challenges her clients face, which allows her to approach each case with sensitivity, insight, and a genuine commitment to helping families transition with care.

Joelle is the founder of Peacemaker Divorce Mediation, a practice dedicated to guiding clients through the divorce process in a cooperative, amicable, and cost-effective way. Her mission is to help individuals move forward with clarity, control, and compassion.

In addition to her private practice, Joelle is a leader in the field of divorce mediation. She is the Past President of the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation, the former Chair of the Council's Nominating Committee, and former Co-Chair of its Education Committee. She also serves as Program Manager for the Long Island Collaborative Divorce Professionals, working to advance collaborative approaches to family law.

On this week's installment of the New Beginning's podcast, Tamar welcomes Nanette Murphy to talk about Netflix's new show, Four Seasons.

A remake of a 1981 film of the same name, Four Seasons follows three couples in their 50s, all best friends since college, through one year of their lives -- as one of them decides he's ready to end his marriage and start a new chapter.

Tamar is thrilled to be joined by Nanette Murphy to unpack these characters and their stories.

Nanette Murphy is a dedicated Divorce and Life Reinvention Coach for women over 40, who understands the unique challenges that come with navigating life after divorce. Having experienced her own journey of healing and growth after a 25-year marriage, she has spent the last decade transforming her pain into purpose. Her mission is to empower women to prepare for the divorce process, gain essential knowledge, and ultimately thrive in their new lives. Nanette walks alongside her clients, offering support, guidance, and a compassionate ear as they heal, grow, and rediscover their true selves.

You can find Nanette at her website livelifenowwithpurpose.com.

As always you can find Tamar on instagram or threads @nbdivorcecoaching or on her website http://nbdivorcecoaching.com.