01:13 – How did we get into cars?

05:52 – UK Muslim Car Culture – Early days (1970s-2000s)

10:33 – UK Muslim Car Culture – 2000s – 2015 (continued at 24:47)

13:12 – Cars in Pakistan

14:28 – Our first cars

16:11 – Our current cars (2022)

19:38 – Our dream cars as kids

20:49 – Our dream cars now

22:05 – Mainstream shift – manufacturers killing off smaller cars

24:47 – UK Muslim Car Culture – 2015 – 2020s

29:21 – Has Social Status gone overdrive? People getting rejected for marriage because of their car

32:15 – What if someone brought a Tesla to a Rishta?

34:31 – Is PCP screwing people over?

36:26 – Why People would choose a Lamborghini over a McLaren? Or a Mercedes over a Lexus?

37:17 – Why so many Supercar owners don’t know how to drive them?

40:32 – What would be your car of choice for a Police Chase? Do UK Gangsters REALLY know about cars?

42:29 – Worst car for a Police chase? Dangers of centralised electric cars

43:41 – Why not electric cars right now?

44:14 – Do we judge people for the car they have?

46:29 – Wrap up

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WHO ARE WE?

William is a Sociology Researcher at the University of Warwick working on Muslim experiences in Europe and North America.Uzair works in Social Services and holds a degree in Political Science.

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01:18 - What we went through: abuse, divorce, rejection, isolation, threats, joblessness, homelessness, no money. What it caused us: anxiety, depression, PTSD, suicidal thoughts, Chronique Fatigue, Self esteem issues

08:36 - Holmes and Rahe: A Scale To measure how stressful events impact the body

12:14 - Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

14:50 - Mental Health and Trauma re Clinical conditions not choices. It can trigger physiological (bodily) conditions such as Irritable Bowel Syndrome, Fibroids, Migraines, Auto-Immune diseases, etc. Traumas are stressor events that the body and mind keep replaying even when they’re over.

19:24 – Processing Racism and Childhood traumas

20:59 – Does understanding abusers help? And knowing that it’s not our fault. Abusers are also very often victims.

22:52 – Vengeance

23:42 – Forgiving Abusers?

28:55 – Overcoming Depression: Friends, Storytelling and Music

35:01 – Overcoming Chronic Fatigue Syndrome: Hyper-Baric Oxygen Therapy (HBOT)

39:46 – PTSD and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing)

47:20 – Wrap Up

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WHO ARE WE?

William is a Sociology Researcher at the University of Warwick working on Muslim experiences in Europe and North America.Javayria works in Higher Education and has a History degree from SOAS in South Asian History

Other Links:Muslim Youth Helpine – Languages: English, Hindi, Somali, Arabic, Urdu, Punjabihttps://www.myh.org.uk/ Sakoon Islamic counselling serviceshttp://www.sakoon.co.uk/ Talking from the Heart by Maslaha – resources in Somali, Urdu, Begali/Sylheti for patients and practitioners. Excellent section with links to many local support groups.http://www.talkingfromtheheart.org/ MIND – Qur’an and Emotional Health Projecthttps://www.mind.org.uk/about-us/our-policy-work/equality-human-rights/our-work-with-muslim-communities/ Muslim Community Helplinehttp://muslimcommunityhelpline.org.uk/ Inspirited Minds – Muslim Communityhttps://inspiritedminds.org.uk/ Islamic Psychology Professional Association (IPPA)https://www.ippa.org.uk/

01:11 – Being in an abusive marriage

08:03 – Why I decided to stay in an abusive marriage

08:44 – Spotting Red Flags in a marriage

09:40 – Gaslighting

10:22 – Emotional Blackmail

10:52 – Narcissistic behaviour

11:04 – Hiding the Truth and Ambiguity

12:28 - What makes people dysfunctional: childhood trauma, lack of family support, etc.

16:49 – What did we do to ensure a healthy marriage?

20:48 – Knowing our weaknesses

22:32 – Challenges Part 1: Parents and In-Laws

28:36 – Challenged Part 2: Finances

33:53 – Avoiding Triggers and Resolving Arguments

37:20 – Rules for Arguments

41:46 – Seeking Help from elders and friends

43:05 – Interactions with the opposite Gender

45:11 – Being content with Imperfection

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WHO ARE WE?

William is a Sociology Researcher at the University of Warwick working on Muslim experiences in Europe and North America.Javayria works in Higher Education and has a History degree from SOAS in South Asian History