01:13 – How did we get into cars?

05:52 – UK Muslim Car Culture – Early days (1970s-2000s)

10:33 – UK Muslim Car Culture – 2000s – 2015 (continued at 24:47)

13:12 – Cars in Pakistan

14:28 – Our first cars

16:11 – Our current cars (2022)

19:38 – Our dream cars as kids

20:49 – Our dream cars now

22:05 – Mainstream shift – manufacturers killing off smaller cars

24:47 – UK Muslim Car Culture – 2015 – 2020s

29:21 – Has Social Status gone overdrive? People getting rejected for marriage because of their car

32:15 – What if someone brought a Tesla to a Rishta?

34:31 – Is PCP screwing people over?

36:26 – Why People would choose a Lamborghini over a McLaren? Or a Mercedes over a Lexus?

37:17 – Why so many Supercar owners don’t know how to drive them?

40:32 – What would be your car of choice for a Police Chase? Do UK Gangsters REALLY know about cars?

42:29 – Worst car for a Police chase? Dangers of centralised electric cars

43:41 – Why not electric cars right now?

44:14 – Do we judge people for the car they have?

46:29 – Wrap up

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William is a Sociology Researcher at the University of Warwick working on Muslim experiences in Europe and North America.Uzair works in Social Services and holds a degree in Political Science.

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01:18 - What we went through: abuse, divorce, rejection, isolation, threats, joblessness, homelessness, no money. What it caused us: anxiety, depression, PTSD, suicidal thoughts, Chronique Fatigue, Self esteem issues

08:36 - Holmes and Rahe: A Scale To measure how stressful events impact the body

12:14 - Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

14:50 - Mental Health and Trauma re Clinical conditions not choices. It can trigger physiological (bodily) conditions such as Irritable Bowel Syndrome, Fibroids, Migraines, Auto-Immune diseases, etc. Traumas are stressor events that the body and mind keep replaying even when they’re over.

19:24 – Processing Racism and Childhood traumas

20:59 – Does understanding abusers help? And knowing that it’s not our fault. Abusers are also very often victims.

22:52 – Vengeance

23:42 – Forgiving Abusers?

28:55 – Overcoming Depression: Friends, Storytelling and Music

35:01 – Overcoming Chronic Fatigue Syndrome: Hyper-Baric Oxygen Therapy (HBOT)

39:46 – PTSD and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing)

47:20 – Wrap Up

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William is a Sociology Researcher at the University of Warwick working on Muslim experiences in Europe and North America.Javayria works in Higher Education and has a History degree from SOAS in South Asian History

Other Links:Muslim Youth Helpine – Languages: English, Hindi, Somali, Arabic, Urdu, Punjabihttps://www.myh.org.uk/ Sakoon Islamic counselling serviceshttp://www.sakoon.co.uk/ Talking from the Heart by Maslaha – resources in Somali, Urdu, Begali/Sylheti for patients and practitioners. Excellent section with links to many local support groups.http://www.talkingfromtheheart.org/ MIND – Qur’an and Emotional Health Projecthttps://www.mind.org.uk/about-us/our-policy-work/equality-human-rights/our-work-with-muslim-communities/ Muslim Community Helplinehttp://muslimcommunityhelpline.org.uk/ Inspirited Minds – Muslim Communityhttps://inspiritedminds.org.uk/ Islamic Psychology Professional Association (IPPA)https://www.ippa.org.uk/

01:11 – Being in an abusive marriage

08:03 – Why I decided to stay in an abusive marriage

08:44 – Spotting Red Flags in a marriage

09:40 – Gaslighting

10:22 – Emotional Blackmail

10:52 – Narcissistic behaviour

11:04 – Hiding the Truth and Ambiguity

12:28 - What makes people dysfunctional: childhood trauma, lack of family support, etc.

16:49 – What did we do to ensure a healthy marriage?

