Forget about silver linings; midnight blue is where it's at. This week, Amy confronts her old habit of grasping for silver linings and considers a different, more nuanced approach (and color) along with lessons learned from life in a chronically ill body. Together, Lance and Amy discuss how they think about silver linings and how they find meaning when things seem to happen for no reason at all.

THE BUCKET FORMERLY KNOWN AS SILVER LININGS

“This sort of thing is old hat for me and I'm a huge silver linings person. I'm really just looking for help coping with my current condition and celebrating what I'm learning from it.”

And so began the latest in my decades-long series of relationships where I bare all of my most humiliating truths, the ugliest bits that make it hard for even me to face myself after revealing them. I have sometimes revealed these truths within mere minutes of first meeting said compadre and they STILL look me in the eye after I’ve divulged the unsightliness within me. They look with compassion even.

I'm talking about THERAPY. Said compadre is my THERAPIST. There, I said it.

Continues at ⁠https://amyblackstonephd.substack.com/p/the-bucket-formerly-known-as-silver⁠

CITED IN THIS EPISODE

1. Marishelle Lieberwerth and Alistair Niemeijer. “Lost and changed meaning in life of people with Long Covid: a qualitative study.” 2024. INTERNATIONAL JOURNAL OF QUALITATIVE STUDIES ON HEALTH AND WELL-BEING VOL. 19, 2289668 ⁠https://doi.org/10.1080/17482631.2023.2289668⁠
2. Anna M. Carapellotti, Hannie (J.E.M.) Meijerink, Christine Gravemaker-Scott, Lucia Thielman, Renée Kool, Natalie Lewin, and Tineke A. Abma. 2023. “Escape, expand, embrace: the transformational lived experience of rediscovering the self and the other while dancing with Parkinson’s or Multiple Sclerosis.” INTERNATIONAL JOURNAL OF QUALITATIVE STUDIES ON HEALTH AND WELL-BEING VOL. 18, 2143611 ⁠https://doi.org/10.1080/17482631.2022.2143611⁠

Amy is delivering a special form of torture to Lance this week and we're discussing all things Bravo. Bravo, Bravo, f'ing Bravo! Amy shares how the 'wives have helped her cope with the challenges of chronic illness and we consider the impact and possibilities of reality TV more broadly - all while enjoying some pink bubbly, in honor of the real housewives, of course.

HEALING WITH THE HOUSEWIVES

My name is Amy. I am a sociologist and I have a Ph.D. and I like to think I’m reasonably smart and I believe that wealth is distributed in ALL the wrong ways in my home country of the U.S. of A. I am a raging feminist and damn proud of it. I believe the propagation of MAGA beliefs is mostly the result of widespread inequality, abuse of power, corporate monopolization, and crippling fear.

And. Wait for it. I love Bravo. The network where wealth is flaunted in all the dumbest ways. The network whose roster of stars includes dingdongs who will charter four private planes to Puerto Rico to deliver $50 gift cards to the people, as long as they can catch it on camera. This IS a crisis, after all...

Continues at ⁠https://amyblackstonephd.substack.com/p/8c9f81f1-0049-449c-a10e-0a1a16e3d0b2⁠

CITED IN THIS EPISODE

Branco, Susan F. 2025. "Teaching while Streaming: Adult Adoptee Themes in the Real Housewives Reality Series." Family Journal 33(2):244-247. doi: ⁠Teaching While Streaming: Adult Adoptee Themes in The Real Housewives Reality Series - Susan F. Branco, 2025⁠ .

We, like so many of you, are sick and tired of our broken healthcare system in the United States of America. In this episode, Amy reads a piece expressing her despair over the state of it. We discuss how disempowering it can feel to be a patient in this system. And we consider how Luigi Mangione's 2024 shooting of United Healthcare CEO Brian Thompson reflects similar feelings of disempowerment and also a rising class consciousness in the United States. Finally, Lance SHOCKS Amy by quoting a sociologist to HER and we even manage to have a few laughs.

A PATIENT SANS PATIENCE

I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired

Sick and tired of medical forms and filings and faxes*

Sick and tired of bureaucracies and bureaucrats

Sick and tired of treating symptoms, never causes or cures

Sick and tired of pollyanna pundits and politicians

Sick and tired of systems and structures built by and for only the fortunate few

Sick and tired of the sick and tired system that got us here

Sick and tired of the sick and tired system that's keeping us here

Sick and tired of the sick and tired system that hasn't a clue or a care to get us out

*Does anyone else worry that an industry that's supposed to be cutting edge relies so heavily on faxes?

Originally posted at ⁠https://substack.com/@neverthelesspersisting/note/c-102724456⁠

CITED IN THIS EPISODE

1. Commonwealth Fund: ⁠https://apps.urban.org/features/wealth-inequality-charts/⁠
2. Thiele Strong, Megan. "Support for Luigi Mangione Reflects Working Class Weariness of Top-Down Violence," Common Dreams, December 28, 2024.
3. Turner, Bryan. 1992. Max Weber: From History to Modernity. New York: Routledge.
4. Urban Institute: ⁠https://apps.urban.org/features/wealth-inequality-charts/⁠