You can pass as “perfectly fine” all day and still be paying for it every evening. Ruby, a pharmacology student at Newcastle University, joins us for an honest fireside chat about living with a dual diagnosis of ADHD and autism while trying to study, work, and keep some energy left for being a person. We talk about what people miss when they only understand neurodiversity through stereotypes, and why looking capable can hide a serious daily cost.

Ruby walks us through her university journey, including leaving a course after repeated exam struggles, then later passing once she had an ADHD diagnosis, an autism diagnosis, and the right support in place. We get into the emotional weight of being labelled a “naughty child” at school, the long shadow that misunderstanding can cast, and how late diagnosis can be both a relief and a reset. There’s also a real-world look at UK access routes, from private assessment to NHS-funded pathways like Right to Choose, and what timely support can change.

We also go deep on ADHD medication experiences: how stimulants can boost focus but not choose the target, why side effects and sensory overload can spike, and why a non-stimulant option like atomoxetine can feel more sustainable. Along the way, Ruby breaks down masking, pattern recognition, friendships, and the guilt that shows up when you cannot “just push through” like everyone else seems to.

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