20:48 – Knowing our weaknesses

22:32 – Challenges Part 1: Parents and In-Laws

28:36 – Challenged Part 2: Finances

33:53 – Avoiding Triggers and Resolving Arguments

37:20 – Rules for Arguments

41:46 – Seeking Help from elders and friends

43:05 – Interactions with the opposite Gender

45:11 – Being content with Imperfection

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William is a Sociology Researcher at the University of Warwick working on Muslim experiences in Europe and North America.Javayria works in Higher Education and has a History degree from SOAS in South Asian History

00:30 – What we thought was love

04:20 – Our present marriage compared to the past

06:27 – Conflict management

08:51 – How we understand love now

11:59 – Attraction and Spiritual connection: we have criteria but feeling affinity for each other could be inspiration from Allah

13:42 – Looking for partners and personal expectations

20:45 – Starting Marriage aware of our weaknesses

22:38 – Societal expectations: money, status, etc.

28:02 – When the other does things we don’t like

31:51 – Parents, in laws and wedding day

38:10 – UK Muslim Marriage crisis and Love literacy

46:31 – Being authentic in a world of fakes

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REFRENCESbell hooks, All about Love, 2000, HarperFull PDF here: https://wtf.tw/ref/hooks.pdf Mentioned hadiths about weddings:https://www.abuaminaelias.com/dailyhadithonline/2014/04/15/nikah-best-easy/ The most blessed marriage (nikah) is the one with the least expenses.” (al-Bayhaqi in his Shu'ab al-Iman & Mishkat al-Masabih

00:00 – With White Privilege Comes Great Responsibility: origin of the quote

04:47 – Racism is not just insults, it’s a SYSTEM

05:10 – It’s NOT ALL White people

05:39 – White Privilege in 30 seconds

06:10 – Intercultural Marriage; accepting a white husband as a Pakistani, and overcoming my parents’ racism and islamophobia

10:20 – Marriage Part 2: My mistakes

12:41 – Marriage Part 3: Using whiteness for my own gain?

14:36 – How did I realise I was privileged?

19:22 – How to understand racism: bell hooks’s model of domination

21:33 – How I was treated differently because not the “right” kind of white

24:18 – Using empathy to support others

30:47 – What if you’re white and poor?

32:05 – Working class white reverts vs Upper class white reverts

36:34 – Why do white reverts in France are not treated like demi-gods?

39:12 – Can white people be discriminated against?

39:50 – Are British Mosques “race temples”? Language barriers and white reverts suspected of being informants

44:08 – Decentering ourselves and working on the nafs

46:31 – People passing things for “jokes”

47:42 – What about keeping your culture as a white person?

49:06 – What about cultural appropriation?

50:11 – Credits where due and hiking a complex terrainSubscribe to my newsletter for Live conversations and events near you: https://william-barylo.kit.com/b11fac1fdc

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REFERENCESHadith about people withholding knowledgeSunan al-Tirmidhī 2649https://www.abuaminaelias.com/dailyhadithonline/2013/03/20/whoever-conceals-knowledge/bell hooks. 2004. The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity and Love, Washington: Washington Square Press.Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flockṢaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 7138, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1829https://www.abuaminaelias.com/dailyhadithonline/2011/07/03/shepherd-flock/

00:00 – This video is not sponsored by Pirelli

00:13 – Is more power more better?

01:30 – The problem with wanting power at any cost

09:39 – Does representation change anything? Discussing Mo Salah, Zidane, Riz Ahmed, Sadek Hamid, Abbas Zahedi and Hamja Ahsan

22:49 – Why do people still believe in representation?

27:22 – How to stay in check: Removing veils and slowing down

31:05 – Good examples

31:36 – Amatullah: how a group of young Muslim women organising soup kitchens turned an islamophobic city council into allies

33:56 – Rabiah Mali and the Rabbani Project: how a bunch of friends are sensibilising Muslims to the environment where big charities have failed

38:17 – Rumi’s Cave

40:00 – What can we do? Preventing harm and correcting people: techniquesIdeas about alternative ways of giving zakat

45:16 - Recap

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William is a Sociology Researcher at the University of Warwick working on Muslim experiences in Europe and North America.Javayria works in Higher Education and has a History degree from SOAS in South Asian History

