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  • You Can't Un-Ring the Bell: Criminal Defense Attorney Ben Jacob on Lindsay Clancy, Memory and Courtroom Strategy

    You Can't Un-Ring the Bell: Criminal Defense Attorney Ben Jacob on Lindsay Clancy, Memory and Courtroom Strategy
    2026/09/03
    Lindsay Clancy's jury is deadlocked, and criminal defense attorney Ben Jacob dreads a hung jury more than a guilty verdict. Content note: this conversation includes discussion of the killing of children, postpartum psychosis, and suicidal ideation. Tony sat down with Ben Jacob, a criminal defense attorney he's known for years, and they used the Clancy case as a muse rather than a recap. What came out of it is the part of a trial most of us never get to see from the outside, the chess match running between the prosecution and the defense, and what happens to a jury's memory across five weeks of testimony. If you've followed a case online and wondered what the attorneys are actually doing in there, this one fills in a lot of blanks. In this episode: Hear why an opening statement works like a promise, and what a jury does when the evidence they were promised never shows up Follow the calculation behind a mistrial motion, including why asking for one while your trial is going well can hand the other side a rough draft Track how a memory bends with every retelling, from eyewitness testimony to Ben's own Mandela effect run-in with a wrestler named Hercules Sit with the mental health thread under this case, including the ideation-versus-plan gate that can leave someone calibrating an answer instead of asking for help Put Occam's razor up against the conspiracy theories that grow around a high profile trial Tony is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 20 years of clinical experience, and Ben has built his career in criminal defense in Northern California, murder trials included. Ben has agreed to come back, so if something here raises a question, send it in and Tony will pass it along. Please follow Tony on Instagram @virtual.couch on Tiktok @virtualcouch on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tonyoverbaylmft and on Substack https://thevirtualcouch.substack.com/ You can reach out to Tony through his website tonyoverbay.com or by emailing contact @ tonyoverbay.com
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    1 時間 7 分
  • “Killed Them All, Of Course": The Mind of Robert Durst w/Attorney Kate

    “Killed Them All, Of Course": The Mind of Robert Durst w/Attorney Kate
    2026/08/06
    Content warning: This episode includes discussion of homicide, dismemberment, and domestic violence. Listener discretion advised. Robert Durst confessed on a hot mic — but the real story is watching a man confabulate in real time, for decades, and nearly get away with it. In the first-ever Murder on the Couch guest episode, Tony is joined by his friend Kate, a civil attorney and lifelong true crime devotee, to break down the case behind HBO's The Jinx. Kate presents the case — the 1982 disappearance of Kathie Durst, the murder of Susan Berman, the Morris Black acquittal that still defies belief — while Tony reacts in real time with the psychology underneath it all: confabulation, childhood adaptations, and what actually happens when someone is finally confronted with a lie they can't tap-dance out of. In this episode, you'll discover: Why memory is "adorable and fallible" — and how the legal system's hierarchy of evidence accounts for exactly that How Durst's defense team built reasonable doubt around an admitted dismemberment (and why the missing evidence mattered more than the conceded facts) The difference between psychopathy and sociopathy — nature vs. nurture, charm vs. rage, and why nonviolent sociopaths walk among us What a masterful cross-examination and an eight-hour couples intensive have in common: staying with someone's discomfort until the adaptation collapses Why breakthroughs so often have a "shelf life" — and what it takes for real change to stick Tony Overbay is a licensed marriage and family therapist who has spent decades watching people confabulate, deflect, and defend in real time — just usually not on the witness stand. If you've ever watched someone rewrite reality right in front of you and wondered how they believe their own story, this episode is for you. Please follow Tony on Instagram @virtual.couch on Tiktok @virtualcouch on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tonyoverbaylmft and on Substack https://thevirtualcouch.substack.com/ You can reach out to Tony through his website tonyoverbay.com or by emailing contact @ tonyoverbay.com
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    1 時間 31 分
  • John List: A Sunday School Teacher and the Psychology of Shame

    John List: A Sunday School Teacher and the Psychology of Shame
    2026/06/02
    John List killed his wife, his mother, and his three children—then walked away convinced God would understand. Murder on the Couch is back. Licensed therapist Tony Overbay reopens one of true crime's most chilling family annihilation cases, but not for the manhunt or the famous 18 years List spent hiding in plain sight as "Bob Clark." Tony sits with the question that actually keeps him up at night: how does a devout, rule-following Sunday school teacher reach a place where murder becomes, in his own mind, the most loving thing he could do? If you've ever performed "fine" while something was quietly falling apart inside you, this one lands closer to home than you'd expect. In this episode: Untangle guilt ("I did something bad") from shame ("I am bad")—and why shame left in the dark only grows heavier Spot the "altruistic defense": how control and harm get repackaged as love, devotion, and protection See how rigidity, compartmentalization, and a performed self can hollow a person out long before any crisis hits Learn the ACT distinction between the conceptualized self (the story) and the observing self (the awareness)—and why List had no one home to catch him when the story collapsed Drawing on acceptance and commitment therapy, David Schnarch's work on differentiation, and Richard Rohr's reframe of shame, Tony brings 600-plus episodes of clinical insight to the cases that won't let him go. Shame grows in concealment and shrinks in connection. And Tony's looking for a co-host—if a case has gotten under your skin and you know why, email contact@tonyoverbay.com and pitch it. Please follow Tony on Instagram @virtual.couch on Tiktok @virtualcouch on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tonyoverbaylmft and on Substack https://thevirtualcouch.substack.com/ You can reach out to Tony through his website tonyoverbay.com or by emailing contact @ tonyoverbay.com
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    55 分
  • Did He CHEAT, or Did I Catch an STD From a KOALA? Reddit Reads #1

