You've cooked her meals, cleaned up after her, even taken her to get her nails done, and then out of nowhere, she accuses you of stealing her jewelry. If you've ever stood there thinking "what is happening right now," this episode is going to explain exactly what's going on in her brain, and why it's not personal.

This week, Tina Rains, RN CALA, and Melinda Lee Foster get into one of the most painful and confusing parts of dementia caregiving: false accusations of theft. They share real stories, from missing wedding photos to rosaries hidden in underwear drawers and break down why dementia causes this, how to respond in the moment without escalating it, and how to protect yourself and any caregiver you hire from getting blamed unfairly.

If your parent has ever accused you (or someone caring for them) of stealing, and you didn't know whether to argue, cry, or just walk away, this episode was made for you.

💬 Topics Covered:

. Why dementia causes people to believe things are being "stolen" from them
. The real reason arguing or defending yourself only makes it worse
. A simple language technique, validate, partner, redirect — that calms accusations fast
. Why gentle touch can de-escalate a paranoid or agitated moment
. Practical steps to protect a hired caregiver from false theft accusations
. When to suspect something else (UTI, medication, dehydration) is behind sudden new behavior
. How to be proactive instead of reactive before the next accusation happens

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Tina Rains, RN CALA
Melinda Lee Foster

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