REFERENCES:Sadek Hamid’s Academia page:https://oxford.academia.edu/DrSadekHamidAbbas Zahedihttps://abbzah.com/ Hamja AhsanDocumenta Fifteen: https://documenta-fifteen.de/en/lumbung-members-artists/hamja-ahsan/Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hamja_Ahsan Amatullahhttps://amatullah.fr/ Rabbani Project and Pearls of Islamhttps://www.therabbaniproject.com/ https://www.pearlsofislam.co.uk/about-us Rumi’s Cavehttps://www.rumis.org/ Young Muslim Change-Makers: Grassroots Charities Rethinking Modern Societies. London: Routledge, 2017https://www.routledge.com/Young-Muslim-Change-Makers-Grassroots-Charities-Rethinking-Modern-Societies/Barylo/p/book/9781138054158Bulhan, Hussein A. 2015. “Stages of Colonialism in Africa: From Occupation of Land to Occupation of Being,” Journal of Social and Political Psychology, 3(1): 239–56. “Neo-Liberal Not-For-Profits: The Embracing of Corporate Culture in European Muslim Charities,” Journal of Muslim Minority Affairs, Volume 36, number 3, August 2016, pp 383-398My presentation at Zaytuna:Muslims in the West: Embodying the Change – Zaytuna Collegehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfrCbsJDf-YThe Study about Mo Salah reducing IslamophobiaAlrababa'h, Ala', William Marble, Salma Mousa, and Alexandra A. Siegel. 2019. “Can Exposure to Celebrities Reduce Prejudice? the Effect of Mohamed Salah on Islamophobic Behaviors and Attitudes.” SocArXiv. May 31https://osf.io/preprints/socarxiv/eq8ca/

00:00 – Intro

00:49 – Being privileged doesn’t make you immune

02:35 – if you find yourself in an environment in which you beg for validation

04:30 – Javayria about Code Switching

06:38 – Using power to include others

07:40 – Metacolonialism: when code-switching becomes permanent

12:32 – Extravert vs Intravert

16:15 – How I got manipulated to give someone £3,000 to be accepted

18:31 – Confidence vs Arrogance and why arrogance gets people ahead

20:02 – Blending and staying safe vs being yourself and filtering out people?

22:01 – What about Muslims working in structures that openly practice racism?

23:43 – What is considered as “normal” is changing: how IQ became obsolete

25:28 – People we seek validation from also seek validation, and create harmful spaces

27:00 - How to tell the difference between someone solid and someone who’s hot air?

29:55 - Three Cs: Compassion, Critical Thinking and Commitment.

32:43 - The most beautiful people are those who overcome the most difficult things in life

36:33 - How not to wake up when you’re 40 and realise you’ve wasted your life

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William is a Sociology Researcher at the University of Warwick working on Muslim experiences in Europe and North America.Javayria works in Higher Education and has a History degree from SOAS in South Asian History

REFERENCESBulhan, Hussein A. 2015. “Stages of Colonialism in Africa: From Occupation of Land to Occupation of Being,” Journal of Social and Political Psychology, 3(1): 239–56.Friedman, Sam, and Daniel Laurison. The Class Ceiling : Why it Pays to be Privileged, Bristol Policy Press, 2019.

00:00 – Intro

02:07 – How we were taught Islam

16:27 – Why people leave the religion

17:22 – Why people are two-faced?

23:43 – What are the causes of mislearning?

- South Asian Culture?- Salafism?- British Culture?

30:14 – What if Islam was taught chronologically?

35:47 - RecapSubscribe to my newsletter for Live conversations and events near you: https://william-barylo.kit.com/b11fac1fdc WHO ARE WE?

William is a Sociology Researcher at the University of Warwick working on Muslim experiences in Europe and North America.Javayria works in Higher Education and has a History degree from SOAS in South Asian HistoryREFERENCES

Hadith about the cathttps://sunnah.com/bukhari:2365

Moving in and Out of Islam, edited by Karin van Nieuwkerk, University of Texas Press 2018https://utpress.utexas.edu/books/van-nieuwkerk-moving-in-and-out-of-islam

Young, Muslim and Criminal by Mohammed Qasim, Bristol University Press, 2018https://policy.bristoluniversitypress.co.uk/young-muslim-and-criminal

MBS about how the funding of mosques and madrassas was seen by the US as a defense against the Russians and Iran during the Cold Warhttps://www.washingtonpost.com/world/national-security/saudi-prince-denies-kushner-is-in-his-pocket/2018/03/22/701a9c9e-2e22-11e8-8688-e053ba58f1e4_story.html

https://moderndiplomacy.eu/2018/04/19/the-saudi-export-of-ultra-conservatism-in-the-era-of-mbs-an-update/

https://www.newsclick.in/saudi-crown-prince-america-asked-us-spread-ideology-isis