In this episode, we meet Stephanie, also known as Vayda. She opens up about her journey—from working as a prison guard to becoming a prison wife—and the stigma that comes with it. We talk about how she met her husband inside the prison system, the misconceptions people have, and what it’s really like to stand by someone incarcerated.
Stephanie didn't always have an easy life and she has chosen to share her story in her new book "From Ashes to Love: Learning to Trust Again". You won't believe the strength and resilience this woman has developed after learning her story and reading this book.
Stephanie shares the story of her husband, how just 36 hours after returning from war in Iraq, an altercation led to him eventually being charged with felony murder and given a life sentence despite so little involvement. The tragedy is made even heavier knowing the victim was also a fellow veteran. She walks us through the complicated emotions surrounding his case and how it shaped his life ever since.
We also dive into the Georgia Parole Board, where Stephanie highlights a broken system—men and women serving life with parole sentences being denied release for decades, often with spotless records, because of phrases like “nature of the crime” or “not enough time served.” With some people sitting 30+ years without a single misconduct report, she’s now advocating for real parole opportunities for those who’ve proven they won’t return to prison.
This is an eye-opening conversation about love, resilience, and the fight for second chances.
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