Today, Lisa (27) asks our girlies how to stop feeling left behind. While all her friends are in the getting-married-and-buying-houses stage of life, she’s…not. Steph and Mel dive right into this familiar topic, with Mel tackling the dreaded “compare and despair” and Steph sharing why Oscar season can bring on the blues for her. And have you heard about the hedonic treadmill?! Plus:That one time Steph cried in Rosa's wedding dress on the set of Brooklyn Nine-Nine thinking she'd never get married IRL (married Brad at 38, had Roz at 40!). TLDR: There are no rules, there are no timelines, and we're all gonna die.

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Welcome back! Tune in today as pod listener Leanne from Singapore asks: “What is your PERFECT bag?” Spoiler alert… it doesn't exist. As Steph so eloquently puts it — it's like searching for the Ark of the Covenant out here. Nevertheless, this week Steph and Mel dive into their bag dos and don’ts. From Steph's trendsetting gingham smiley face tote in high school to Melissa's 2004 Coach bag (Now considered vintage. TF?!), Latine superstitions about bags on the ground (controversial take ahead) and the joy of pockets and keychain hooks. Featuring: Living on the edge by putting open, full coffee mugs in totes, a genius safety pin hack for storing jewelry and why backpacks make Steph feel like the little turtle in Robin Hood. Plus, a thrilling “What’s in your bag?” reveal.

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Welcome back!! Look over here!! This week, Stephanie and Melissa dive into the art of observing. And it is an ~art~. People watching, eavesdropping, reading the room. This all takes skill and practice — and our girls? They're experts. Tune in to hear why Steph's favorite spot to people watch is the TSA line (where people might possibly show their truest selves) and Melissa confesses her staring problem. Featuring: Accidentally staring at Rami Malek's crotch on set, the sacred Parisian art of flaneurie and a thespian inquiry into Julie Louis-Dreyfus's Little Kicks. See you on the promenade!

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Come on in and have a seat! Cute outfit! Can we take your coat? This week, Stephanie and Melissa dive into the wild world of Going Out to Eat. On the menu today: Steph's first Big Restaurant Memory (unlimited shirley temples at the Flying Dutchman in Texas, hello?!) and grand tales from Melissa's Sizzler Phase when she'd eat anyone under the table. Plus — the ladies open up about the intricacies of the LA food scene and the skill needed to eat a whole fish. (Mel's very Cuban mom will only leave an eyeball, props.) Afters at Olive Garden! First breadstick's on us.

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At the risk of too many feels and future tripping, the ladies tackle Nostalgia this week. Ah, nostalgia — the bittersweet art of looking back. First, Stephanie opens up about her meticulous ephemera box and why it makes her cry, then Melissa shares about Brooklyn blooper reels, finally and they both reminisce about Stephanie's wedding day. Plus! The neurological power of music in youths and five tips to buck up and transform yearning into hope! Ugh, we miss this episode already!!!!

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Welcome back to More Better! This week, Stephanie and Melissa tackle………………………….waiting. From passive waiting — (traffic (ugh), lines (UGH) — to active waiting — contracts (chop chop!), jury verdicts (she’s innocent, your honor) — to the torturous ambiguous kind — (when will my reflection show who I am inside?). Steph shares her new practice of putting her phone down to be present, while Melissa explains long shipping times to her son, like the olden times. Featuring: leaning boards and corset dress nightmares, napping like a vampire on set, Victorian patience vs. Amazon instant gratification, racing raindrops on bus windows and the whimsy of hand-written letters.

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Welcome back to More Better! This week, Stephanie and Melissa tackle the art of saying no: from people-pleasing tendencies to pregnancy as the ultimate excuse. Melissa opens up about how she learned to say NO by watching Steph during the Brooklyn Nine-Nine years ("You can just say that?!"), while Steph reveals her ancestors' low-key panic about her daughter going skiing (absolutely not). Featuring: teaching your kids to use you as the fall guy, polite lying as a valid boundary tool, a thrilling round of guilt-o-meter roulette, gaggles of girls that aren't your gaggle and Steph’s groundbreaking theory that West Coast snow is soft while East Coast snow is hard, just like their people. Ooooo. Ahhhhh.

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When listener Lucia asks the ladies for thoughts on nightmares, sleepwalking and building a better bedtime routine this week, Steph and Mel have a lot to say. Melissa opens up about her childhood sleepwalking hijinks watching cartoons at 3 a.m. and shares about her son Enzo's more recent night terrors. What works for them? Cold rooms, weighted blankets and image rehearsal therapy, dream-world machete in hand. Also, Steph shares about her secret sleep weapon — Tony's Sleepy Cocktail and why she prefers it over melatonin (heinous dreams alert!). Plus: why we should maybe get back into the medieval habit of biphasic sleep (two sleeps per night!!!! the dream!! literally!!!!).

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