    Did He CHEAT, or Did I Catch an STD From a KOALA? Reddit Reads #1
    2023/10/26
    This is our first episode of a new series reacting to Reddit posts with me, Sydney Overbay, and my dad, Tony Overbay, a licensed marriage and family therapist! We’ll be reacting to multiple stories of all different genres, from relationship advice to sh**ing your pants on the freeway. Subscribe to see new episodes! We’re also available on Apple and Spotify. Have a good day! You can watch the episode on YouTube at https://youtu.be/QuNZryxUA3g Here's the breakdown of chapters and topics: 0:00 (Intro) 4:35 (1: Spilled BF's chili) 29:34 (2: DNA test reveals mom is lying about my father) 45:00 (3: Did he cheat, or did I catch an STD from a koala?)
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    1 時間 13 分
  • Murderer Escapes Prison: Danilo Cavalcante *ON CAMERA*

    Murderer Escapes Prison: Danilo Cavalcante *ON CAMERA*
    2023/09/29
    Just last month, on August 31, 2023, Danilo Cavalcante escaped the Chester County Prison in Pennsylvania after being charged with the first-degree murder of his ex-girlfriend using a butterknife. An interview with his mother about his childhood and word on the streets allege that this may not be his only murder as he allegedly came to America to escape Brazilian law. Today, we’ll discuss his alleged crimes, childhood, escape from prison, two chaotic weeks on the run (with so many creepy sightings), and finally, his recapturing on September 14th, with input from Sydney Overbay, CD (college dropout) and her father Tony Overbay, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist. Sending love and positivity to the families and friends of the victims and anyone who was hurt or affected by Danilo’s crimes. You can watch this episode on YouTube at https://youtu.be/U3NO4ftF9Ik Sources: Crab Walk CCTV Footage: https://www.post-gazette.com/news/crime-courts/2023/09/07/escaped-pennsylvania-murderer-prisoner-crab-walk-chester-cavalcante/stories/202309070109 Mother's Interview: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/12/us/danelo-cavalcante-mother-pennsylvania-fugitive.html Deborah's Sister Sarah's Interview: https://www.cnn.com/2023/09/07/us/deborah-brandao-danelo-cavalcante-girlfriend/index.html https://www.inquirer.com/news/pennsylvania/live/danelo-cavalcante-escape-updates-chester-county-prison-20230912.html https://www.nbcphiladelphia.com/news/local/manhunt-for-danelo-cavalcante-a-timeline-of-events/3642480/ https://www.dailylocal.com/2023/09/12/who-is-danelo-cavalcante-what-we-know-about-escaped-killer/
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  • Murder or Mercy? The Complicated Truth of Gypsy Rose Blanchard

    Murder or Mercy? The Complicated Truth of Gypsy Rose Blanchard
    2023/05/23
    In this episode, we delve deep into the twisted narrative of Gypsy Rose Blanchard, a young woman who was the centerpiece of a true crime story that shook America to its core. As a victim of Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome (MBPS), Gypsy's life was a chaotic and harrowing tale of deceit, love, manipulation, and, ultimately, murder. Join Sydney Overbay and her father, Tony Overbay, LMFT, as they explore the complex psychological elements of this case and discuss the unexpected plot twists that left everyone stunned.
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    1 時間 7 分
  • The Stalking of Tatiana Tarasoff

    The Stalking of Tatiana Tarasoff
    2023/05/09
    Sydney and Tony discuss the landmark case of Tarasoff v. Regents of the University of California. The California Supreme Court ruled that mental health professionals have a duty to protect potential victims when their patients pose a serious threat of violence. The case arose from the tragic murder of Tatiana Tarasoff, a former university counseling center patient killed. Despite warnings from one of the center's therapists that the patient posed a serious threat to Tarasoff, the center did not take action to warn or protect her. The court's decision established a legal precedent that has had far-reaching implications for the practice of mental health and the protection of public safety.
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    48 分
  • The Disappearance and Dismemberment of Abby Choi

    The Disappearance and Dismemberment of Abby Choi
    2023/05/02
    Abby Choi, a model, influencer, and mother of four, was discovered just last February, cooked into a pot of soup at the hands of her very own relatives. Sydney Overbay, CD (College Dropout), and Tony Overbay, LMFT (licensed marriage and family therapist), will break down what we know about the case along with a therapist's take on what potentially could have been going on in the minds, and lives of those who took her life. Here are the links to the articles referenced: https://news.ltn.com.tw/news/world/breakingnews/4222723 https://waupost.com/from-rape-allegations-to-scams-heres-all-you-need-to-know-about-the-abby-choi-murder-those-involved/ https://www.thestandard.com.hk/sections-news-print/250180/Family-and-friends-pour-hearts-out-for-the-ever-loving-Abby https://www.independent.co.uk/asia/china/abby-choi-hong-kong-model-killed-alex-kwong-kong-chi-b2294710.html https://www.insideedition.com/murder-of-abby-choi-7th-person-arrested-in-connection-with-horrific-dismemberment-of-model-80182
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    1 時間 10 分